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Smiling just reading your post... congrats!
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...and I hope you are happy for me too.
I met someone, and I just want to tell everyone in the whole world, because I'm so happy.
It's still early, but I think this is probably "the one".
I wasn't attracted to him at first, but we've been talking on and off for years. He recently told me that he used to see me at my old job all of the time, back in 2004-2006, and that he tried to talk to me then but I was not at all interested. I have no idea what he's talking about, but I think it's really cute that we have a "history" that I'm not even totally aware of.
He gets me, he is supportive, he listens, he is sweet, he knows everything about me and he's ok with it, he is respectful of my daughter and me, he is responsible and secure in his life, and he's just everything I was looking for...without really even knowing it.
I've been praying, and just like going to nursing school came to me in my sleep... dating him came to me in my sleep. I told him I couldn't sleep until I told him that I had a feeling we should try to date. We have 3 dates planned, and tonight we had the "are we exclusive" talk... and we both agree that we are exclusive.
I'm just really happy!! I can't believe how quickly so many things have fallen into place for me with just a little bit of prayer and a couple big leaps of faith. I just thank God for everything in my life right now. I am amazed and moved by how much He has blessed me.
I don't know how to date with a 3 yr old daughter though!! lol but I'm sure we will figure it out. Feel free to give pointers if you have them though.
You all here are to thank for everything going well in my life. You all pushed my into therapy, and helped me clear so much of my doubt up. I'm so happy. He's coming over tomorrow morning and we are spending the day together while Juliana visits her dad's family. I'm cooking for him and he is bringing a movie. The plumber is coming and so is another worker guy lol... and my cousin also has to stop by...so hopefully we have enough distractions to HELP keep it PG ;)
Smiling just reading your post... congrats!
I am happy for you!
It's just wonderful for you to have this and to trust in God. What a joyful gift you have been given.
Just remember Joy is the key and Joy comes from the heart of your heart, your soul.
As for your 3 year old, I wouldn't involve her a whole lot at this point. Of course for her to know him, but not to close. Let it take it's own course. You two need to spend time together. Let him involve himself with her and see how it goes, see how he is with her and her with him.
Have fun!
Congrats! Its nice to be happy and that first love high is so wonderful! Enjoy it while you can!!!
So very happy for you! I hope he "is the one". Congratulations!! :)
First off I am happy for you.
Second I will tell you that nobody is perfect and let things just flow. Dating with a child is rather difficult but actually makes you think more of what you are doing in most instances. I would inform your DD that he is a friend for now, just until you get to know each other more.
Trav and I dated in high school before I had my son. I felt I was ruining my perfect little innocent catholic boyfriend so I left. We stayed in contact for four years and got back together in August of 2011. When we got together and it was time for DS to meet him, we took him to the armory to see the military trucks, and to pick him up from flood duty for the day. It was short. My mother took him for the rest of the day. We started this way and slowly grew up in our time together. I will tell you even knowing him for almost 6 years there were still things that shocked me about him... Things that almost ruined us... Take your time, learn eachother, let your daughter learn him.
Congratulations on turning a corner.
Two tips:
Remember- regardless of how awesome this guy is, to take things slow. Don't start adjusting your life to his until there are some serious commitments on the table.
Dating with a young child? Babysitter. For a long time, once again, until there is a commitment, do not bring this guy into your daughter's life. If you are really in a bind, meet for lunch and keep the PDA to a minimum. If he really wants to have a long-term relationship, it will happen and you will have all the time in the world for he and your girl to develop a relationship with each other.
I am so happy for you!!!!!!
SJ this post is so refreshing!
