Ear Piercing - Brandenburg,KY

Some people have strong opinions, and they think theirs is the only one that matters. If you think it looks good, don't let what others think bother you. My DD's pierced ears are freakin' adorable, and I love them. If people don't like it, they know where to stick it. ;)

I don't think it's the issue of her not remembering it. My thoughts are that my daughter's ears are not mine to pierce. It's her body and she can choose what to do with it. I don't condemn anybody for getting their kids' ears pierced early. It's just not something I would personally do.

i don't like earrings on a baby. to me, it just looks tacky. now, i would NEVER walk up to a friend or family member and say that, that would be rude, people have the right to do as they please with their own children. when asked my thoughts on ear piercings on a baby, i will share. but i wouldn't just randomly go out of my way to hurt someone's feelings. the people close to me that know my thoughts assured me that if i ever had a little girl, i'd change my mind and think it was super cute, but she's 2 now and i've never felt the urge. another thing is the safety factor - i have a friend that bought real diamonds for her daugher, the baby pulled out one or both of each pair and lost a total of 4 or 5 pairs, and they had the safety backings - seem wasteful and dangerous to me. but, fortunately, it's a free country and we can all do as we please. i'll let my little girl decide for herself if/when she pierces her ears.

I personally don't think you should pierce your babies ears. I think you should wait until they are old enough to decide on their own. What if they never want earrings? My daughter is 11 and I have been waiting patiently for her to say she wants her ears pierced. Well, that day came in January and we made a big deal about it and it was so fun for her. Now she had all kinds of earrings and is happy. I'm glad I waited and let her choose for herself.

Well M. - it's cuz everybody else in the world thinks they're a better mom than everybody else. If you'd waited and told her she couldn't get her ears pierced you'ld have mom's who thought that was just ridiculous.

The mindset that you can't win and people will think you're a bad parent no matter what you do is actually kind of free-ing if you just embrace that it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks (unless you do something I wouldn't do....lol).

Just my $0.02
B.

It is a big deal because you altered your child's body without her permission. Why don't you go and get her a tattoo now? Kids already grow up too fast. I have 3 girls and our rule has always been that we get their ears pierced when they ask for it. My 15 year old was 6 and my second daughter was 5. They were both so excited and we made a whole big day out of it with shopping and lunch. It is something they will always remember and they both felt so grown up on that day to be able to do something special with their mother. I also have an 11 month old and we will do the same thing with her.

I don't understand the infant ear piercing thing, because to me, it's one more thing to worry about with a baby (infections, etc.). But I wouldn't give someone grief about it.

Personally, I always thought of it as a girl "coming of age" thing to get your ears pierced, and it won't work that way if you get it done as a baby.

Obviously it's a personal choice. I don't think babies need adornment; they're beautiful as they are in all their natural glory. IMO, it would be one more thing that you would have to take care of as the parent and infection or baby pulling out the earrings and ripping the lobe are true concerns. Growing up as a child, it was something to look forward to and it was a special rite of passage (I was allowed at age 13 to have it done) that I was ready for -- and cherished -- when the time came.

I'm sure there are those out there who disagree because of the actual piercing aspect. I agree that it's not about the pain of the piercing, either. My son was circumcised and he doesn't remember that.

For me, it's more about a rite of passage kind of thing. My daughter is 9 and when she decided she wants them pierced, she and I will go make a day of it, like my mom and I did. It's a bonding moment I look forward to with my own daughter.

i wanted to pierce my little girls ears but my husband was felt very strongly that we shouldnt do it now. i do not see the harm in getting them done.. and to the people who say "you are permanently altering their body".. OMGoodness... the holes will grow shut if one day she decides she doesnt want to have them anymore. My thought was to have it done as an infant while she still slept on her back so that she wouldnt have to deal with the pain of trying to sleep on her side and it hurting while they were healing... i so dont get the big deal... bottom line is YOU are her mom, and as long as you have her best interest at heart then the decision YOU make is whats best for her!!

UPDATE

my mom had my ears pierced when i was a baby and as a little girl i LOVED playing with earrings... BUT, my mom would only let me wear small, light earings. if i wanted to play with big dramatic earings she would buy me clip ons... i havent worn earings in probably 10 years and my holes are totally grown up... cant even tell they were ever done. and i always wondered why my mom limited the type of earings i wore but now i suppose thats why!

i dont know why its a big deal. I had my daughters done and i love them!! She just turned one to. I say each to thier own. I dont agree with what others do and they dont have to agree with me.

