Extra Sensitive with Daddy

I wonder if she might be getting tired again around the time Daddy gets home. Have you tried rearranging her naps so that she is sleeping around dinner time as well? My 15 month old takes a morning nap and then another nap around 3:30 or 4. Then he still goes to bed at 8 most nights. Maybe she is just getting tired again around the time Daddy comes home.
I do like Quinn's idea about Daddy playing with daughters toys though. That should definately get some interest from her.

hi, in the beginning we were having that problem with my daughter. my husband would come home on lunch and after work and she'd get excited, then start screaming, wanting me...he was always taking it personally, like i had spoiled her, or just because i was the one who was always with her...so he started just sitting on the floor with her, and playing with her toys, and giving her the oportuntity to go to him. instead of him going to her...and that seemed to work. she would be curious about what he was doing, and why he was playing w/ her toys, so she'd go to him and play...they'd have alot of fun....so try that, maybe if your husband just goes to play with her toys, and lets her join him, instead of him being the one to go to her, it might change. i hope this helps. good luck. and yes, i'm sure she senses his frustration, i told my husband he just had to get over that and after a couple weeks, he did.

We had some of this too, it really hurt DH's feelings. He is the less patient of the two of us and the one more inclined to impose rules. I think the girls pick up on that and sometimes come to me for that reason, but I believe a lot of it is to do with preverbal children. The more Susannah could communicate with my husband and he made an effort to show that he understood her (like repeating her request, even if there's no way it's going to happen) the more she seemed to like him. With babies, a lot of the mother-child bond is intuitive, and the baby knows she's got a better shot of getting her message across with you and prefers having you around for that reason.

I can say that when I had my second child, DH took a few weeks off from work and they just did everything together. It was Daddypalooza. They went to the park, they went to the aquarium, they went to parties together.. The first couple of nights the new baby was home, Susannah had a couple of night-waking incidents. My DH was delighted when she called for him for the first time when she was frightened at night. He tore off down to her room faster than I've ever seen him move before. After he got her settled, he came upstairs and said to me "Did you hear that?? She was yelling for Daddy!!" He was so pleased.

Ever since then they're like a mutual fan club..

Hi B.,

My daughter is also 18 months old and I work part time. She typically prefers me over my husband, especially when tired or hungry. Because I am typically responsible for most of her care, she has a hard time having him do anything when I am around. For example he can't give her a bath if I am home, but is totally okay with it if I am out. It might not be a bad idea for you to go out and leave your daughter with her daddy for a bit without you there. She will have to turn to him for things that normally she would have you do. We just got back from a 6 day vacation. I can honestly say that my husband and daughter are so much closer after having that much daily time together. Maybe he can take a few days off from work to spend extra time with her, especially before the baby is born.

Good luck.

H.

Your daughter is at that age now where if she don't see someone for awhile she forget who they are not that she doesn't see him often its just that he needs to spend more time with her without you being around or interrupting as moms its hard because we don't want our kids to be unhappy but if you keep interrupting your daughter will get used to you doing that and will expect you to do it all the time suggest that he take her somewhere for a few hours and bond with her perhaps to another room or outside close to the house till she gets comfortable with being alone with him. My daughter used to do that with her father and I had to just sit there and let her cry when she was with him now I'm glad I did that because she has that bond with him.

I really don't understand, but I think maybe she might like you said not like his tone. Maybe to her it sounds like he is mad at her or upset with her. When he gets upset or tense they know. My first child would cry for me all the time. I could hand him to my mother and he would stop right then. We lived with her and she babysit him through the day from day one. I felt he bonded with her more than me. I would feel so bad. My first child and he loved grandma more than me. My mom told me that he could tell that I wasn't relaxed and was tense. So he wouldn't relax. My mother had four children. So she wasn't new to the baby thing. So maybe it's like the same thing. I would try everything to calm my son and he would just cry more. I would give up and hand him to my mom and he stopped right then. He's 8 years old now and still thinks that my mom is the best. Now my little girl is a mommy's girl. She didn't want anything to do with my mom. Only mommy. She is now 5 and the same way, but she is also a daddy's girl. So I don think that me being a new mom wasn't relax and my son new that and want grandma over me. I don't know if this is the same thing or not I just thought I would give you and idea. Something to think about.

My daughter definately favors me over her Daddy. Although she doesn't cry constantly with him, she never really wants to cuddle with him. This does bother my husband so what he does is play with her to spend time. They roll a ball or play kitchen. Perhaps, once she feels her Dad is fun from a distance she will be willing to open up. Hope this helps!

Wow - cool - Im not the only one who went through this with my daughter. :) Yeah she grew out of it and is now a huge daddys girl. :) We make sure we have at least one night a week where we do something as a family and then they love their daddy daughter days every other saturday wether its just going to play on the playground ad McDs or to a park to feed the ducks our stale bread! :) It will pass thankfully! :) Then he will be trying to get her to stop wrestling him to the ground while watching tv haha. :)

Maybe you should encourage your husband to do a daily, very special ritual or routine with your daughter. They need to build that very special bond like you and her have. Reading the same 2 or 3 books at the same time everyday, explaining what he's doing to her as he makes a snack or dinner everyday, practice the alphabet everyday, sing the same songs everyday. Something very structured that is fun that she will look forward to everyday. She knows what to expect from you and she trusts you. If he tries to come up with some things to do everyday like you have to, your daughter to accept it and totally look forward to and appreciating a lot of time with her Dad.

Hi Brittany I am going through the same exact thing and I dont know what to do.My thought might be is that we are home all day while DAD is at work and they are used to us only.Try to get her ino more playtime with other babies thats what i am going to try.I dont know what else to do she even flips out when i leave the room..R. working at home and loving it!!!LOVE WHAT YOU DO...http;//www.workathomeunited.com/officerswife. Just to add that in there if you wanted to make a little green for yourself lol