There are 2 kinds of people in this world:
-Doer's or laid back relaxers
-Organized or not
-Uber motivated or way laid back
-cleaner freaks or less than clean ppl
See the main theme?
Sounds like you can get a lot done & he's not wired that way.
ALSO, he works outside the home & with what I've seen w/my hubby,
that takes a lot out of him so I try to adjust & work around that schedule.
Which means, I get all the housework done during the week that I can
while kids at school, husb at work & youngest down for a nap.
Then I run errands either when hubby gets home or when I can take just
youngest before nap & before older kids get home from school.
I take my down time when hubby gets home from work after he's eaten &
rested for awhile & weekends. Do I come home to a messy house w/kids
all over the place? Oh God yes! But here's how I look at it: hubby isn't
me, he's tired from working all week & being away from home & we do
things differently.
So I try to work w/in those confines. I take "my break" when I can when
he's home to watch the kids & isn't dog tired.
I've adjusted my expectations. I do not expect to come home from my time out to a clean house & kids being watched like I do. I just want everyone safe from harm.
Then I clean up. It's easier for me to whip the house back into shape than get myself worked up into a tizzy yelling at the kids. That being said the older kids know to put their clothes/toys away from the most part. However, I like them to have their fun/relaxing time w/their dad AND the rest from their school weeks.
Weekends in our house are for resting first, sports, occasionally going somewhere together, doing things I can't normally get done & once every blue moon I do something for myself like meeting a friend or a rare pedicure! ;)
Again, adjust your expectations, compromise (this part is huge), do what you can when you can, allow for some relaxation for hubby, know that we are all different & operate differently. Sounds like he's an introvert that likes to be/relax/re-energize at home where you like to do things, get things done. Again.....the key here is compromise. Let hubby relax & get some downtime, plan a short family event together on a Sunday like going for a short hike or going out to lunch. Then you take some time for yourself on the weekend.
I've become a homebody since I'm older now with kids. I was never ever like this & I don't get "psyched" to go do things w/ppl anymore. Or big family events. I like to relax w/my immediate family & really enjoy the time.
So compromise, do for yourself when he's home, give him some space to relax in, realize you're diff people w/diff needs and it's all ok! Enjoy your family & be happy. Life is short & meant to be savored every day! Best wishes & remember to work w/i the parameters of YOUR family. Every family is different. Oh & I do housework when it's convenient for me, best timed for me while family is busy or out of the house. I like them out of the way. ;)