I. Do. Not. Feel. Sexy.!!

Buy some condoms...put on some Missy Elliot....and do what cha gotta do!!!! I am fatter then fat!!! I dont care...neither does my husband. Does he want me thin? yes. Does he want me heathy? yes. While I'm trying to get there, does he want sex? YES!!! I am NOT afraid...fat as I am...we still get the groove on.... I sometimes feel a little embarassed....but he assures me....that it what TRUE love is.....its all about how you touch and feel...the chubby rolls dont matter in the heat of things. ;) Girl, you just gotta get cha freak on!!! Do it, not for him....for YOU!!!!! Men are not as picky as we think.
Dont get me wrong...I'm not obese....but I'm not a stick either!!!!

B., DO NOT take birth control!!! Birth control was death to my sex drive. I had this problem for too long, and when I finally stopped taking birth control, it got much better.

I don't have any other suggestions, except that you are smokin', woman! You got nothin' to worry about! When I used to work out every day, I felt sexy all the time, so maybe join a gym? Or the Y?

I completely understand.
You're already taking a BIG step by working out to gain your figure back. Once you feel like YOU, then you'll probably feel a lot sexier. Also the endorphens from working out will lift you up. :)
Mainly though, DON'T STRESS ABOUT IT. You've been through a lot emotionally from both miscarriages, and you have a three year old so you're probably busy, tired AND frazzled. The last thing we as mommas feel at night after feeding/cleaning and putting our little one to bed is sexy. :)
But when you're feeling unwanted or not like you, remind yourself (whether you truly believe it or not) that YOU ARE YOU, and YOU ARE SEXY just by being you. If you don't believe it at first, you'll slowly get there...
Love yourself momma. You've been through so much, and you deserve to feel loved AND sexy- especially by yourself! ;)

I would love to tell you that I understand but I have only felt good about my body of for 6 months out of the past 7 years. The miscarriages are hard for obvious reasons but then for no so obvious reasons too. I have has 4, I understand that. If you need someone to talk to about that you can send me a private message. With the birth control avoid pills that change the hormones throughout your cycle, like Ortho Tri-cyclen. Keeping your hormone level somewhat constant will help.

It is hormones and I couldn't get a doctor to help me either! So FRUSTRATING. I finally went on my pediatricians recommendation to go to Chalmers Wellness and first visit he detected the issue and I have not been the same since. He can also help you restore your body after the miscarriages! Being a woman is tough, seriously, so be gracious to yourself too. I HIGHLY recommend this office and Dr. Matt will be great to work with. BC pills will definitely affect this aspect of life.....I am finally off them and won't go back! We have avoided pregnancy for over a year (and we are two very fertile people) by using 'raincoats' as I call them.

http://chalmerswellness.com
He will do a free consult.

I should take my own advise more, but exercise is known to help you mentally as well as physically. Start with walking 30 minutes a day, at least 3 to 4 days a week. It will help mentally by releasing endorphins and allowing you time to think and reflect. It helps physically by getting your heart in better shape, shrinking your waist (remember to hold yourself up by concentrating on your core while walking by holding your stomach in), and helping with weight loss.

Another idea: I have heard there are some gyms that offer pole dancing exercise classes. It is supposed to be great for the core, confidence, and is fun so you don't feel like you are "exercising."