B.B.
Isn't that the eternal issue? Gossip...
I look around and see different groups of people. The gossipers/ non gossipers, dramaites/ non dramaites, etc.
One of the biggest industries in this country is the gossip industry. All of the "celeb sites", the sun magazine, the globe magazine, well , any magazine. Most "news" shows include segments about other people and not just news...
So alot of people are so acustomed to hearing a constant stream of information about other people that they couldn't distinguish gossip from real news...
I grew up in a family of "big mouth gossipers". They knew EVERYTHING about EVERYBODY... But then made comments like "I don't want to gossip or anything, but I heard from .... who heard from.... that..... etc"
Thankfully my mom and dad were not at all into the gossip scene and sheilded us from those whom were constant offenders. :-)
You can't really convince other parents to step up in a society that says there is nothing wrong with finding out the low down on people no matter if its true or not. All you can do is put a stop to it when you are around.
Saying things like...
How would YOU like it if someone talked about YOU that way.
You should hear what I heard about YOU!!! Oh, nope, not gonna say, thats gossip.
Or just a simple , thats gossip, I don't want to hear it may help.
I know that for myself my dislike of gossip didn't really kick in till I was in my late teens. Now I am thankful that my parents did keep us away from the "talkers" even though I know we were always a source of "juicy talk" since we apparently thought we were "better" than them. lol
At one time my mom and dad caught my older sister talking about a family friend and they made her go to her and appoligize! This friend had no knowledge of it until out of the blue my sister walked up and appoligized about saying..............(yep, she had to list what was talked about) ..... about her. Thankfully she was a forgiving person.
If you do feel like it is something that the other parents need to address in their homes, I would suggest a letter. Basicly
to all the girls who hang out in this group....
I have witnessed quite a bit of gossiping going on when they are together and although I won't name specific people, because all of them, including my daughter are involved. I have talked to them all about how it is not nice to talk of others behind their backs, and just want you, the parents, to know about what I have witnessed.
I try to teach my kids to accept everyone as equals and do not want anyone tearing others and their families down in a public way as I have witnessed.
Please talk to YOUR girls as I have already talked to mine and set the standard of no gossip...
Caring for the next generation....
Expect calls and visits asking what and who were talked about... lol Noone can resist gossip, especially if it MAY possibly have been about themselves...
Also expect some to either ignore or take exception to you trying to "parent "their kid...
Good luck...