JFF: Piggyback on Lonely Only Children Question

I have one younger sister that I was raised with (and a half sister made in Korea when my dad was in the service), I'm 46 and she is 41. I swear we come from different planets!! We were never close as children and still are not. We are different in hundreds of ways.

I am so thankful for the one decent decision she made in her life though. She had a child 19 years ago and knew she didn't want her and asked me to take her at ten days old. Best decision ever!!

I have a younger sister (22 months younger).
We've never got along - not in 50 years - and we still can't stand each other.
We're not close.
We're different as day and night and it's really hard to believe we're related at all.

I am the second of five, born within 6 years of each other. The longest span between any of us is the 23 months between my older sister and me. She went to college in another state and never came back. We're not close, probably because she really wanted to be an only child. She visits once or twice a year - we're not hostile or anything, she's just very different from the rest of us. My next sibling was an addict and died last year. Most of us were estranged from him for the better part of 10 years, because of his addiction and the things he would do, like raid your medicine cabinet or pawn your electronics. My next brother is less than 3 years younger than me but is like a grown up teenager. He's very sweet and when he's on vacation, likes to do things like come to my house and sleep in my hammock LOL. I'll be trying to work from home and manage a houseful of kids and their friends, cook dinner, etc. and there's uncle M, asleep in my hammock! He and my husband hang out and go to hockey games and fights together, and he takes my kids out to the movies every now and again. He's also good for coming to my house and cooking because he wants to try a new recipe but doesn't have all of the herbs and spices needed and knows that I do. My younger sister is 4 years younger than me and despite her living out of state for several years until last year, we have always been close. Now that she lives nearby, I see her at least once a week and my niece spends a lot of time with my sons.

i'm gonna try to stay in the "jff" mood of this question ephie, i'm sorry but questions like that other one get my blood boiling.

i have three siblings. no, we are not real close. in fact as we have grown to adulthood i am finding out that we really have much less in common than i thought. our lives have taken us on very different paths. some i am closer to than others...but none are my bff. we do family things and make efforts to spend time together because we are family and we love each other. they have many wonderful qualities and i appreciate and am thankful to have them in my life. but would i be friends with them if we weren't related? i have to be honest and say probably not.

I am the oldest of 5 and the only girl. We were close growing up, although it was frustrating to be the only girl as I was excluded a bit from the "boy games" sometimes. Of course, we all kind of took turns excluding someone. We loved each other at times and hated each other as well! I was like a mini-mom to the youngest 2 as my mom had to work a lot so I always did the child care.
Now that we are grown we are not very close although we live near each other. I love my brothers because they are my family, but they are not people I would CHOOSE to hang out with. In fact I have had to hide everything they post on FaceBook because it is always so darn irritating and immature. We all pretty much have polar opposite opinions on religion, politics, child rearing, finances, appropriate social behavior etc. But if they are ever in need I would be the first one to help. I am very close to my Mom, however.

1 sibling by birth-don't get along and never really have. We have nothing in common. My older by 20 years non-bio sis is my other half. She forgets we aren't bio related and says funny stuff like " be careful cause food allergies run in our family" and I have to say with a laugh "not to me LOL". She cracks up every time. I love her to death and she is my best friend, but we didn't grow up together. We grew the relationship.

1 sister. She is 2 years + 1 day older than me. We are VERY close. She is my BFF. We talk EVERY day. We couldn't be more different if we tried, seriously, we are like night and day. We do not agree on anything...taste in clothes, movies, food....politics, child raising and parenting, money & responsibility...you name it and we do NOT agree on it!

~I still ask for her opinion on things...even though I never take her advice! ;)

Siblings, yes. Close, no. We are sooo very different. No bad blood, or hard feelings. We simply never related, never became close. They all live within 10-40 minutes of me. I have not seen at least one of them in more then a year.

Growing up we had a full house, and I always felt lonely.

I have two brothers. One is 30, the other 22. I am the oldest. The 30 year old brother and I are best friends. We grew up together, however, it wasn't until high school that we got along. We fought constantly when we were younger.

My youngest brother is my half brother from my father's 2nd wife. However, the half doesn't make any difference to me, he's my brother. I'm very protective of him, and he is going through a lot at the present.

My siblings and I have some very similar characteristics, and personalities.. Their are some differences, but, to me, it's embraced, not ridiculed. We are accepting of each other. Especially now when we are all adults.

I am the youngest of 3. My sister is 4 years older and my brother is 2 years older. We all fought at different times when we were young. Now we get along very well. I talk with my sister on the phone almost daily. I probably talk with my brother once a month. My brother and sister talk more often than that. We all live in different states now but enjoy the time we get to be together every summer and at Christmas when we go to my parents home.

