HEELPPP! Herpes Issue, How Do I Overcome This?

Super Lysine Plus - is a great immune helper for the virus that causes this. Good luck with everything

You said that he had never been with anyone else before you - what about you? Have you been with someone else before him? If so, it is VERY possible that you have had this all along.....just sayin'.......

Is it HSV1 or 2? Here is a website that you might find more helpful than a Mom's site. It has forums where people can discuss HSV specifically. http://yoshi2me.com/hsv1-hsv2.html I'm not saying you shouldn't be here just that you may not get the type of advice you need here. Anyhow, I also found this home remedies site that you might find helpful.
http://herpes-coldsores.com/herpes_home_remedies.htm other than that all I can say is BUMMER. It will pass and it sounds like if it's HSV1 genitally you will have fewer outbreaks in future. Hope this helps a little. Wanted to add that BUG above is incorrect. You can get HSV 1 which is traditionally oral on your genitals. This was the part I mentioned about maybe this site wasn't your best option. You have to just pass on the negative nellies.

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Bug is incorrect in her advice. You can get herpes on your genitals if you had oral sex with someone who had it on his mouth. And he certainly could have gotten cold sores from his parents.

There are worse things that could happen to you, so you have to learn how to manage it and take it one day at a time. I'm sure you're angry. Talk to a doctor about medications. It is easy to manage.

Yes, you can get genital herpes from a cold sore... so dont let people make you feel like you've been cheated on.
You want to dry out the blisters as quickly as possible. I suggest using corn starch on them and soak in epsom salts or baking soda baths if you have the chance. Your best bet for a quick recovery is drying them out. Drink lots of water to keep your pee from being so strong. And hope and pray not to have another outbreak. some people only have ONE outbreak, others have many. many times you will get an outbreak due to stress. They will come out in different places. Next time probably wont be right by your urethra, it will be somewhere else.... painful still but not as bad. sometimes you will get them on your anus. The gyn can give you some medications..... but I know people that have the virus and dont do the medication and have very few break outs.
You can be mad at your b/f all you want, but that wont make your herpes go away. 80% of the population has some sort of sexually transmitted disease. that's why old people tell you NOT TO HAVE SEX till your married.... but no one listens to that message. Thus the disease.. but yep, that's a whole nother story.
Dry them out. Dont be pissed off at your boyfriend. You had sex with him so basically it's your own fault. herpes happen, so do warts and aids. Just be careful. You are now a carrier for the rest of your life and you HAVE to tell all of your sex partners about it FOREVER.
Dry them out so they pop and heal.

You just need to get a Rx for Valtrex. It is a preventative regimen for herpes. You won't have any more breakouts after you get started on it. For now, use campho phenique for the pain - it helps! I hope you can get past this with your BF. It really isn't a big deal once you get it under control. There are so many other issues that are way worse and/or bigger.

I'm sorry - you are getting wrong advice.

There is simplex 1 (oral) 2 (genital) and Mononucleosis, chicken pox and shingles are also in the herpes family.

You CAN get simplex 1 on your genital region from someone who gave your oral sex while having an oral outbreak. Just like you can get simplex 2 on your mouth if you give oral to someone with genital herpes.

The outbreak does not have to be an open sore... it can be just starting the changes in the skin layers as well as just finishing up it's course.

First of all, you are not alone. I got herpes from my now-husband the same way (if I am understanding you correctly), so it does happen that way.

(EDITING FOR CLARITY because it seems that others are confused or just plain wrong about how the OP got this - You can get herpes genitally if your partner has a cold sore and performs oral sex on you. Oral herpes (cold sores) is usually Type 1 and genital herpes is usually Type 2, but Type 1 can infect the genital area. Your doctor can determine which type you have through a lab test. This is the type of herpes I have and if I am understanding the OP correctly, she does too.)