In some cultures, ear piercing in infants is the norm, not the exception. She's your child, don't worry about what "others" think of your choice, because it's just that, yours. Just like it's your choice to breastfeed, or to circumsize (if it was a boy), or dress her in pink and purple or blue and green. You've done nothing wrong by piercing her ears, you haven't maimed her, or scarred her for life, or anything of that nature. Everyone's going to have an opinion about SOMETHING, so try to smile and let it go if you see it differently.

It's really not a big deal at all. People need to get over themselves. I swear, as a mom I've had complete strangers come up to me and lecture me about the weirdest stuff! Why I should raise my children vegan (Huh??), why I shouldn't dress my little girls in pink, why I shouldn't put my toddler in a harness/leash (oh, I'm sorry meddling person I don't know, was that YOU volunteering to chase her through this crowd of people?!). Everybody's got an opinion, but who gets to make the decision? That's right, YOU do. Because you're the one who sits up with her when she's sick, you're the one who bathes her, feeds her, and pays her daycare bills... so unless and until these meddling people are helping you take care of your child, ignore them. :)

Our view is that our daughter is not our property.

Her body= her decision

It is a personal choice and really nobodys business but yours as her mother. I also had my daughers ears pierced at 3 months old....she will be turning nine years old next week....no regrets here!! You are her mom....you don't have to explain yourself to anyone and sometimes I think people just don't know how to mind their own business! Enjoy your little munchkin!!

I personally wouldn't do it, but I would not give another mom grief over something so trivial!

There are children being abused, starved, left alone, hit, sold and neglected. I think we have bigger things to be critical about than a child's ears.

I absolutly love little girls ears pierced personally. I think it looks so sweet. I will definitely get my daughters ears pierced. I had mine done the day I was released from the hospital after being born. Same with my sister and all the girls we know. I dont remember it ever being done, so if you ask me, the younger the better. Why make them wait until they are older so they can feel it? No thanks. I dont see anything wrong with it. Its a personal judgement call, so if you like it then dont let anyone make you feel bad for it.

I figured if I had the right to circumsize my boys, I had the right to pierce my girls ears:)

I got both of my girls' ears pierced when they were only months old. My MIL copped such an attitude. I just said "Well, you had your little girl, you chose not to pierce her ears. Isn't it great that I get to make my own choice for MY girls?"

My girls LOVE that their ears are pierced and have a great time picking out earrings to match their outfits. They are 7 and 4 now, and I'm so glad that I got it done and out of the way.

I really don't care what other people think. But that's just me.

I think its a personal choice. I recently got my daughter ears pierced but for a different reason. I have two older boys and my daughters hair has NOT grown in..she will be 5 yrs in May. I am so tired of people asking me how old my youngest boy is, cute hair cut, does her hair grow, where do you get your sons hair cut, your boy is so cute.
I am always gracious because I know that dont mean anything be these comments. Plus its never repeat offenders. It is starting to give my daughter a complex. I figured if we got her ears pierced people would be a bit more observant. This past Sat an older woman said to me " your little boy is so cute" she was older and was just being friendly. she didnt mean anything mean at all by it.. but still it bothers me all the same.

I don't believe in getting the little tyke's ears pierced. However, it isn't anyone's business other than yours, and I don't think it is such a terrible thing. I got hell for NOT getting my daughter's ears pierced (go figure!)

Will it scar her for life? Nah!

I want to wait till my daughter is old enough to WANT her ears pierced. The day she asks to get them pierced I will make an appointment and we'll go get them done. I kind of feel like doing them when they are really little is more about the mom than the baby (completely my opinion). For me, getting my ears pierced was a really special experience, kind of a "rite of passage" when i was 6 years old. I felt really "big" and "cool" to go in and sit in the chair to get my ears pierced, and I thought it was SO exciting to get to pick out my first pair of earrings, so I want my daughters to get the same.

BUT - you've already done it for your reasons, which is great. My daughters WILL probably be old enough to remember that it hurts, so there is a con I cannot argue with. You can't really back up and undo it- so don't sweat it! As with any parenting decision, trust me- if you did it the other way you'd get criticism for that too!

Good Luck!
-M.

i totally agree with you. i had my daughters done when she was 6 months old. you will always get mixed feedback. but wouldnt it be nice if people would mind there own business??? i mean your the mom, you know best, NOT them......

Its not! I didn't do it for my daughter because my ears won't stay pierced and I was scared she'd be the same way (I've had mine done 10 times).. I think it was smart for you to do young and a million moms do! Not to mention kids deal with pain way better at that age. I'm sure she'll thank you and until then tell all the other moms to shove it.