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To help my kids like the crib...I would put a shirt that smelled like me in there. The idea of the mattress on the floor would work. {{HUGS}} to you. It is so hard to watch them suffer.

put her in her crib, let her sleep until she wakes up. When she wakes up, just try to console her, give her a favorite animal, give her a hug, tuck her in again, give her a kiss, a nuk, anything..sometimes babies around this age just want to make sure there is some security there for them. Try not to take her out of the crib, as this will just make her not want to go back in and make things worse. This will probably work best if her crib is in another room, if that's not possible, then hopefully this will work while she's in the same room with you!

I had the same problem. He slept with us a few nights until I had it when my son kicked me so hard one night that I saw stars and stripes. I immediately kept putting him in his crib until he got used to it. There will be tears but he had to learn. I was getting no sleep. When I put him down I leave him there. If he wakes I pat his back , reassure him a little and then leave.

My son never had a problem with the crib, but my niece had issues with it from the beginning. She would never sleep in the crib, no matter what my brother and sister in law did. They finally gave up, and put a futon mattress on the floor, and that's where she slept, by herself, without problems. It seemed she just had issues with the crib, and was happy to sleep on the floor. My sister in law had done the same as you, left her to cry in the crib so she didn't want to be there. So, now she's 2 yrs old, and she still sleeps on the futon mattress on it's frame, just like a toddler bed. Try letting her sleep in a safe environment, by herself, but not the crib. Good luck.

I feel for you, and wish I had good advice to give you, but I'm in the same boat--but my little boy is 2 1/2 years old and won't sleep in his bed either!
Sometimes I can get him to sleep there, but just like your little one, he wakes up crying after a few hours. He's been sleeping in bed with me and my husband for months now! He's a ruff sleeping too and has even given me T.M.J. (lockjaw) from kicking me really hard in the jaw one night!
Good luck, and let me know if you get any good advice! :-)

-J.

Hi L., How did you get your older children to sleep in their cribs? I watched the Nanny show on TV and the way she did it was
to put the baby in the crib. The baby did cry but the Mom stayed in the room with the baby and reassured the baby BUT did not take the baby out of the crib. You could sleep on a cot for the first night by the crib and then what they did, on the nanny, was to move futher and further away from the crib. At a point the mom was in the room but did not interact with the baby (ex) don't make eye contact with the baby they see you and know you are there but they have to learn to fall asleep on their own without your aid. It was hard on the mom but it did work in a few days and the baby stayed in it's crib and the mom and dad had their bed back to themselves. You have to be consistent with whatever method it is that you do. Even though a child is crying at times it doesn't mean that there is any problem except that they want to control the situation and they often wear their parents down with their cries. I don't know if you'll try it but what ever it is that you do, good luck and try to be strong. I know it's not alway easy. D.

Hi L., I have the same problem. My daughter is 18 months and still sleeping with us. We get kicked and punched in the night. I tried to put her in the crib-we were up six times during the night and it was the worse night sleep ever. If someone offers you good advice, please let me know

P.S. I am a mother of 4 as well, 22 yr old girl, 20 yr old girl, 17 yr old son and 18 month daughter. It is fun after so many years.

i have to apologize in advance, i have a feeling it will be long. my daughter wouldn't sleep through the night on and off since she was born until only a couple months ago (about 15 months). we tried EVERYTHING, except the mattress on the floor thing which sounds great, but my daughter is a wanderer and we're in such a tiny space that things are w/in reach and she can't be let wander alone. i also asked here and go MANY different responses, and what seemed to work was EVERYTHING. i tried rearranging her room, changing texture of sheets (which i had to do every couple of nights from cotton, to flannel, to that cold cotton), putting on lullabies (throughout the night on cd), putting up a night-lite, feeding her closer to bedtime, and even reading her a bed-time story while she laid down for bed with her bottle and the light off (i sat right next to the night-lite). each time i started something, she would go down quicker, and sleep a little longer. after one thing seemed to not go any further in helping, i'd ADD another thing, until they were all added in together, and she started sleeping through the night. she sometimes wakes, but as long as she has her bottle next to her, she goes right back (and YES, I KNOW that's BAD..i'm attempting to ween her off of that, slowly, but surely it's working, she drinks less at night every week except those i notice she's going through growth spurts). it took me about 1-3 weeks after i was using ALL the tricks for her to sleep through the night. oh, and i also put her oceans wonder back in the crib, sometimes when she wakes up (even with the music playing) she puts it on, and passes out w/in a couple minutes without even a whimper to let us know she's awake...we just know because the oceans wonder is on. i hope that something i suggested helps, they're all the things that worked for me, that were suggested from other moms on here. plus the other moms gave you some really good suggestions too. and listen to the nanny...when you do have to go back in, just tell them it's bedtime, you're there, you love them, then walk out of the room...unless there's some other problem (like a dirty diaper) that usually works, even if you have to do it a couple times a night. GOOD LUCK!

I have the same problem so I would love to hear everyone's advice on this.

I went through the same with my husband and my son around the same age. We eventually used the rule of 20, and made sure he was well fed before bed at night to keep him asleep. Rule of 20 is waiting at least 20 minutes of crying before "rescuing" the baby. If he stops crying anytime during that 20 minutes, and starts again, the clock starts over again. It breaks your heart a bit, but knowing it's not hunger and the pants are clean means he is just being a grump and needs to be taught night time is sleepy time. I would also put something like the ocean wonders aquarium in the crib. At that age they have figured out how to turn it on and off themselves with their feet (both my kids did it). It's a little bit of light, something to watch, and soothing music. The best advice I can give is be patient, and if the baby cries, it does not mean you are a bad parent.
PS-- The rle of 20 also means you are not allowed to turn the monitor on for that 20 minutes as well.

ya have to just keep putting her in there. be persistant cuz the bad habits are hard to break. i had some difficulty with my youngest staying in the crib. id plop my pillow and blankie on the floor to reassure him until he fell back to sleep.id lay there and sleep.he realized i meant business. my hubby and i took turns, and after a couple of weeks he stayed in the crib again. best of luck to you!