L.M.
What are the expectations here? Does your husband expect you to have a sleepover where you all braid each other's hair and talk about your first crush? No. You've made a gesture. Leave it. Your husband knows what's going on. If he pressures you to do more, then simply tell him, "I've compromised as much as I'm going to here. I need some gesture on their part next." Tell your family that you do what you do in the best interest of your marriage. You understand and appreciate their support of you individually, but you and your husband need to face this situation as a team, and this is the path you've chosen together. That's it. You're never going to be close with his mother or sister, especially after what's transpired. Everyone needs to accept that and move on as best as they can.