Hello Moms:
Husband and I have been together for 11 years, married 6, and have had a pretty strong secure marriage we have 2 beautiful, healthy, happy children. Husband has always had a bit of a 'tude and was never good at hiding his feelings or holding back on making negative remarks to me in front of people. Unfortunately, within the past few weeks, things have taken a turn for the worse. DH has now taken it to a new level of yelling at me, cussing me out and calling me degrading names. The most recent incident taking place near where family members could hear him. I told him that we needed to separate, me taking the kids and he seeing them on a daily basis, but he snapped and asked for a divorce. I went ahead with preparing forms, but when he saw I was serious in taking these steps, he broke down and asked if we could save our marriage. I am willing to salvage my marriage and look for the man that he use to be, for the sake of all of us. Does anyone know of a good therapist in the San Fernando Valley. Husband and I both have descent jobs, but I work partime so that we could both be home with the kids, so funds are tight. I would appreciate any referrals or advice you could provide.
I'm sorry to hear this. I also recommend seeing the movie Fireproof. It is a great movie about a couple whose marriage is in trouble and how they rebuilt it. Good luck!!
Hi L.. Here is the # to (I think) a great, helpful and caring therapist. His name is Mark Albert and he's in Woodland Hills. I felt very comfortable the moment I met with him. Been seeing him on and off for almost two years and he's just great. I hope everything works out. Good luck to you :)
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Allyn Miller in Woodland Hills
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If you belong to a church or know of someone who does, go there and see if they have any suggestions. Some churches have therapists on staff. Good luck and be careful, sometimes people can change and sometimes they won't.
Try Sheila Newton -- she has an office in the Valley and Beverly Hills. I'm not 100% sure of her schedule/availabliity as she was travelling alot. But I recommend her for couples counseling, particularly the issues you described about your husband.###-###-####
She takes insurance as well. Good luck!
I have a friend that is currently getting her Masters In family therapy and is currently interning, but she might be a good person to start with, not sure if she would charge, but let me know and I can put you in contact with her. She is in the Santa Clarita Valley which is only 15 minutes away.
I would recommend reading "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands"by Dr. Laura. Gives you a lot of power in your marriage. Also "What Women Want" And "What Men Want" by Shanti Feldman. One book for both of you. Also I would highly recommend "The Love Dare" All will give you tools to use right away to make your marriage better. Since you can't change him and only yourself, try doing things to show him how much you love him. Make your home the place he wants to come home to. Try to not escalate the fight. Show him that you're working on it too and the door will be opened for you to express how he can make you happy.
I've been married almost 11 years and realized that we've gone through some rough parts this year. Be thankful he wants to work on it. I also realized that when I'm really frustrated at him, I'm usually frustrating him as well! :) Just try to work on yourself and pray that he will work on himself then also!
Good luck!
Hello, I left the number for a good marriage therapist in your inbox. I am a little hesitant to give any advice (I am not a therapist and honestly do not know the full dynamic of your situation) -but I know this is difficult for you and him, and I wish you the best in staying strong for yourselves and the kids during this time. Also, ever since DH and I have been going to counseling, I rely less on biased advice....it doesn't help and sets up this dichotomy of good/bad, right/wrong. Anything that pits you guys against each other or further apart is not going to be especially helpful, so filter the information you receive from others. Good luck to you.
Hi L., I met this licensed marriage & family therapist at a networking group for women business owner's who seems to know her stuff. If I had marriage & family issues,I would go to her. Her name is Barbara Gibson-Paul ###-###-####. Please call her and if you can let her know she was referred by a Heartlink network attendee. Good luck!
