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That’s a toughie …but if you’re having doubts about the father of the child it might be best to go your separate ways. In the long run it is not going to be good for any of you if you stay with him and don’t feel the same way he feels about you. When your child gets older he/she will feel that things aren’t right between the 2 of you. The most important thing in all of this is that you and your baby’s father figure out a way that the two of you can raise this child the healthiest way you can. Just because you and the father might not be together doesn’t mean that your child can’t have a great loving family.
I have a 7 year-old daughter, a 12 year-old stepson, and am 8 months pregnant with my second son. My daughter is from a previous relationship. It was really tough when I broke it off with her father, but it was the best thing I could have done. Even though my daughter has 2 homes, and splits the week between us it is much better for her then if her father and I had stayed together. We fought all the time and even though my daughter at the time was only about a year old she knew that something just wasn’t right with her father and I.
Since her father and I have been not together we get along SO much better. This might sound funny but my daughter’s father is still very much involved in my life. I have a husband and step-son now, but we all get along. We even go on family vacations together. Take all the kids to the movies, outings, and dinner .Sometimes it is just myself, daughter and her father. We are all very much evolved in what is going on in our daughter’s life. Our daughter loves the fact that she has such an extended family. I am still extremely close to my daughter’s father’s family and spend some of the holidays with them, my husband and step-son.
The funniest thing about this whole thing is that as I mentioned I am 8 months pregnant and my husband is in Virginia working right now and won’t be back until the end of the month which is cutting it really close to my due date. I am going to be staying with my daughter’s father and his family during the last week of the month just in case I go into labor a week early. Now things can’t get any stranger than that.
I hope this helps you a little,or at least gives you an odd option of how families can blend into one large healthy family.
Best of Luck…Staci