This is your first outbreak, and the first one is always the worst. That may not help you now, but just know that once you are through this, you will not likely experience anything this bad again. My first one was just awful, very similar to what you are describing. Here's what I recommend. Take the maximum dose of your pain killer of choice (Tylenol/Ibuprofen). Not sure what ointment they gave you for pain, but use that too, and don't be afraid to load up on it. Get some Aveeno oatmeal bath powder and soak yourself in that. If you have a sitz bath you can use that instead of sitting in the tub, but if you're having any leg and back pain (I did), a bath can help with that too. I also found these witch hazel wipes, I think they are made for hemmheroids, that really made me feel better after I peed. Very soothing. They're by Preperation H, I think. If none of this works, call your doctor and tell him/her that you are still in a lot of pain and that you need something for relief.

Yes, this is something you will have for life. However, it is not always going to be this bad for your whole life. The first year I had it, I had several outbreaks, but they did decrease in intensity and discomfort. It's been 4.5 years since I got herpes and I have not had an outbreak for well over 2 years. Given that this is a lifetime thing, you will need to learn ways to manage it. This means paying close attention to your body and your health. Keeping your stress levels down, getting enough sleep, eating well and keeping your immune system up will all help you a great deal. You can also talk to your doctor about a prescription for Acyclovir, which you can take when you first start feeling like you're getting an outbreak - it can help stave it off or at the very least lessen its duration/intensity.

As for the resentment and anger.... BTDT plenty. For me, it just took time. When this first happened, I told him, "Well, you're stuck with me now that you gave me this." And I was only half joking. We're married now and when we're having issues I sometimes think, "What if we were divorced .... I couldn't even go out and date again because I've got this STD." I'm telling you this not to say that you should feel the same way, but to point out that the resentment can be very real, and that you are not a bad person for feeling this way. I will say that one of the biggest drivers of my anger and bad feelings was the pain and discomfort I experienced with outbreaks. As they decreased in frequency, my negative feelings diminished as well. I suspect that you might experience this too.

Take good care of yourself until this first outbreak is over. and feel free to message me if you want to talk more.

Hi C.,

Genital herpes can be managed. A Naturopath will tell you that. If I were you that's where I would go....for starters though, the amino acid L-Lysine will keep herpes at bay. Your body has enough of it to ward off any outbreak if your immune system is good. If not, you need to replenish it. It's something your body is supposed to have. It can be taken everyday with no worries.

Also keeping your immune system in good working order is critical. Three suggestions are a good absorbable multivitamin/mineral complex. (I can recommend one if you like.) A total detox of your body and home. Synthetic chemicals weaken the body so it can't fight off the normal things like illnesses Also, principle Upper Cervical Chiropractic care will also build your immune system. If you don't have one you can go to www.upcspine.com and find one in your area.

This is not a death sentence. With a healthy lifestyle you may never see another outbreak. Remember stress weakens the immune system as well. Forgive your boyfriend. It took both of you to pass this along....

God bless,

M.

Let me understand this. 1. you knew the family and him well before a relationship and now it seems stange and ugly to you? 2. you must have seen him with outbreaks yet never bothered to educate yourself and now you are disgusted with him? every relationship has things to work on to make it stronger. You are more mad at yourself than at him for not taking this more seriously when you knew about his outbreaks. You made the choice to not take it seriously and educate yourself and now your mad at yourslef because he can't be blamed but you have to take the responsibility for your choices. Now you know that life L. decisions are made for you and that takes it out of your hands. See a doctor and learn what can be done for you and then be grateful it is not a STD that was passed on. Appreciate his support and learn how he has stood up to this over the years and talk to his mom about what she has learned.

I only get oral cold sores but L-lysine is a huge help and can minimize or even prevent an outbreak if you take it at the first tingle or sign something starting. I take 2-3 tablets 2-3 times a day, the biggest does on the first day. I think you can get antiviral medication from the doctor. If you in that much pain call the doctor back and see if there are any other medications to ease the pain and get you through this outbreak. Have you tried over the counter pain killers (asprin, tylenol, advil, etc)? The first outbreak is often the worst.

It sounds like counseling or a support group might help you deal with the emotional aspects of this. It is never a bad idea to get checked for other STDs.

sorry to hear that. I guess having herpes/HIV/HPV is not the end of the world. honestly, I'm living with HSV 2 for 2 years. I was upset at the beginning.
A std support site Positivemate.com helps me find useful, up-to-date information for cure..meet lots of warm-hearted people..No rejection or discrimination. We're not alone. good luck to you.

