Child Hurting Adult

I agree with all the advice here with just one added thought... It might have been jealousy over the little one getting attention and not the 9 year old... Still not right for them to do - but if they do know better, and they should it could have been somewhat intentional. Talk to them and find out where they were coming from. It could have been just a case of not knowing their own strength (my boy is famous for this) or passive agressive behavior. Whenever someone does something to me that I dont like, I always try to look at myself as well and see if there was something that I may have been doing to "bring it on". But bottom line is there should be some converstaions and consequences. They are all lucky to have such a caring grandma!

Talk to the child about it.

Take the child aside, away from the others, and let them know that they really hurt you. TELL the child that you were pretend playing with the littlest one, that they knew that, and that you thought it was very inappropriate for them to grab your nose hard enough to hurt you. If you feel upset enough about it to cry, do so. The child should see how hurt you are, both emotionally and physically.

Let it be well known that you expect a sincere apology, and that such behavior will not happen again, with you or anyone else.

Take charge of this situation, Nana, and let your grandchild learn a lesson from it that they will remember.

Maybe, be sometimes even adults do stupid things. Just make it a teaching moment.

yes, they should know better.
you should tell them that its wrong to hurt someone even while playing, ask them how would they feel if someone did that to them, etc.
then have them take a time out to think about it.

9 is past the age of accountability.

It would surprise me if that happened, and I would yelp out loud to let the kid know that her grab really hurt.

"Should know better" is a tricky concept. Of course, she should. But that doesn't necessarily mean that she does. I've seen kids, and even adults playing with kids, get amazingly rough during play, which sometimes escalates until someone gets a little too hurt. It's just what people do.

Talk about it, let her know your nose really hurt, ask what she would do if she were in your position. Then give her space to ponder and respond. You will probably be surprised at how positive that can be. Kids basically want to be good, and be loved.

I have deep doubts about forced apologies – if children are required to apologize before the feelings are sincere, aren't we teaching them how to lie so they can go back to their play? It is more valuable to explain why apologies help, to model what good, heartfelt apologies sound like, and, of course, to say you are sorry when you make a mistake.

I would've told him right away that he hurt you.
Seeing how my 5 year old knows better, I would say that the 9 year old should too. Although this could've been an accident because sometimes kids do play a little rough, there should've been an appology. We need to teach our kids young that if they hurt someone, even by accident, they need to rectify the situation.
The next time this child is rough with you or anyone else, they should be put in time out!

Yes.
Not ok that she did that, and I hope you took the time to explain to her that hurting you or anyone while "playing" is not acceptable behaviour.
best,k

Yes, they should. I would explain once that isn't okay, then whatever form of dicipline you use.

Yes the nine year old should know better. Are you sure that it wasn't intended to hurt you?