I am the oldest of 5 and the only girl. I am 35 and my youngest brother is 23. There are 3 in the middle of that!
I love all of my brothers because they are blood. I like 3 of them, I really have a hard time with one of them. My middle brother (well, the middle child) and I joke and hang out when we are all together as a family, but it is rare for us to call each other just to chit chat. He is not a chit chatter. My youngest brother is great. He is great with my kids, we call each other, we get each other. We laugh all the time about how we were raised by two different sets of parents. Mine were CRAZY strict when I was growing up and they were SO LENIENT with my youngest brothers. There is another brother in there that I like quite a bit also, we text and joke and have a good time. It's the brother that's closest to me that I usually have a hard time with. We don't fight or anything, but he is very closed minded, ALWAYS thinks he is right, and seems to be spoiling for a fight. He is an alcoholic and is pretty verbally abusive.
We are all similar about a lot of things and different about a few. For the most part I am pretty blessed with my siblings.
L.

My two siblings and I waited until late in life to fight and be estranged. I never thought I would see this day. I don't care for either of them . Their nasty words during my dad's demise will never be forgotten. I do email or text for birthdays but I will never go to another family dinner until my adult son is a father. I will wait til then because I do believe in extended families and want my future grandchild to have a large family unit.

BTW--I remain close to their adult children and grandchildren.

I have an older brother, an older sister, and a younger sister. I get along with all of them. I talk to my brother on the phone 2-3x/week and my sisters daily. They all live on the east coast and I'm in the Midwest.

I have 2 siblings. I get along with them because I choose to ignore their bad behavior. I am not close to my younger sibling. She is in my opinion self-centered and only cares about having a guy. She does not call for mine or my children's birthday or even attend their parties . My brother and I are closer. I don't think we are similar but we find some common ground. However, I can see future problems with my brother cause he is irresponsible. In my opinion is a little too concerned about my parents' assets because of his total lack of wanting to be irresponsible. That's why I tell my mom to spend it all every chance I get.

I have a brother and a sister (twins) who are 16 years older than me, and a brother who is 14 years older than me. They had all moved out of the house when I was quite little, so we weren't very close growing up. One brother lives out of province so we are not close now. My sister lives out of town, but we still get together a few times a year, and we talk on the phone about once a month. I am close with my brother who lives in the city. Our families spend all of the holidays together and we often get together for birthdays as well. Since my parents are dead I really appreciate that I still have family to spend the holidays with. We all have lots in common.

i do have 1 sister and 1 brother and i sister that passed away in 1992. i envy sisters that are close and have girl time. my living sister -2 years younger than me- don't get along at all never have. we have always been different as night and day. and the sister that passed away was 7 years older then me so with that age difference we weren't close either. my brother (5 years older than me) and i have only been getting along the last few years.

I am one of 7 children, #3 to be exact.

My parents did not teach us to get along and they certainly did not role model any admirable behavior. They were physically and emotionally and verbally abusive of each other and of us children.

The simple answer, is no, we do not get along.

I have a very close relationship with my youngest sister, whom I raised. I also raised my youngest brother, by unfortunately, my brother has picked up far too many of the worst elements of both of my parents.

My relationship with my sister is more of a mother/daughter relationship. She has turned to me for everything that a daughter would turn to a mother for. It was overwhelming at certain times of my own life, especially when I knew I lacked the maturity and experience to really help or offer insightful advice. Although, she still thinks I know everything.

With my own two children still at home children, I have invested an enormous amount of time teaching them to respect each others 'No' and basic negotiation skills in how to resolve conflict and how to get a long, etc. People often go out of their way to compliment me on how well behaved my kids are in public, and how admirable it how truly genuine their friendship is.

Basically, I have made a conscious effort to treat my children equitably in all areas, especially since I grew with the old-fashioned mindset that boys could do anything, and get away with anything. And we girls were virtually indentured servants.

I hope this helps!

one younger sister. one older brother. My sister and I have not spoken since summer 2011. My brother and I used to be very close, but he and I don't talk like we used to. He seams to go in stages of talkativeness. Right now...not so much. He does live across the country from me, and we both have two kids and work full time, but we have always been MUCH closer than I ever have been with sis. I always wanted the close sister relationship, but it just doesn't work for us. She is controlling, manipulative and domaneering. If it's not her way, it's wrong. She has called me names and insulted me in my own house while she was using me and my house to come to my state to date an older guy. She has lied to my family about me, what I say and what I do and I had enough. Dont have time in my life for that kind of drama.