Back Again and Need Another Opinion

my cousin is an RN & worked the wkend shift for many years so she could participate in her kids daily lives.....at school, religion school, & sports. Her situation was somewhat different.....she had a DH to rely upon for the wkend care. She loved her shift.....& then was even luckier when she nabbed a job as a school RN. It provided her with the exact same school schedule as her own children...& all were happy then!

I would take the weekend only position, myself.

I homeschool our six kids, and I HATE having to be ANYWHERE on the weekends. Almost everywhere we go, we do it in the daytime on a weekday, because it avoids crowds.

Plus, you'll be working less hours, less days, and you'll have more time to be home with your children. AND if you end up needing childcare, you'll still need it for less days, which should end up being less money, even if you have weekend rates.

If it was my choice I would pick the weekends option. You would be home every night with your girls. Your husband (soon to be ex) would probably be awarded some weekend custody so you wouldn't have much time with them on Sat-Sun anyhow. This way you could maximize time with your kids and get full benefits and better pay. The rest of the world is Mon-Fri 9 to 5 so you would be off to do appointments, take the cars for inspections, all those myriad activities that are much more of a pain on the weekends. Just my opinion.

Weekends are considered "family/fun time" because that's when most people have family/fun time. Having your family/fun time on a Tuesday is only different when you're looking at a calendar.

I would go with the weekend only position. It sounds like an incredible opportunity! If dad won't take them every weekend, is there a friend or neighbor who could look after them? Or what about grandma or an aunt/uncle? As far as never having a weekend off, yeah, that would suck. BUT, if there was truly an emergency I'm sure that you could get someone to cover your shifts. Does full time benefits include vacation time? If so, then you'll at least have a couple weekends a year off to spend with your kids :)

You have to sit and crunch the numbers. $9 more than $7 per hour or $9 more than $20 per hour is a big difference!
As for the never having a weekend "off" yeah BUT you'll be home more days than you're at work, which is a good thing--IF the money works. Do you have a back up plan for the weekends he won't have them? If so--I say the weekend job.

Well if Hubby has them every other weekend then thats only 2 weekends you are missing with the girls... but think when they are in shcool and all the fun school things they do and their school parties and shows and other events. I find for us there is alot more need for mom during the weekday then the weekend. I would totally take the weekend position if I was in your situation.

If I could afford to, I would take the weekend position! That gives you 5 days a week to spend with your kids!! Who cares about the weekend, you can do stuff during the week with them when places are less crowded ~

I have a nurse friend who works weekends only, she likes it bc she is home with her daughter all week long. The only consideration will be that if you have to pay for weekend childcare, it may cost more, but then dad should be coughing up some child support, so that might be just fine. You could make thurs and fri your "weekend" with the girls. Plenty of people throw bday parties on Fridays, I think since you have Friday off, you will still be able to do a lot of great stuff with your girls. As they get older and don't need as much direct care from you, you can get a different schedule. The only other thing to think on is if they are in Ballet etc, they may have recitals etc, is this a job where a trade is possible if necessary? Just something to think on, but I personally think it sounds awesome bc you will overall get so much more time with them. I think I might jump on something like that. Good luck!!

I worked in retail and worked most weekends. The good thing was days off during the week. Easier to get errands done and vacation spots or day trip places are not as busy on Monday or Tuesday as the are on weekends. You can schedule doctor and dental appointments without having to take time off. Bummer part -- most of your friends are off on weekends and it's harder to do get togethers. But until the kids start school it might be the better option.

My husband works Fri-Sun 6am-630 pm. Stinks for some family occasions, birthday parties, Mother/Father's Day, etc but he's still home every night and is at home with the kids Mon-Thurs. I do not think it's a huge deal as long as you have care for them while you are at work.

I would take a weekend position for a time. Nothing has to last forever and this may be the most beneficial to you at this point because it means no childcare and also additional money because of the shift differential. You would be available for the girls during the week and able to do lots of things. You'll accrue some vacation which if necessary you can use for an all important occasion when you might have to have off on a weekend.

You would still be home early enough to spend some quality time with the girls and get them into bed.

My hubby is off on Sundays and Mondays and while there are a lot of fun things we don't get to do on Saturdays, there's a lot of great things about having a weekday off...such as not having to take off work to go to the dr and having places like museums, the beach, the mall, parks ect not as busy when we go. We love it!

If it were me I would go for the weekends, that would leave you plenty of time to spend with your kids during the week. You could always be looking for something else with a different shift that would work better meanwhile you would still have a job with benefits. Those long shifts may take a toll after a while and you may want something else.

Good luck!

The weekend shift sounds like an wonderful option for your kids. You asked if it was really that important to never have a weekend off. That isn't what is important. The question you should be asking is "What is the best thing for my kids?" What would allow you the most time with your kids? Take that weekend job before someone else gets it. Make the child custody work so that your husband has the kids every weekend. That would be so much easier than having to find childcare on some weekends. Your kids will benefit from seeing their dad more often, too.

it actually sounds better that way you can have the parks, shopping, vacations, roads almost to yourself.

Had a friend who did for YEARS and LOVED it!! Only work 2 days a week for some pay and same beni's - YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh, and during the week - she got a part time job at the school her kids went to working 4 hours a day so she'd still have some time off for cleaning house, doing laundry, going to dr. appts. and all those other FUN things!!! I had another friend who also did Avon, or was it Shaklee........that was YEARS ago!!!

everything entertainemtn wise is cheaper during the week. that's one plus to working weekends. There wont be long lines and you will get out cheaper when you go do stuff. so, less shell out for a sitter, more money per hour, less days out of the house, cheaper entertainement and less traffic to do stuff during the week amd less commuttor traffic to get to and from work on the weekends. The only possible downside I see is if you were a regualr church goer.

I think the weekend option is the best because time will go by so quickly and your girls will be in school sooner than you think. Look at it this way...you'll be with them 5 days and nights a week and only away from them on the weekend. Win Win especially when they get into school.

Good luck,
DH