S.G.
TALK WITH HER!!! My 2 year old daughter whines as well...throws tantrums too. it is part of being 2 and exercising their voices and emotions. They have to be taught what is appropriate. I tell her that I don;t respond to whining or demanding and to use her normal voice. She knows what normal is and we talk about inside voice vs outside voice. When she realizes that I am serious she will talk in her "normal" voice and I immediately respond. She looks so pleased with herself. Also on the tantrums I tell her to use her words...she has enough words in her vocabulary to generally put together what is bothering her. A tantrum is their way of communicating dislike, anger, defiance...try to work with her on it. If she feels that you are understanding what she is upset about...the need for the tantrum goes out the window. USUALLY!!! This has been my experience...I talk to her a lot...so she knows using her words is the best way for me, dad, grandma, etc to respond. Remember they are not born knowing this stuff...that is why us mommies are so important.