Do Any of You Ladys Feel This Way??

Sounds like the honeymoon is over...:) Yes, I think that all marriages hit this point. Maybe it's time for a sit down, real conversation with the husband. If you're anything like me, you have to have a cool down period before you have the actual conversation. Be honest and try not to sound to accusatory. Maybe a, "Honey sometimes I get frustrated that you complain so much, can we get down to what is really bothering you?"

I get to have one of those tonight, because my lovely husband decided that going to a jiu jitsu class was more important than being home helping out his wife with the toddler after she just had a biopsy. GRRR.

hhhhhhmmmmm.....yeah - you are not alone....sounds like the honey moon is over....

there are times - like Grandma T says - I wish one of us would disappear!! :)

YOU MUST keep the lines of communication open - seriously!!! You need to tell him I DO NOT LIKE YOUR NAGGING...I FEEL, I AM, etc. do NOT accuse him - it will only make it worse....was the nagging there BEFORE you got married?

If you cannot communicate this to him - then you might need to find a counselor to help the two of you communicate in a healthy manner...nagging is usually a "stressor" sign and instead of coming out and saying "I don't like this" or "I'm not happy" people nag....I'm not saying he's not happily married - please do NOT interpret that - but the rose colored glasses are off and you two are settling into a routine....even my husband and I, at 14 years of marriage, nag each other about things...because HE may not like the way I do something or I may not like the way HE does something.....

COMMUNICATION IS KEY!!! GOOD LUCK!!

I'm going through that right now. I want one of us to disappear, lol.
Remind him that you are on the same team and that you shouldnt be bitching at each other.
Go get your nails done.
We are responsible for our own happiness and can't let other peoples attitudes get to us. It's not easy.
I tune mine out when he gets annoying. I think sometimes they just like to hear them selves yack.

2 things... 1, sounds like you guys need to do things solo. Like my guy goes fishing, or I'll leave him with the kids to go to the grocery store (not nearly as exciting, but I appreciate not dragging 3 kids with me!) 2, you need to remember why you fell in love in the first place. Have a date night! YOU set it up, and surprise him :)

I was watching something last night, and I rarely get into tv. I just don't watch it... but I was into what was on. My hubs was sitting next to me dissecting the entire show. I finally turned and stared at him and raised the volume on the tv to a ridiculous level so I could hear it (something I would have had to do if the KIDS were around, LOL)... he got the picture ;)

I am married over 16 years of my second marriage. You can try to stop it and if it works congratulations. Or like I am seeing you can also redirect, turn up the volume or in some cases, (I love that Mama T) disappear. My favorite is to go sit in a tub and soak. Now, in my first marriage I couldn't stand the way my husband's voice began to SOUND really and I would hear him hem and haw and say huh, all the time. Now that I stopped. But there were a host of other problems, too. If you are just slightly annoyed I will advise my mother's old adage. Ignore it. This too shall pass. Two years is pretty good. I think once people get past that first year it should be a cinch the rest of the time. HUG

My husband is the same damn way!! His way of showing his love is NOT complimenting the many things he likes or loves about me or his children, but to only voice his complaints - which yes, is worse than nagging!!

Sure he'll help with domestic chores (if asked), he's a hard worker, loves his kid(s)... but his negative way of voicing what he feels needs to be done or even done differently definitely gets on my nerves. We've been together almost 4 years, married almost 1 year. GRRR

Have you told him how you feel about his nagging? You need to let him know that you are doing the best you can. Or, if he doesnt like the way you did something, then he needs to explain what it is he is expecting from you. Or, he can just do it himself. I am a SAHM and do everything for my daughter and our house. My husband doesnt help with chores. But he feels he has this right since he works so much to provide for us. He does complain sometimes about petty things. I just nod and say ok and continue on with what I was doing in the first place. I dont forget what it was that he was complaining about and just handle it when I am ready. Also, you need to have time for yourself, it will help you stay sane! Even a trip alone to the supermarket helps me. I can get away for an hour with no kid driving me crazy or hubby wanted to rush thru the store. I also run a moms group and get support from my mom friends, and we joke about how our hubbys drive us crazy. Having a good laugh can relieve stress. Also the mom nights out help. :)

Yes mine does get on my nerves too at times, but I'm sure I get on his at times ( however unlikely that may be ;) )
I just do the 'silent eye-roll' , where he can't see me do it, and let it go and remind myself I'm better with him than without him- thats what a spouse is about, and we all have faults that irk other people.
Good luck.

You got a lot of great responces. the secret to "argueing" back is to never use "you". It sounds accusatory! That was great advice for me and I pass it on! Oh and dont use "always" or "never".