We have had a lot of death in the past two years since my son was born. I believe that we took him to about 11 funerals so far, including my father's. I know that my son is too young to understand, but I want to teach him that this is a natural process of life and not to be afraid.
As children, we, along with all of our cousins, went to funerals and were very comfortable knowing that people die. Some of my mom friends swear that they NEVER went to a funeral as a child ("they're morbid, creepy, not for children") and obviously they do not let their children attend either.
Your son is 5 and will understand that Grandfather, as well as Great Grandfather went away. Heaven can be a tough subject to understand, but I believe that you are doing the right thing in helping them understand.
Try a local bookstore. They usually have awesome books that can help a little one understand. It can help communicate what you are feeling through the illustrations and words. Quoted scripture is great, but for my son, pictures help the most.
This is always a hard time, saying good bye to loved ones. My sympathies to your family.
D. kosarzycki
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