How Do Babies Come?

I always try and be honest up until her age or what she needs to hear..he didn't ask how they were made, J. how they come, so I would start with that and explain that they grow in a mommies belly...and then answer as many questions as he has....he may only need to hear one or two or may need to know the entire process....but I wouldn't lie b/c eventually another kids going to shock him with the truth at school, more parents I know now adays tend to be honest and educational

My sons (5 and 7) asked this same thing recently, and I simply told them the truth in age appropriate terms. I said that a baby gets half of what it needs from the daddy and half from the mommy and than it grows in mommy's tummys. They were happy with that explanation.

I'd hit the library to find age appropriate books to explain it. If you want your son to have a healthy and respectful attitude towards sexuality, sex, himself and women, BOTH of you should talk to him about different things, conversationally, as he matures. The "talk" doesn't do much - I think it has to be an ongoing discussion when you have opportunities to talk about the different aspects of it (love, responsibility, respect, etc.).Think of how you WISHED your parents had talked to you and what you wish you had know or what you wish the boys/men in your life had known, and use that to help you figure out how you want to talk to him. Same with your hubby. Good luck!

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When I first started getting this question from my kids, I focussed on how the baby grows in the mother's womb. We looked at pictures of the different developmental stages of the embryo and it seemed that's what answered their question at the time - there was no need to go into conception details just yet. It came up again recently with my son (8.5) and I just explained in a very biological manner and I told him exactly what's happening when a baby is conceived while I kept a very "teacher" like tone (or so I hope) because I didn't want to start a giggle-concert. He listened and said "Yuk. I'll never do that." and walked away... Well, at least now he knows :)

My six year old hasn't asked yet. Right now she thinks when you get married, you have a baby. Even when she does ask...I don't plan on fielding that question until she's of an age that it matters (i.e. puberty.) I will not lie, either...but my pastor gave me some good advice on this one. "Answer only what they ask." As in, they may be satisfied with a VERY simple answer. I would say that God creates the life when He feels the time is right.

I totally get 100% medical terminology on my kids. They get bored and walk away, but at the same time, I'm not lying to them! I'm telling them the truth, it's just not as fairy tale as they'd like to hear and stop listening ;) One day, in health science, they'll hear the same stuff I was saying all along ;)

Just say whatever you're comfortable with. You know your child better than anyone, and what information they'll understand.

I read an answer somewhere that I thought was really good. They told the child that the Mom has a special spot on her body between her legs that gets big so the baby can get out...then gets small again after the baby is born.

Kinda vague but also accurate...I told him son and he just seemed uninterested so it at least shut him up without a lot of follow up questions...lol

I've always told my son (now 8) the proper terms for ALL body parts (male and female). I told him that when a husband & wife want a child, they ask God to help them and the baby grows in the mom's uterus and after 9 months, the baby comes out of the body via the vagina.
All he's missing now if the "Part A into Slot B" part of the equation, which is coming soon..... Good luck! :)

I really like this book:

http://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Stork-Families-Friends/dp/0...

It talks about things simply and in an age appropriate manner while giving good information, and holds the kids interest. There are 2 other books in the series, appropriate for kids as they get older.

Time to get a book or two and explain. Please do not pass up this opportunity to a) impart accurate info b) work in some of your values about relationships and c) keep the door open to further communication in the future. My oldest son never asked a single question about how babies are made or born so we never had a natural opening. It's pretty awkward to be broaching this for the first time with an adolescent. My younger boys were naturally curious and probably know more factual information on reproduction than their older brother does. This isn't a one-time conversation, it's many conversations over many years. Get some books so that you are comfortable with what is age appropriate, take a deep breath and prepare to talk!

Well my kids no what bobbies are for,as for gettting pregnant & having a baby I told them it comes from moms belly button LOL.They weren't 6 my son was 3 my daugther was only 27 months.Sex questions haven't come yet but I will tell them that kissing is for grown ups,so is hugging a friend you wait till your older just the other day I found a note in my sons back pack he didn't bother to share it with me it read I like you as a friend "sons name"then signed yours forever love "her name"I about flipped I read it put it on the fridge to remind me to ask my son about it at a different moment well he came inside I asked him who this friend was I also asked him if he said I love you to her he said no looked at me like I was crazy & what is love look anyway I said your not to tell anyone girl you love them till your older & you know what love is he was like OK mom really can I go & play now.So out he went.I will take the advice from H&H momma I like that one,I tell them what stages baby is in & they loved to feel the baby move inside my tummy.It is funny because they will ask different questions & I just come up with a witty answer for them sometimes it is technical or just flat out the truth as for the sex talk I need pictures to show them what can happen when you have sex i'll have contraceptives to show them & just let them know to make the right choices becasue the wrong choices will last you your lifetime it is something you will have to deal with in your life & if your not able to deal with it then you know what choice to make.

It's always good to let them watch a nature show on Discovery or take them to the birthing barn at the fair, or let them watch puppies or kittens being born, it sort of helps when you start to explain how WE do it.

I think your response is great and age appropriate. Wait until he's a bit older to really answer the question. Usually around fourth or fifth grade is when kids are mature enough to handle the basics. I don't know if it matters who delivers the talk.

I actually just read an article about this the other day. http://breezymama.com/2011/05/16/teach-kid-about-sex/

Reproduction is necessarily part of the human condition. Tell him like it is, in a very matter-of-fact way. It doesn't have to be rude or embarrassing. I recommend the book, 'Where Did I Come From?'. You don't even have to think about what to say, just read them the book!

You tell them the truth with the least amount of details as possible. Only answer the specific question that they asked!!

My kids asked me how the baby gets out of my tummy - I said "The birth canal" LOL ~ it's the truth - they asked no more questions after that until they were older......

That's a good start! My kids grew up on a farm and knew the mechanics of childbirth before we could even discuss it, lol. The beauty of a farm is you usually only see the good and none of the pain or distress of childbirth so they were never afraid. We as humans are different of course but a dog having puppies or a cat having kittens, holding them in their "tummy" for while is a beautiful picture of birth....

God bless,

M.

I told my almost 6 y/o that Mommies and Daddies - or two people that really love each other, spend a lot of close private time together. I told her it is called sex and that is how babies are started in Mommy's uterus.

Be as honest as possible while currently withholding the more graphic details. There is no reason to lie to child about it - sex and pregnancy are pretty basic and natural. No reason to be ashamed about talking about it.