Have You Seen Him Yet??

So far no bad times yet.

Yes!! We have certainly gone through the hardest of times together and got through that. He changed some behaviors and has become the best husband,father, best friend ever. I love him more and more each day. I am so thankful for the blessings we have in our life and my husband is on the top of my list--he is one of my biggest supporters and a great all around guy to be around.
Great question!

Yes, I know exactly what you mean. My husband & I have gone back & forth over the years & recently things got just really terrible. I eventually had to tell him to make a choice between going to counseling, taking anti-depressants, both of those combined, or I was leaving. I told him it wasn't fair to me, the kids or him for all of us to live together & be miserable because his chemicals don't want to work together happily. I was fully prepared to start the separation process if that was the choice he went for, this was not an empty threat.

He chose to take the meds his doctor had prescribed for him months ago. It took several weeks, maybe even a full month, but things gradually got better. Progressively I began to remember why I chose him for my partner in life & the father of my children. I remembered how much fun we could have together just hanging out. I began to relax in my own home instead of feeling like I was walking on eggshells.

I spoke to a friend of mine about this just early last week saying how happy I was & how he was really like a whole different guy, but one that I actually LIKED being around.

Then last weekend he was grumpy as hell. I asked him what was going on & he snapped at me. He snapped at our daughter for absolutely no reason. He stomped around the house & closed himself off up in our room. I confronted him and you would have thought I started WWIII or something. Turns out he had missed 2 doses of his pills, but would start taking them again so he could "go back to being a zombie". We fought & fought & eventually went our separate ways for the rest of the day. His point was that the pills change his personality & I should want to be with him no matter who/what he is. My point is that his chemical imbalance makes it impossible for his body to act/think the way it's meant to & the pills allow him to be who he is supposed to be. I told him he needed to tweak his line of thinking to be able to think about it as if he needed heart medication. It doesn't change who you are, it just allows your body to function the way it's supposed to. Different chemicals is the the only difference. Anyway, long story short, he started taking the medicine again. By last night he was back to the nice guy. Apparently for us, the meds will be a long-term solution instead of short-term as we both would have preferred, but if that's what it takes then that's what we'll do.

Like I said, we've had lots of ups & downs, but the ups are so good they're starting to outweigh the bads & I can't imagine living the whole rest of my life without them.

well my story isn't exactly similar...but talking about someone not being PERFECT just being perfect FOR ME...i know exactly what you're talking about. my husband is still a work in progress...but HE'S REALLY TRYING which to me goes a LONG way. he's made huge progress. but still, from the outside looking in, most people probably don't "get" our marriage, or why it has lasted this long...but the funny thing is, i'm okay with that, because i see him for the man he is, and the man he AAALMOST is. he has the best heart. no way could i ever walk away from that. gotta love those men!

Yes. And it made all the difference in the world for both me personally and our family as a whole.

aaaawww Rachel!!!

I'm sooo glad that you see what Jeff has done!! And what he has become!!

Bob seems to think I'm even FURTHER right than he is!! LOL!! There aren't many things he's changed on - he is learning to be a dad - his dad was ALWAYS traveling, working, schmoozing, etc. that he made the choice to be a dad over his career - it was a hard choice - but he made it - he does Cub Scouts, Boy Scouts and baseball...things he never thought he would do!!

And yeah - Bob drives me crazy insane some days!! Isn't that their jobs?! Drive us crazy insane?

YAY for Jeff!!!