Hitting Cousins

Would it help if you could talk to your brother privately and explain to him that you have been noticing that your children are being hurt by his children and if he is aware of this(I"m sure he is, but this gives you the opportunity to talk to him without getting upset with you and hurting family relations). Ask him if you can work together to stop your children from getting hurt by his children?--if he is not willing to try to cooperate with you ask him if he is willing to speak to his children about this and that you do not want your children to be hurt and it hurts you when your children are being hit at get togethers. Hope it works! Love and prayers, W.

Put them at a table with enough space that they cant reach your babies, put them on separate chairs or couches in the living room while watching a movie, basically keep space between them and as soon as they move close to your children change the activity. Make your hubby talk to his brother, if he wont refuse to see the family, who cares if you are on eggshells, your babies deserve to not have to sit and turn the other cheek all the time.

E.,

I had the same sort of issue with my nephew. He likes to push and plays real rough. I think it's due to the fact that all his cousins are older and they watch wrestling and play real hard with him. Both my son and my nephew are around 2 now.

When I first started noticing my nephew taking toys (we teach our son to share, but taking toys someone is playing with is not OK.) and pushing and stuff, His parents didn't say anything. They seem to think it's funny that the younger cousin is doing this to the older (by 2 months cousin)I didn't voice it but talked to my husband about it.

My son wrestles on the floor with dad and likes to have tickle fights with people, so I'm ok with a little "rough house" play, but not take it away, I want it, push you out of the way you could get hurt type of stuff. We are not chummy with them either.

We finally decided if his parents wouldn't say anything we would. So next time he pushed, I told my nephew no...and I still do this. They haven't really said anything to us about it, but I've noticed, when I tell their son not to do something they start paying more attention to how he's acting at that time.

I guess I would just take up telling your neices and nephews that's not OK, not yelling or anything. If the parents have a problem, then that's thier deal and then they can take the initiative to talk to you about it.

You should be able to voice your opinion about how your kids are being treated, even if it is just to the kids.

Hi E.
My nephews are the same way. I just started to tell them it is not nice to ... and leave it at that. If it continues and its in my house they get the warning and then they get the same time out would give my children.When we are at my moms. We all will tell the kids to be nice(there parents also are very unaware of the childrens behavior because they allow it at home.) Hope this helps :) T.

Even if my sister/brother and I got along perfectly well...I would step in and discipline my niece or nephew for their bad behavior...

Don't stand by and watch a younger child be bullied by their older cousins...especially if their parents aren't going to do anything. if it continues to happen, remove yourself and your children from the situation completely.

I guess for me it wouldn't matter who's toes I stepped on to protect my children and let my children know that they don't have to be hit or kicked or punched...

if they are older, they should know better...your children are still young, but even your 3 year old should know that hitting and kicking isn't right...