I think is medicine for that you need to call your doc. for a prescription..

My friend (she was also my roommate) got it while in college 11 years ago (didn't use a condom-REALLY regrets that). She was very embarrassed, and didn't tell me much about it other than there is NOTHING that can be done until the anti-virals kick in. Her "outbreaks" have become less and less over the years.

I've heard through a couple of studies that 1 in 4 adults have it?!?!? Maybe someone else here can help you better, then.

It's just one of those things in life, one of those "lessons" that are permanent...

I recommend you talk to your doctor about a prescription, and then you also talk to a naturopath because there are many natural remedies out there than can help or hinder outbreaks. L-lysine is one, lauricidin is another and Master Mineral Supplement is another. Talk to a natural doctor or research them on the internet.

From the website on Lauricidin "Herpes DNA uses the amino acid L-arginine to replicate itself and form a virus. Early studies using laboratory cultures demonstrated that L-arginine was necessary for herpes growth. Another amino acid, L-lysine, blocked the bio-availability of arginine. Thus, the ratio of arginine/lysine amino acids in foods is important. "

http://www.lauricidin.com/

You have many choices in this day and age, and so does your boyfriend. Don't feel like there's nothing you can do!

I am responding to your boyfriend anger. Please know that, when you get over this oubreak, you will start to see things differently. Right now you are in pain and angry and disgusted. It is okay to feel that. When you are over your outbreak you will in time get back to normal. You will always have this, but you will not always have an outbreak. If you take good care of yourself, you may never get one again. Once you see that your life can still be normal, you will relax and be able to enjoy your boyfriend again. Trust me. I didn't think it could happen either, but it does.

I think it's pretty natural to feel anger towards your boyfriend. He has given you a disease that will affect you for the rest of your life. Be angry. I'd be upset if I were you. You should see your doctor again and get more information. I'm sure that when you got the diagnosis you were a little stunned so a lot of the info may not have sunk in. I think a couple others have said it bit I'm pretty sure that your boyfriend did not get that type of herpes through casual contact with his parents. I was under the impression that sex needed to happen - ie the exchange of bodily fluids - for vaginal herpes. There is the possibility that his mother was infected and it was transmitted during childbirth, your boyfriend came into contact through sex with another person, or you came into contact with it. But you don't get it by simply living in the same house as some else. Please get information from doctor or other reputable source. Good-luck and I'm sorry this happened to you.

I know its a tough one...Herpes SUCKS! And it blows my mind they havnt found a cure/vaccine for it yet...but I have faith someday they will!

In the meantime...get VALTREX!! It helps SOOOO much. It makes the outbreak so much shorter and more managable.

Also...dont get overwhelmed by this first outbreak. I have been told by many doctors that your first outbreak will be the worse...And you may never have another or they may come every month...you just dont know. But the first one is always the most overwhelming and painful...the rest should be more manageable.

Sorry you have to go through this...and please dont hold your bf to the wall for this...like others have posted...it is so common its scary and it sounds like he is a good guy who was not f'ing around on you or anything. And remember....it could be worse! : - )

Try to let this be a bonding experience with you and your boyfriend, rather than a divisive one. Think how lucky you are that you have someone who is honest with you and you are comfortable enough to talk to him about it openly. Think of the people who get it from a one night stand or worse or someone they didnt love and then the regret they would feel with that. But you are in a loving relationship so at least you have someone there who is supportive to you and understands, rather than someone who might turn around and look at you as damaged goods or whatever. Let your relationship be that soft place to fall in this situation, the silver lining. At least you still have each other. There is like a 75 % chance you would have gotten it from anyone else you were with anyway according to the statistics that 3 out of 4 people have it in some form! Just give it time. I know it doesn't really go away completely, but think of it this way, if he accidentally bumped into you and you got a bump on your head or a bruise or something, would you hold it against him this way? Probably not. This will get better over time, this is not life threatening, this was an innocent mistake, or accident, that is not going to effect the quality of your life in the L. run. I hope this helps you in your relationship dealing with this. Good luck to you!