Baby Too Friendly?

My baby is this way too. Just be happy. Trust me! I have fiends who's children cry at the site of another person. it makes visits and shopping horrible!

We're the lucky ones! And don't worry someday you can teach her stranger danger, but you shouldn't be concerned about that until she's old enough to escape you.

Ummm... let me get this straight...

You actually WANT your baby to be whiney, throw tantrums, clingy, slow to warm up, & unhappy?

There is nothing wrong with a friendly baby. My DD has always been friendly. Once on a flight this woman came up to me and told me she was "socially gifted, really I know, I'm a professional." Okay, lady whatever. But people have always asked me, "is she always this happy?!" I think it is something to say, and they probably appreciate a responsive baby instead of a grumpy, crying one. Don't worry.

She is still friendly at 3.5 but she isn't going up to people she doesn't know and walking away or anything. If you are concerned that she will be unnaturally friendly as she gets bigger, don't be, there's no reason to think that. She may get shy, or she may stay friendly but you will teach her boundaries. A GREAT book about kids, strangers and all that is "Protecting the Gift" by Gavin de Becker. All parents should read it, really helpful.

I am just so thankful that my DD isn't the painfully shy child I was. You really don't have control over what personality she will have, certainly if she has issues you can try to help her with them, but it would be a mistake to try to make her someone she is not. So yes, let her be Miss Personality if that is who she is.

As for passing her around, if she is comfortable, there is no reason to not let people you know hold her. If she is not happy, well then keep her to yourself, there is no need to force these things. If he's passing her around to strangers, obviously that is weird. And if she gets to a point of not being comfy with others, then you should respect that. They have normal phases of that. Sounds like you might be over-thinking things.

I'm not sure why you would want her to be unfriendly? No offense here, but that seems a little odd to want an unfriendly baby. I believe you should let her natural personality shine through, and if her natural personality is unfriendly, then fine, but to make her unfriendly? Also, what's the big deal with people holding her? If she's used to only you, then you are going to have one super glingy toddler on your hands in a couple of years. I'm guessing you are a first time mom. Relax a bit and let others enjoy her, you'll be glad you did.

I can't really understand what your question is. Are you concerned that she be passed around to much? You can control that. Be happy you have a baby that gets along with most people - it makes it easier where babysitting is concerned.

Some children are naturally more at ease and more social than others. My son is one of them. Yes, I'll teach him stranger danger, and to trust his gut with people - because strangers aren't the only people that can be harmful. But I'm not going to stifle his personality or teach him to be fearful.

I think the bigger question is why are YOU concerned that she is a friendly baby? Once you understand that, you'll feel better.

If your concern is when she gets older she might be too trusting of strangers because she is friendly, I wouldn't worry. If that is your concern when she is old enough to understand you just explain what strangers are. I am not sure how old your baby is though. My baby was super friendly until she hit about 1, then she started to get shy around people, and only wanted mommy. Your child just may be going through that phase where everyone is interetsing, and wants to smile and laugh and point at everyone. That phase may last forever or it may end. If i were you I would pray it lasts LOL.

I'm not sure you are concerned with. Having a friendly baby is good. My DD likes everyone, smiles, waves etc but she won't be held by everyone only by people she knows. People hold out their arms to her and she will tuck hers in and walk away. I wouldn't pass her around to other people but then again I'm a germaphobe and had a preemie.

I know this is old, but I don't get why so many people don't understand the question... To me, it's a concern of if baby is going to be too friendly to the wrong people. My 1 yr old will go up and hug strangers and it really concerns me. I'm always close to her and can stop things from happening (i think) but I'll always be worried that she'll be a target because she's so friendly.

I don't think I really understand your question. Even after your edit. She sounds young, and I can't think of a single reason to want to "make her unfriendly".

If you don't want strangers holding your baby, you are in your rights to say no. (I never had a single stranger or almost stranger ask to hold my baby, and I live in the "friendly" south. Is that really something you've run into a lot?) If she gets fussy for a few people, take her back.

It's a compliment when people tell you she is friendly, and it is nice to be around babies that are outgoing and not clingy. I think that is all people mean when they tell you she is friendly. A shy, withdrawn child is not something that people respond to. An outgoing personality will do nothing but serve her well in her life. Definitely don't stifle that in her.

I think people just mean that she's happy and smiling. Trust me, you want that! My baby is JUST getting to the stage where she can be passed around. I love it. Honestly. It's nice when we're at a family gathering and I can hand her to someone else and have a few minutes to myself, even if it's just to go to the bathroom. Soon enough you'll be dealing separation anxiety, tantrum when you turn your back, and all kinds of other fun stuff.

That is normal, but I would not encourage everyone holding her and pass around.