For Moms with 3 or More Lids

I'm a single mom of 3 boys; 11, 7, and 1 1/2. It was definitely a bit tough going from the just the 2 of them for quite some time to having a 3rd. The bottles, diapers etc. They're a tremendous help with their little brother...whew! The only real hassle is the trips to the grocery store yowza. But hey, there's 2 of you :P

I have 3, its hard, but fun. I dont know how much help you have, i have no help, they are with me at all times, except the couple hours that they are in school. Home is chaos, always something going on, but i wouldnt change it for the world. If you can afford it and have the energy to keep up, then go for it, the bigger the family the better.
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I have four children and am pregnant with baby#5. My 2 daughters are 10 and 7. They are a huge help now. They were 7 & 4 when my son came (now 3). It was hard for me to go back to the baby stage bottles, diapers etc. Doing homework was hard with a new baby. My daughters are from a previous relationship and see their dad 50% of the time so when we had my son we decided we'd have 1 more so when his siters were gone he'd have someone. Baby 5 was an oops but we all excited about it (another boy). So I will have 11,8,4,2,and a new baby in October. I think the hardest thing is now since the older ones play sports and we are always on the go. Sometimes the babies hate the car, but the older kids want you at all the events. There never at the same place or at the same place. I think 2 is way easier then 3 or more. But being an only child I knew I'd have a big famly. Chaos all the time. Finding time for you or you in hubby can be hard. Alot of late nights and early mornings. BUT I wouldn't trade it for the world. Good luck on your decision. If you ever want to chat just email me. :)

Hi L.

I just have a question for you, that maybe you can ask yourself: could it be that you only have an urge to get pregnant? but not to have a child? What I mean to say is that I felt like this for a while, not really wanting to have a child, but just felt the necessity to feel and be pregnant again. It's just an opinion.

I have 4 & I thought each transition was different and "hard" for its own reasons. My kids are 7,5,3 and 4 months. The first 3 are so close in age, I always had 2 in diapers until my 3yr. old was about 1. Now with the baby we were done with baby stuff, diapers, crib etc...So starting over has kinda been fun. Is there chaos? Of course, but I couldn't imagine life without a big family.
Time and money are the 2 biggest factors I think when you have allot of kids. Time for your marriage, yourself and of course to spend with each kid seperately. My kids aren't in daycare so childcare hasn't been an issue, but with 3 or more kids in daycare the cost is outrageous! But, if you guys can afford it in both time and money go for it. I will NEVER regret having a big family, plus think of the fun when your kids are older :)
Best of luck!

Yes it is harder to go from two to three... My husband and I think that going from one to two was easier but we love having three. My husband wants another but I want to hold off. our children are one, two and a hlaf and my son will be four in a few weeks. we have a blast and love every min. of having three children. we were worried at first too but as you know, you just adapt to whatever comes your way... good luck!

My advice. Stay with 2. We have three. 5 yrs, 3 yrs and 21 months. Going to three was a challenge. I am a stay at home mom and love it but there is really no time for me. I just feel when we had two we where able to get so much done. I didn't feel so stressed. Plus there is always someone left out when you have three. I was the third in my family and I always was left out. My husband and I would like another to even the score. Also daycare is expensive for three even if it is part time. Hope you can come to a decision.

I have a 13 year old boy, and I am currently married 1 1/2 years (not my sons biological father). I got pregnant right away (my husband is almost 40), and my daughter is now 6 months old. My husband was the one that convienced me that our daughter needed a sibling. I was fine with just my son. The only reason we are having the second (I'm five months pregnant), is to give her someone to grow up with. If my son was closer in age we would not be having the second child. It's too much responsbility and financial strain to have more children. But the emotional support one receives from their siblings is not measurable.

HI - I have 3 kids of my own. My kids are 9, 3, and 2. They each are different and if you want a big family... I highly recommend it.

Daycare does play a part in it -- it can be very expensive with 3 or to find a provider that has room for 3. My two youngest are the best of friends because they are so close in age. Good Luck

I have 5. Yes five. Their ages are 20, 16, 12, 10 and 18 months. You need to be organized and a very good delegater of chores if you are going to have a big family. The only thing that gets harder with more children in my opinion is your time alone with your hubby, friends, and yourself.

If your hubby doesn't want anymore children just wait. My hubby only wanted one child. Hahahahaha. After 3 years he would start missing a baby being in the house. I will admit the 10 year old was an oops and the 18 month old was a shock. Who knew some women can regrow fallopian tubes?

Hi L.,

I have 3 kids, they are 12, 3 & 1. The hardest thing is that my 3 year old requires alot of one on one and the baby 1, is very active and on the go. So it is difficult to give that when the baby needs you. I try to include baby in our time & activities, but he doesn't always want to share mommies attention.

So your 14 month old will be around 3 and you will need to take care of an infant at the same time..its challenging, but I found that when the baby sleeps, thats when you take the one on one time.

Hope it all works out for ya!

I have 3 kids,ages 5 years,3years and 9 months.It was not much harder going from 2 to 3,than it was 1 to 2.For me having the first was so hard because I really wasn't used to having a child.But you learn to be flexible.It can be a little more difficult because with 2 you and your husband can each handle one.Going to the store by myself can be a little scary too.It can be chaotic but they all entertain each other.I love having three kids and wouldn't change a thing.