EVEN if it were my favorite color (heck, I don't hate black), there'd be NO WAY I'd make it the main color to my wedding. Back table cloths, black ribbons everywhere, black on the 2 1/2 year old flower girl's dress, black on the center pieces, black on the wedding cake. YES, to each her own- but I still think some things should be off limits! lol! What do you all think? Not to mention, there were hardly any smiles from the bride (just met her for the first time at the wedding- we know the groom well, though), and they aren't "goth" people either...
What do you all think? BLACK? There are SO many other colors... It was mostly black... like 90% black. There were no other accent colors- just white....napkins and plates.
I think black as an ACCENT is a great idea. It would have a nice pop to it. I'm talking about mainly black. And the wedding already happened. The black was not tastefully used. I was saying that she wasn't happy at her wedding. Everything was sort of depressing, actually- even w/o the black color. She spent most of her time alone at the table. The groom was outside chain smoking and not happy. A lot of gripes ensued and the bride gave me dirty looks (I was very kind and polite to her, there was not a single reason the dirty looks were necessary:( ) She also seemed out-of-it, like...dare I say it? On drugs. ...and I truly hope not, cause she's pregnant.
"B" hit the nail on the head with saying that there was something way more concerning than the color. she's right. I actually feel slightly bad to just consider the color at first the more I think of it... because none of the bride's friends came, only HIS friends and family came and only a bit of her family came- and they all were grumpy- poor bride, honestly. And to make things clear, I do not HATE the bride. I just met her at the wedding. We have plans to hang out later because we are long time friends with the groom.
So, we will get to know each other outside of the wedding atmosphere, and I won't be wearing a "pretty dress" that she kept talking about as if I shouldn't have worn it (some people came in jeans and other TOO casual clothing. I wore a nice- not fancy- dress out of RESPECT for a wedding, but it backfired, cause who knows why) I REALLY hope for the best, but the wedding was not so good- decorations aside. I'm just worried cause this is the grooms second wedding, and he REALLY wants it to be his last- he's a nice guy that deserves a non-gold digger (he is a MAGNET for them... all his girlfriends!). I'm not calling her one AT ALL, I just want everything to work out awesomely!
A lot of your descriptions of weddings with black in them sounded really tasteful and nice. Thanks for your responses!!!
I completely disagree! Since I was little whewn I envisioned my wedding it would be in the winter (december or january) with black table cloths and fabrics with silver sparklies everywhere. The only flowers I would have are long stem red roses. I think dark winter sparkle wonderland. My bridemaids would have silver or white dresses with black sashes. If I only had the thousands of dollars to make it happen!
I love black, I'm a pale skinned blonde so it's my best color, classy and chic.
I didn't have a wedding (we eloped) but my dress was beautiful, fitted black velvet with a creamy, lacey trim, and my flowers were all white.
If I ever DID have a wedding I bet my bridesmaids would appreciate buying cute little black dresses that they actually COULD wear again!
And I would choose pink to add a pop of color, in the cake and flowers and table decor :)
Nineteen years ago we went black and white with some pink. Still love our choices.
Black is always a classic. If you look back to old weddings certain colors look VEEERY dated.
Generally Black/White weddings can be very classy if done right.
But in this case it sounds like the color choice was the perfect fit....
Black and white -very sophisticated, modern and classy
My niece and her husband used black and white for their wedding several years ago. They did it beautifully. Black seems to be an "in" color for weddings - or was for a while. I've seen a lot of darker jewel tones lately.
I would feel kind of sorry for the group you describe, whatever colors were used at the festivity. The dirty look the bride gave you may have had *nothing* to do with you... she may have had a terrible day and her feelings just happened to hit you in the face.
(This makes me think of something else. I've been married 40 years, and when I was planning everything, black was not a fashionable wedding color for anything but tuxes. But my aunt, who was in her 70s, said, "If you don't mind, since this is an evening wedding I'll wear my black lace and attend as "The Merry Widow" [a character in a very old musical show]. She pulled it off, too.)
I think when it is your day, you can chose any color you want, including black. I know when we think of black, we think of that as the color you are supposed to wear at a funeral, but not anymore.... this day is changing something crazy! Heck, they are even making same sex marriages legal in some US states. Not that I am against gays or lesbians, i am just saying this world is changing!
My favorite color is black (even though it's not really a color it's an absorption of all colors) but I did not have it as my wedding color.
I did, however, have a black sash though.....hmm.
But that's how the style was they sold it David's Bridal (got it somewhere else cheaper and pieced it together myself).
I think that was all we had that was black.
I will say when I was looking through all the bridal magazines I saw a ton
of black accents.
It will be interesting to see how it all comes together.
Hopefully it will be pretty and maybe you can post how it all looked
afterwards.
So the bride's not a smiler? Hmm well let's just hope she's a happy person especially on that day. :)
Good luck to them. Maybe wrap their gift in white paper that has a black
design. Maybe they'll like that. :)
Here's to a happy life togther!!!
seems like a lot, but then again....it was her day!
