Hands in the Pants

Hi M.:
Your sons actions are not abnormal for his age.Children become more aware of their bodies at this stage,and they tend to worry about something foreign coming out of that body.I guess you might compare it to A woman who might experience A large blot clot during her menstrual.It doesn't seem normal,and its sort of scary.I don't believe hes intentionally trying to make a mess.I think that he is exploring his genitals,(which is quite normal)and while he has his hand in his pants,because of the sensation he gets,he relaxes and therefore has a bowel movement or wets.Once he realizes what he's done,he is lost as to how to get the mess off of his hands,and attempts to get it off making more of a mess. I understand his action is frustrating to you,however Your reaction,is going to play a big part,in how he gets passed this,better understands and moves on to accomplish his goal. You mentioned (Pants) So I'm hoping that means underwear and not (Pullups) He won't move forward,as long as he is wearing something that absorbs any accidents.He needs to feel uncomfortable,he needs to recognize and be aware of what his body is doing,so he knows when to act.(Go to the potty) Patience,and understanding. Letting him know that you understand its not easy,but building up his self confidence, so he wants to do better and please you.I'm sure you know that Shaming him,or humiliating him for accidents while he's learning,will cause confusion and relapses.I wish you and your growing son the best. J. M

M., my ped assures me this is completely NORMAL!! My son is 4 and has been playing with himself for well over a year. It's like they say "once they find it they don't leave it alone." My ped suggested telling him if he wants to touch it he needs to do it in his bedroom. 28 months is still a little young for him to grasp that concept. My son is 4 and I still catch him doing it where he shouldn't be. I just immediately remind him that he needs to go to his room. Also, I do notice he does it more when he seems bored. So, I try to distract him with something new (when possible).

Whatever you do, DONT tell him it's naughty. This is a normal thing, as sexuality or just sex is a normal, human thing. YOU know it, YOU grew to know genitals and sex. Tell him not to do it becuase he will get germs and be sick.

W

Hi M.,

It sounds like your munchkin is needing some of your attention and he doing what ever it takes to get it. The only problem is he is getting the negative kind, but none the less he is getting your attention. My first child did the same thing once my second child came along 13 months later. The poop thing is normal once or twice. I know you are exhausted and tired but remember positive reinforcement for your 2 year old is very important. He misses his mama's attention.... and is doing what ever he can to get it.

Good Luck!

Sita Helms

Aloha M.,

Both my boys did that........thank goodness they grow out of it :O)

Blessings,
Marie-anne