I Was Stood Up!!!!

arrggghh... I would be mad too. I couldn't say if her religious affiliation had anything to do with it or not, but regardless that's way uncool! I actually stopped going to play groups with people I didn't really know, because of this type of thing happening. Seems like most of the people I'd meet were flaky or we just didn't have a thing in common (or both). Sorry this happened to you, and better luck next time.

well that really does suck to say the least. Don't think that you are the only one, I live in Salt Lake City! and little rude things have happen to me too. I'm christian but like you I will befriend anyone that I want. If you say "hi" to me I will say "hi" back. I was actually had a best friend who was Mormon and her parents really like me. That is until they found out that I did not belong to that religion. Suddenly I was NOT allowed to go visit her, when I would call her her mom would hang up on me, just plain childish.
I was really upset because it was obvious, hello everything is fine until the question of being mormon comes up! Well I decided that I wasn't going to say anything about it, just because they were going extremely low as to judge someone, I didn't want to do the same. I felt like I should be the better person and just let it happen. Oh but it has really changed my mind about a lot of things with that religion. That was only one experience. I've lived here all my life.

just show her you're not at that level. You would not waste anyone's time.
Well I hope that helps.

I AM LDS living in UT, but born and raised in CA, so I am used to being the minority. I'm sorry that you were treated so awfully regardless of what religion you are. I am not naive enough to think that it wouldn't happen! I know that the prejudice happens. Hopefully you can give her the benefit, until you find out otherwise. I think that you should at least just try to clear the air and get a confirmation of what happened. Take comfort in the fact that you would never treat anyone like that and your happy spirit will shine to those who want to be true friends!!! Good luck.

I'd ask her about it. It sounds very strange to me. I'm in a playgroup and sometimes we end up at the park by ourselves, too. We moms just get too busy sometimes and it's hard to get to playgroup.
I don't know why she drove away, but don't get upset yet. It's possible it was someone else in the playgroup (in mine three of us have similar looking vans) that isn't comfortable having her kids play with someone she doesn't know yet. Or maybe somebody threw up in the car as they pulled into the lot so they went home to clean up.
It may just be a simple understanding. So ask about it.

B., I'd ask her what happened and why she didn't respond to your text, let her know that your feelings were hurt but that you wanted to understand why she didn't let you know she wasn't going to make it. See how the tree shakes out so to speak. but definitely talk to her. maybe it is because of some prejudice she has, maybe it isn't the only way to find out is to ask about the situation, if you just let it go you will be upset and have to assume it was on purpose just to be rude. which might be completely wrong, it could be she lost her cell phone or its battery died. or that she spaced the play day and her phone was buried in her purse. a million plausible reasons and maybe she is embarrassed to talk to you about it. most likely she has no idea that you are festering over this. or she might just be deranged but its best to get the truth from the source instead of making up your own truth which can be way off. I know when my kids are involved I immediately go to momma bear mode too. and I have to tell myself all this same stuff, come up with plausible reasons it could happen just to calm myself down and get to a place where I can then talk to the other person and get the air cleared. sometimes the truth turns out to be some thing simple and things are cleared up and sometimes it has ended up even worse than I had been thinking! lol. but regardless at least I know what is really going on.
take religion out of the emotions (if you can) and come up with reasons it might have happened. most likely it will be a situation that an athiest, or a baptist or buddhist could have put you in--so remove the religion part UNLESS you find out from her that it really is an issue.
my guess is she wouldn't have invited you at all if religion were an issue for her.
also possible she told you the wrong day and didn't even realize she has done that.
anyway just some thoughts. but definitely say something and tell her that it did hurt your feelings and then give her a chance to tell you her side of the story, from there you can get a feel for what is really going on and move forward.
I hate being stood up good reasons or not so I get your frustration big time and with your kid involved well yeah, anyway thats why I just shared what I make myself do in this kind of situation.
hopefully it is a huge misunderstanding that gets cleared up with apologies and sincerity and you can go on to have great friendships with this lady and her friends. regardless though you will go on to have great friends because of your great way of seeing the world that people are who you are making friends with...not their religions. lol.

I really hope and don't think she meant anything by it... I am LDS... and our ward occasionally has park days and sometimes we would be the only ones that would show up and other times there has been 5 or 6 other moms there, just depending on schedules etc. Next time you see her maybe just ask her if something came up and let her know that you guys had gone and no one else had been there... maybe in passing mention that you had seen a van that looked like theirs and see what happened. I really hope it all was a mistake or something just came up!

the glaring thing is that she didn't respond when you texted her. Who knows, maybe her kid fell off the face of the earth or something so she was otherwise engaged... but I agree, sounds like some prejudice or something. Sometimes things start later, but you were there for an HOUR. I wouldn't say CONFRONT her, but you should ASK her about it. You're welcome to come to my playgroup. I live downtown but its not that far from Centreville. I'm LDS from DC and I relish my friends who aren't. Its refreshing!

Hi B.,

I don't mean to be rude, but I think you are reading way too much into this! I think you are being rather hard on this mom, when since you are a mom you ought to be able to understand how crazy life gets and how daily plans don't always go how they're supposed to. In my neighborhood the moms TRY to meet at the park once a week - some weeks, lots of moms show up, and other weeks it might just be one other mom and me. One week I was the only one who showed up. Many weeks I have said I'd be there and then my baby has decided to nap at that time, or our fridge is empty and I realize we have to grocery shop instead. I think moms are all doing the best they can and life with kids can be crazy. I think you'd be better off letting go of some of your paranoia concerning the whole LDS issue, also. I am LDS, some of my best mommy friends are not LDS - it has never been an issue for me. I will be friends with women who I click with and who have kids that click with my kids, regardless of religion. Chill out, momma!!

p.s. - Practically every mom I know drives a minivan - the van you saw was possibly not your friend's van...