Mad About the Mail!!

My SIL has issues with their delivery person and they have called the post office several times about it - esp. when they were expecting things in the mail that they did not get. The one time, the post master found a whole stack of their mail in the back room - 'no one' knew why it was there.

I don't know if it would do any good for you to call, but it sounds like maybe she needs to call. The other thing that you *could* do is to send it registered mail, or priority, or something that would give you a tracking number. Seems kind of silly for just mail, but at least you would have proof that it was sent....

THIS is EXACTLY why I don't other with samples anymore. They NEVER get to me yet ALL my friends are getting theirs. Last year I snapped when M & M's was doing a Friday morning giveaway and I got an email EVERYTIME saying I was one of the 250,000 winners. I got TWO out of EIGHT to show up. I KNOW my "letter carrier" palmed them. HOW does a mailman weigh almost 350 pounds? By stealing my Mars postcards with free candy bar coupons! BASTARD...that was for my son, not ME!

OMG - how frustrating!!! I am so sorry that happened to you. Hopefully they will be able to make it and you can start mending your frienship ~ I am not really sure if there is anything the post office could do, but it might be worth a try. You did PAY to mail them to her and you paid for their service and they are not giving good service. If it was any other vendor that I use, I would complain so I don't see why you shouldn't with them. Do you know if everyone else got their invitations and announcements??

The post office is about to 'go under' so this is not surprising. I don't know what will happen or when but I keep hearing they are not doing well so I guess we just have to be thankful for mail at all. Sorry this happened as I know it's hard to explain.

Call the POSTMASTER of the specific office that delivers your mail. I have a friend who's mother is a postmaster, and she says if your need results that's the only way to get them.

One of my coworkers lives in, Gads, well one of those po dunk towns just south of St Louis. Ya know the ones were the cops are scary and greedy. Anyway apparently their post office is a piece of work as well. I sent out my wedding invites six weeks before my wedding. She got hers four days before the wedding. :(

After talking to her I can assure you people know when they have bad mail service and the effect it has on their mail. She will probably get the invites around Christmas. :p

The post office won't be able to tell you what's going on. I used to work in a mail center. Once it leaves your hands, they don't track it, and have no accountability for it. (Unless you paid extra money for tracking. Even then, the tracking is not reliable like other delivery services.) They have no way of knowing what happened. Post office closures and job cuts are happening nation wide. They are short on people in every position. I can't tell you how many times we've received mail for someone of the same house number, on a different street. Some, for the town over!! Mail getting lost happens. Unfortunately, it happens frequently now. Hopefully, she believes you and all is well.

Now, if you call the postmaster...they will try and help you. Sometimes, they find stacks of things, or problems with certain carriers, etc. Usually, they aren't a lot of help. Unless her mail gets lost a lot, and your mail gets lost a lot...it was just a freak thing.

Nope, its sadly a lost cause. We have a lot of trouble with the mail at work, and I always get told file a complaint so I do and then nada, same old happens day after day. ANd sure you can call the postmaster but they never ever follow up & when you call to ask about it you just get the run around. Its not worth the fruistration trust me. When she finally gets her invite she should be able to see that you mailed it

My parents' best friends still haven't received our wedding invitation and we're celebrating 5 years next month!

If you call the post office, they will not have any answers. Most likely they will tell you that it probably got mixed in with someone else's mail and that person just tossed it. This happens to us all the time- we get our neighbors' mail and vice versa. We bring it over, but I think this is more common than people realize!

Whether or not she believes you is up to her. Personally, I would make a point of taking a picture of all of your kids together at the birthday party and send it to her with the thank you note!

The mail at the place we last lived was horrible. I had a lot of school loan documents that never made it to me, as well as banking documents and lord knows what else. I could tell that the loan people didn't believe me when I kept asking them to resend me forebearance request paperwork to fill out. They thought I was lousy at keeping paperwork or just completely disorganized. A few months before we moved out, the mailman came to my door which was odd because we had this big mailbox attached to everyone else's mailboxes in the townhouse complex. He had this huge bundle of mail that weighed about five pounds bound with elastics and three notes "apologizing" for mail that had been found in their machinery with other people's mail. It must have been spring cleaning.

