Girls Are Mean to Daddy

Have you and your husband set up rules and consequences for the kids?
You two should determine together what rules are important to follow and what the consequenses are for not following them.

Then make a chart, rewarding your daughter for not breaking those rules. And both of you sit down & explain the rules together.

It should seem to your daughter that you are presenting a unified front. There are plenty of examples of behavior modification charts on line.

You're right, she is young. Nip this in the butt now!

I think you need to set her down and have a good talk to her about respect. It sounds like she doesn't have it.She should be taught respect for adults,and have punishments for when she doesn't.I suggest taking away somthing she really likes. Start with the things daddy has given her. tell her until she learns to respect him for who he is and what he does for his family, she doesn't deserve anyting extra besides food clothes etc.When you do leave her with Dad,and she gives him a hard time,when you get back set down all together and figure out what a fair punishment should be for it. Discuss it with your husband alone first. You should never discuss the children in front of them,because if you two don't agree she will know how to work you against each other. Kids that age are smarter than you may think,and they find out real quick which buttons to push to get their way.I hope this helps.
I am a mother of five and a stepmom to four,and Grandma to ten. I have heard and seen it all believe me!

It sounds pretty corny, but in front of your daughter tell your husband how good he is, and how much you appreciate what he does, how much fun he is, etc. Your daughter will pick up on that any maybe calm down a bit.

For your husband, how about asking her what to do with her daddy time?? He may need to lip sync to Hanna Montana or something he would die if anyone found out about, but being a parent is 1/2 humility lol.

For a bit, you could talk to your daughter before you leave and remind her daddy is there to take care of her and love her and she needs to be respectful of that. Enjoy!!

My first question is does Daddy respect your daughters? Children are human also and they need respect as they are only new to this whole new thing of sharing and respecting each other. Does dad also respect mom in situations that they may be seeing. Children learn what they live when they are younger, they are like little sponges around everyone and about everything. If that is not an issue then start with teaching them about respect for everyone,especially dad. Maybe some books that they could read together with dad on respect where he might put himself at their level and show them that they are not alone on the subject. This sharing may give them the common bond they each need with him. Sometimes we need to come down to their level as they are getting alot of outside worldly influence that may be misleading them also. But if we come down to their level we are agreeing that we all need to learn respect and be a good example of it. Just how I see it........ I am a single mom of a 26 year old and I have a beautiful 3 year old granddaughter as well. My philosophy is we get what we give, if we want respect we need to be that respect to the significant other. Same works for children. Being the example is what worked best for me. My blessings for more respect are yours. S. from Embden, Maine

Have your daughter do special things for her daddy, like make cards, help with his special dessert. When he comes in from work make sure that everyone is very excited about his return and meets him at the door. If you begin to treat him like a king, then the girls will follow. Little girls(older ones as well) love their daddy and want to please them! Do this for a week and I know that you will see good results.
Your husband needs over responsive actions in return. Picking them up for a special hug and big I love you's.

Well, the first thing I would need to know is, is daddy the main caretaker in the household while you are gone? If so, the reason may be, is because usually the person a child will vent to the most, is the one who is around them the most. And it isn't because they don't love them, or because they think that daddy or mommy is being unfair, its because they know that no matter how difficult a time they give their daddy, daddy will always love them, and be there for them even if they are at their worst behavior... What he needs to do, is set a boundry between each child, and give one warning only. When the rule is broken, a consequence needs to be asserted right away. Either take TV time away, playtime, or having snack time away. And in order for the child to gain that benefit back, they will have to earn daddy's approvable by showing they will respect him, when he gives directions. Also, if you want, you can purchase 1,2,3 Magic, a book that helps with discipline for each age group. Its an excellent book. I recommend you look into it.

When I was pregnant with my second, my 2.5 year old daughter was often really mean to me. She only wanted to be with her dad. It was really tough and made me feel terrible, even though I knew that wasn't logical. What I found was the more I let it go, the more she wanted to be around. So instead of saying "oh, I really want to read you books tonight, please?" I'd say "Fine, daddy can read you the stories." I just acted like it wasn't a big deal at all. I presented opportunities to do fun things with me, and if she took them, great. It worked well. She's still daddy's girl, but things are much better. I know yours is older, but your husband could say "I'm thinking about going to the movies/to the mall/out for ice cream, etc - anyone want to come?" and see what happens. If they don't want to, he can let it go. But keep providing opportunities. Sometimes I think that the thing that she liked the best was having me almost beg for her attention. When she lost that, the activities themselves became fun. We then fought less too, because we were having fun together. It also made things much easier on me, because I didn't feel like I was asking my daughter to like me. They'll come around.