Child Saying "Shut Up"

All I can say is I have the same thing going on here!!! But I have 3 step children that think it is just SO funny to tell him to say it and laugh when he says it to me. So they are so not helping me stop it. I tell him it's not nice and give him somethin else to say, hush, be quite etc. His siblings also say it to each other ALL the time. I am constantly telling them not to say it and use something else but they wont. Don't even get me started on that!!!!

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Thanks and Im sure the phase will pass!!!

I would almost take your "shut up mommy" I get Stupid Mommy".. I think it's best to just ignore it... My son will say it over and over agian for 5 min. or so but then he just drops it and asks why I'm not talking to him... I explain to him that he is hurting my feelings and I don't say things like that to him... That usually stops him but he gets it from a little girl at his sitters house so it' doesn't matter how many times I stop it he hears it the next day.... I figure eventually it will be replaced with something else, I hope it's something like "Pretty Mommy"... As long as he gets a rise out of you when he says it he will continue....

A little about myself, I have a son who will be 3 next month and a daughter that will be 3 months on Wednesday... Good Luck.

Ignoring it always works for me. When you get upset you give the word power.

1st of all I would let him know that "shut up" is not nice. (I am sure you've already done this) You have to be 100% consistent with your method of punishment. The pediatrician recommended a good book. It's called "1-2-3 Magic" by Thomas Phelan (sp?). I got mine on Amazon.com for $6. Although I was already using this method, I wasn't doing it totally correct. I always talked & got emotional. If/when you read the book you will know what I mean. I have seen a big improvement in my son. Hope this helps.

First off, this is just something he picked up from either home or school. The reason he says it so much is because he gets a rise from you. Either, you have to tell him it's a bad word and use something that tastes nasty to him every time he says it(example: I used vinegar every time my son said something bad), or try ignoring him completely when he says this. If he gets upset, you tell him that's a bad word and your very sad that he's saying it. My son went through the same stage but now he's 5 and he understands it's not a nice thing to say. Good luck.

Hi C.,

Here is an intersting thread from babycenter.com

http://www.babycenter.com/dilemma/toddler/toddlerbehavior...

i have used three aproaches... each worked in its own way.

when my son wanted me to stop talking because i wasn't talking to him. I politly asked the person i was talking to to "please Excuse Me?" (showing him how to interupt a conversation politly) then I told him the words he was using were not nice "shut up is not nice, it's RUDE!" so he can put his nose on the wall for 2 min.

My other son was a little older the first time he said it. SO just like curse words I explained to him the diffrence between mommy/daddy/adult words and kid words. only shut up, stupid, and most curse words i explained as not mommy daddy words or kid words they are just rude! that worked for my eldest son on many words. (doing this so i'm not ever banishing a word from his vocabulary... his will exceed mine one day the little brain child!!!! just explaining it as to where it fits in his life at the moment.

then theres the delema of not getting thru at all... like my youngest at first... explaination didnt work, time out didnt work, so I did what he said... and didnt talk to him and cried "because he was mean to me" and if he tried to hug me or ask me whats wrong i told him flat out (only time i would talk TO him) that he hurt my feeling telling me to shut up) and soon he told me he was sorry he said shut up... well in his 3 year old vocabulary "sorry mommy for shut up".... i hugged him and thanksed him and told him how much i liked it when he was nice to me!...

hope any of this helps
A. H

Hey C.,
I couldn't help but laugh at the "shut up mommy". I know it is frustrating and a real concern. When my now 14 y/o was two he heard the F*** word and started walking around saying it!!! It was horrible!!!! One thing you can try is just ignoring him and act like you don't hear him saying that. Sometimes our kids just do things because they know IT IS wrong and it's drawing attention to it. You know what I mean? Since nothing else works that might!! My 2 y/o found his nose a few months ago and started to try and pick it and I made a big deal about it, EEEW GROSS and he did it even more!!! Then I just turned the other way and ignored him every time and he finally stopped. Now I just offer him a tissue:)

Are you in Miami?? I too am a SAHM!!