In that bundle were six years worth of missing mail including party invitations, loan documents, Christmas pictures, bills, you name it. We always got most of our mail, but five POUNDS of mail missing over 6 years???

I'm sure your friend will believe you if she really has problems receiving mail. And you can still invite her to the party. Who says you have to have a physical invitation?

I would for sure let the post office know when you mailed it and where you mailed it from. They want to know those things....remember on the news postal workers stealing mail and putting it in their garage? There could have been a whole boatload of missing mail. Hopefully you put your return address on both. More than likely, it will come back to you and you will have the proof that you really did mail it OR it could still be delivered to your friend...LATE. If she is any kind of a friend, she will understand...why would you NOT invite her...this is some sort of fluke, everyone knows how unreliable to postal system can be. Just the fact that you mailed them both at the same time says something! Anyway, if you don't let the post office know...how can they improve? Go there, tell them when and where you "posted" your mail, where it was going and just how important it was to you.

I just got missed on my cousin's baby shower then they facebooked to see if I was coming or not. Complete surprise! They said several ladies didn't get their invitations. I hear lots of stories like this these days and I get things I mailed out returned several wks later. I think we're just going to have to live with this, unfortunately.

the mail out here really sucks in my area. I really just can't believe how horrible it is. For my son's birthday I sent out 12 invites that I hand made and only about 5 people actually got it. I do photography and I mailed out a CD of a customers pics. the first time, they did not get it. The 2nd time again they did not get it. They finally got the 3rd one. We had our family photo's taken and it has been almost 2 months and I never heard back from the photographer, so I e mailed him and he said he had mailed it 2 weeks ago. That was a month ago. This has all happened in the 8 months of living here. This never happened when I lived in CA.

The post office probably would not be able to tell you where that piece of mail is. It is unfortunate that there are so many problems with mail delivery. The accuracy of our mail delivery has decreased since the post office automated mail sorting. (Rather than a person sorting your mail, a machine reads the bar code at the bottom of the letter and sorts it that way). Quite often, those bar codes are incorrect and your mail ends up in another town. It is up to the letter carriers to be vigilant in delivering your mail correctly. Right now there are so few mail carriers, that their work loads have increased tremendously. There is an incredible pressure each day to get all the mail delivered by a certain time, (even if that is physically impossible) and many carriers give in to this pressure and rush through their deliveries. Many streets have the same address numbers and it is a common occurrence for customers to receive mail for the guy on the next street. Many carriers are in such a rush that they only look at the numbers and neglect to read the street name, assuming that the machines have sorted the mail correctly. I have been delivering mail for 25 years now and bring about 2 dozen letters daily back to the office because the bar codes have been incorrect and the machines sorted that mail to my route, but it is actually for a different route. That mail has been delayed and hopefully it will reach it's proper destination once it leaves our office. Us "old timers" take the time to do our jobs correctly and we take pride in doing so. The post office does have a lot of problems right now and they need to see that by running things the way they do, their biggest problem is the negative way that so many customers view us. I hope that your friend's invitation will show up at her house soon and that the postmark on the envelope will show her that you really did mail it out to her when you said you did!

No, the post office has real issues to deal with. Things happen, mail slides into the wrong bin, it falls off the conveyor belt and is never seen again...stuff happens. I had a friend send me an invitation to her wedding and I never got it. It ruined our friendship too. But the truth is if you are real friends she should not even need an invitation. She should just know about the party from conversations and plan on being there to help out and have fun. I realize you ladies are having a bit of a hard time but I think that since it was not like them to not respond I would have called her personally. It might be the action that would make her heart softer and yours more forgiving about whatever has come between you.

Maybe she really did and just told you NO. I mean if she's just sitting in the car, anti social, that pretty much says she's not interested. Ask your hubby to ask hers if they in fact got one. If they did and he knows it, he may not say yes. Or he might be embarassed to say if his wife clearly states they aren't attending.