JFF: Who Wakes up with the Wee One(s) on the Weekend?

My husband works shift rotations and normally has his "weekend" in the middle of the week.
So when he works days I get up every morning and on one of his days off I sleep in he gets the other.. When he works swings we trade off who sleeps in every other day since he doesn't have to be to work until 2. And when he works midnights if he gets home and no one is awake when the kids wake up he will get them.. Feed them and then wake me up.

I think you should talk to him about switching with you one morning a weekend. At least every once in a while.
If I get up with the kids it's right around 7 so my sleeping in is normally no later than 8:15 and then I'm wide awake.

My husband. I love to sleep in & it's not as important to him, so he wakes up with kids on his off days.

I do on Saturday morning - that's my wife's time. She goes running and takes her laptop to a Wi-Fi cafe.

Sunday is church so we both do.

Well, when I was married and the kids were little, I worked very hard to not 'inconvenience' my 'poor' husband who worked very hard to support his family. This included never expecting him to get up with the kids.

It never occurred to me that I worked very hard to take CARE of our family and thusly deserved a break as well. I always felt guilty when I had to ask him for help with the kids.

Don't let this happen to you.

:(

Both hubby and I wake up early before the kid's do, we enjoy a cup of coffee for like an hour then the kid's get up and we all will make breakfast together. My husband also works early in the a.m. including on Saturdays and i'm a stay at home mother. But nothing is wrong with you wanting to sleep in every once in awhile over the weekend, work something out with your hubby i'm sure it'll be fine....Have a wonderful Sunday!

Unless I ask him to and the here and there surprises when he wake up and keep the kids busy and quite so I don't wake up, I am the one that wakes up in the morning and in midnight.
I also took that responsibility since he is the one that works and I stay at home.
No necessary because he wakes up early, because of his work many some times he can wake up much later then I do and some other times before.
He also takes naps, lol. I can't take naps.
But any of those bother me much because I know if I ask he would, but what it really irks me is when he snores loud, very loud, because then I can't sleep at all, and I am just there laying there looking at the sleepy beauty sleep and snoring, lol.

We roate - One weekend we BOTH wake up with him, the next is his turn to wake up the next is mine. When someone is sick it alters slightly but overall it works for us.

I'd talk to your hubby about it. Let him know how much you love and appreciate his hard work throught the week...but ask if he wouldn't mind getting up with DD on the occasional Sunday (I suggest Sunday because he probably would like to sleep in on Saturday after working all week).

I'll bet you can work out something together.

Until my son was 3... we split days. I had a breakdown at around 9-10 months and had to finally lay it out like this:

It wasn't fair that he had a 2 day weekend while I had a 0 day weekend. I hadn't had a single day off in almost a year.

Staying at home isn't NOT working. It's working double shifts 7 days a week (unless someone gives you a break). A nanny in our area works 40-50 hours a week (aka 1/3 of the day) making about $2500. Childcare is a JOB. And most stay at home parents aren't just taking care of the kids. They're doing housework, errand running, scheduling, appointment schlepping, cooking. It's a bare minimum 12 hour day, and often a 14 hour day.

I've worked a LOT of stressful jobs. And I can tell ya this:

NO ONE'S 8 hour day = someone else's 14 hour day.

Now... most people don't have a crappy spouse who just goes to work and gets waited on hand and foot because they're "done". Most people BOTH people have 14 hour days. The SAH with 1 job, the Working parent with 2.

In my experience and observation... when a marriage is so unequal that one spouse lives as if they don't have children, and the other lives like a single parent... it's a recipe for divorce.

We always "called it" before going to bed. We would agree who would get up early on Saturday and the other took care of Sunday.

Yeah, you definitely need to have sleep in mornings too! He's getting off too easy, in my opinion - even though he works hard all week - SO DO YOU! When my son took morning naps we would only have "sleep in Saturdays" and took turns (so every other Saturday I would sleep in, and he would have the same chance on the alternate Saturdays.) This was so that on Sundays we could spend morning time together since naps limited time together. Now that he only takes an afternoon nap - he sleeps in Saturday mornings and I sleep in Sunday mornings every weekend! We did this when we both worked full time and do the same now that I am a Stay at home mom. And please don't compare his employment to your unemployment - you're not unemployed, you're a SAHM and that's hard work! Also - your hubby needs some alone time with the little one - thats great opportunity for both of them.

My husband does, because he's the morning person and our dd learned very early that it went better in the mornings if she went to Daddy's side of the bed and not Mommy's. :-)

I have a friend who splits it with her husband, she gets to sleep in on Saturday and he does on Sunday. Maybe something like that would work for you and your husband?

We switch off days, depending on when my daughter last ate. Since I'm breastfeeding, if she eats early and goes back to sleep, my husband will get up with our three-year-olds while I sleep a little bit. The next day we switch and I get up with all three kiddos while he sleeps.

It is always me. I am the morning person. I am up by 6:00 every morning for my "me" time on the computer and whatever else. Hubby sleeps until 9:00 on the weekends.

Well we both wake up pretty much - sometimes I let hubby sleep in. Once in a blue moon I'll sleep in, but since I'm breastfeeding, I have to wake up to feed the baby anyways and I don't go back to sleep all that easily. This weekend, hubby is out of town for work so I'm single mom'ing it till Wednesday night!

yeah i think everyone's different. me and hubby both work 8-5's and while i DO do most of the cooking/cleaning/childrearing, we kind of trade off, although i do get it more ;) but that's also because by the time friday night gets here i'm so tired i'm out by 9:30 and he usually stays up late so i let him sleep in....lol.

My hubby never gets up with the kids.

Am I the only one who taught them young how to make a pop tart, where you can set the TV so that they can hear it but we can't and under the fear of god and nature you don't leave the house? Oh and our alarm would tell us when god needed to get involved just in case they forgot. :p

By the time they were three we all slept in.

Granted sleeping it to me is seven. :s

DH and I take turns. He gets up on Saturdays, I get up on Sundays. Sometimes we swap, if one of us has a night out that we know will be late. But at the minimum, each of us gets to sleep in at least 1x/weekend.
It might be worth noting that I also work full time, so I actually have earlier mornings all week than he does.

I also chose not to breastfeed so that I didn't have 100% of the overnight share of the work. I value my sleep! LOL!

Sometimes it's me and sometimes DH. DS (6) has recently taken to sleeping until 8:30 on weekends so I am actually up before him - yeah - alone time :).

Do you only have one child?

When we just had one, we rotated days. I got one day out of the weekend, and he got one day. This worked out just fine, and you should absolutely bring up the possibilities with Hubby.

Now that we have two, my husband is usually the one to get up with them in the mornings because I'm often the one up with them in the middle of the night, so we consider it an exchange. I do still occasionally let him sleep in, though.