My sister's wedding was white, black, & lavendar. She wore white & carried white flowers with a few sterling (lavendar) roses in the bouquet. Her bridesmaid wore black velvet & carried the same combo of flowers. The men were in black. The church/table flowers were white/creamy poinsettias....because the wedding was in December. Beautiful.
My best friend's daughter was recently in a wedding. The colors were white, black, & yellow. Bride in white, with a black ribbon sash. The bride carried sunflowers. Bridesmaids were in black, with yellow shoes & carried gerbera daisies with 1 sunflower. Men in black. Yellow flowers for everything else. Perfect for a June wedding.
& one other wedding: white, black, & lime green. That's it....no other colors! Absolutely stunning! Flowers were white, with lots of greenery. Men in black, bridesmaids in a floral print of the 3 colors. Very retro mod!
I could see that going off very well and elegantly. I also think it is one of those things where in the planning you think say and do, "Yeah, lets also get the candles on the table black too....." and you've gone over the top and killed it. If that is the case, hopefully the camerman used black and white (digitally converted them ;-) for some of the pictures as that seems like that would look very nice in photos. Not every event/wedding can be perfect so I don't know how much I'd be concerned about that.
As far as the Bride and Groom, it is such a stressful time. Maybe they got into an argument beforehand and it was exagerrated because it is their wedding day. Maybe she was nervous and some of us when nervous can seem out of it and unhappy. Or maybe she was upset because the florist got the order wrong and the flowers were supposed to be the accent color ;-).....It also could be because of what you stated. You may never know but it sounds like a releif this event is over.
I wish the best for this couple and that in the near future they can laugh about what transpired or find joy in the event if they were nervous.
Wow, so judgmental of the bride. I'm sure it was much more lovely than you're giving it credit for. It sounds to me as if you don't like the bride very much to begin with if you were looking for things to complain about and criticize. The next time the bride has an event, like when someone throws her a baby shower, maybe you should send your regrets that you can't attend on your RSVP.
I think some black and white weddings are lovely. Its all about what the bride and groom love-not what everyone else likes.
my mom picked black and gold for her 3rd wedding...but it was mostly gold...i think it depends on the accent colors.
I like Black and White Weddings - but NOT when the Bride is wearing black...but ohhhh well...no my wedding...
My BF in HS got married in 1989 - just like I did - I wanted a black, white and gold wedding - my mother would have NOTHING to do with it...in her opinion black didn't belong at a wedding....I got married in May - Erin got married in October...she had a black and white wedding - my parents LOVED it!! She was wearing white of course, but the bridesmaids dresses were black and white...
So how was the reception? Did they have one?
I know several people that had Black & White weddings were those were the only 2 colors in the decor, and the guests were asked to ONLY wear those 2 colors. I know that one bride was 'trying' for old Hollywood 'Black Tie'. I think a little color like deep red or purple in the decor would've been beautiful.
There's no way I'd ever use black like that. BUT, it's their wedding, so I think whatever they want to do should be fine. Doesn't mean anyone has to think it's nice or pretty, though:-) But since it's their special day (or super depressing day?), it's a choice they get to make.
That is so odd...
I've been to three weddings done in mainly black, and just viewed pictures of one I wasn't able to attend, and all were lovely...I wish I could have thought of it for mine! Also, it was THEIR wedding, so the color choices were theirs.
i was unfocused and out of it on my wedding day, we'd had a fight the night before and I truly thought he wouldn't show up but I was ready to have the reception for all my family and friends anyway...I wasn't about to waste the food and cake! He showed up but the thing I remember most about that day is sadly my not remembering :-/ I can only shudder not knowing how I appeared to guests...I hope this couple enjoys much happiness and success in their marriage and with their baby!
Black is fine for the groom's tuxedo (and grooms men).
Anyone else in black at a wedding makes it look more like a funeral (although, that might be the point if the mother's in law are wearing it).
I've been to a winter wedding where the brides maids were in maroon and forest green (think Christmas time colors) - the bride was still in white and it was beautiful!
As far as the wedding you attended goes - I think there was a lot going on besides celebrating a wedding and people could not put what ever issues they were having aside for one day.
The color scheme was the least of their difficulties.
But - who knows? - maybe it'll all work out fine for them!
if she is pregnant was that why they were getting married??? maybe they were mourning their former lives and not celebrating the union. I love black as an accent and have seen it pulled off beautifully. But basically all black seems odd.
I think it can be a main color but not THE main color. For my wedding, I really liked this black off the shoulder dress that was trimmed in white (for the bridesmaids). I thought about me and my hubby wearing white and having the girls wear that dress and the guys wear a black tux. Then using another color as an accent. Before I got done figuring it out my hubby said he really didn't like that idea so we went another route.
I think 90% of ANY color is too much. It sounds depressing. Maybe if the couple were happier, the black wouldn't have seemed as bad. To each their own, though. I really hope they didn't get married just for the baby.
