Mirena - Kearney,MO

My husband had the snip snip and it is so easy compared to what we go through giving birth. It is a one day out patient process. An ice pack for a little while and that is it! Some mild discomfort. I know others who have done this, same outcome. It is soo much more complicated for women to go through this.

I went thru this exact situation after my 4th was born, my husband said he wouldn't get snipped, but we agreed we didn't want anymore. I actually had the paper work done to get my tubes tied, but there was a mix up in the hospital so I took it as a sign I shouldn't get it done..lol. I got mirena implant and aside from pretty bad cramping the first month, it's really great. Just a little discomfort in the beginning when you get it in and and the cramping. It can be left in for 5 years and then every five years after can be replaced. It is the perfect birth control for me. I tried the pill, couldn't remember to take it, the patch, after all the bad press with that I had to stop.
The only side effects ongoing for me are some break outs on my face (never happened before), and cramps when I ovulate.
I think it's worth it. And if you decide you want a baby in three years you can just get it taken out. Go for it, let him be a baby. Tell him you can handle it!! Good luck.

I don't think it's selfish. I had the Mirena for 2 yrs after my 1st pregnancy and loved it!! Had it removed & got pregnant **immediately**. After my more difficult 2nd pregnancy my husband was certain he didn't want any more kids. However, I wasn't positive, so I had the Mirena inserted again @ my 6 week follow up appt. I had slightly worse cramping than I remembered the first time, but not unbearable. When I went back to make sure the IUD was still in place, my OB/GYN couldn't find it. After an ultrasound and xray, it was found to have gone through my uterus & was floating around in my abdomen. I had to have surgery to have it removed! I also had pretty bad postpartum depression after my 2nd one was born. After all the problems, I decided I was also done having babies - I couldn't put myself or my kids/future baby through this hell again. I agree that I had been through enough - 2 pregnancies, labors & deliveries, surgery, breastfeeding two kids & all the associated trials & postpartum depression. My husband had his vasectomy in September & it was no big deal. I do miss not having periods, though - the greatest perk of the mirena as far as I am concerned.
As a side note, I think it is pretty odd that of the 44 responses so far, 2 of us have had a complication that is supposed to only happen in 1/1000 insertions.

I replied to the wrong email. Please disregard.

Sorry

To let you know about the Mirena, it is a very simple procedure done in your doctors office. My friend recently had it done. It just takes a few minutes. Any time you want it out, you just go back and the doctor will take it back out. It can stay in a long time or a short time. The decision to get the mirena or your husband to get a vasectemy is of course a decision you and your husband need to make so I am not trying to tell you what to do. But I would suggest that if you and your husband are not agreeing at this time about which to have done, you should have the mirena put in. For more information you can check out the website. It is Mirena-us.com.
My husband has had a vasectemy mostly for medical reasons it needed to be done, but part of it was by choice. Now two years later we desperately want to have another baby. To get it reversed it will cost us thousands of dollars and it may or may not work. We are not sure if we will ever have another baby that we want so much. But two years ago when the youngest child was almost a year old we thought we were done. If you're husband is saying he's not done having babies then I'm not sure I would get something so permenet done. The mirena can be temporary and if you both decide you are done then the vasectemy can be done at a later time. I would just hate for either of you later on down the road to go through all the pain of watching everyone else getting pregnant and having babies when you know that having a baby yourself is impossible. It is a horrible feeling, and if I could I would go back in time and make a different decision. I know that what I've said may not be what you want to hear, but I hope it helps.

I was in a similiar situation about 11 years ago following the birth of our second child. My OB/GYN was very supportive of me and when my husband and I met with him to discuss our options, he put it straight forward to my husband. Either he could give up all of his free time, following work and the weekends to wait on me for 3 weeks following my procedure, like doing laundry, child care, cooking, housecleaning, etc., or he could get a procedure and let me baby him and wait on him for the weekend. I guess since the advice came from another male, he took it, because we had discussed it briefly, and it was not something he would consider. Call a eurologist's office and ask for a brochure. The brochures give a lot of information and will really put his mind at ease. Let your husband know that our sex life has doubled since the procedure, since I don't have to worry about protection and since my husband got a procedure so I didn't have to, it has made us so close and intimate. It meant as much to me as me carrying his child and giving birth to his babies has meant to him. Most of the male procedures will take place on a Friday, so they can have the weekend to recouperate. My husband had the procedure on Friday morning, was taken care of by his attentive wife through Sunday and returned to work on Monday. He had very little pain. He was up and moving perfectly fine on Saturday morning. In fact, my husband felt so good he wanted to cut the grass, but decided, he'd better heed the doctor's advice, and took it easy for the weekend. Make sure your husband does the same! Good luck.

I think getting your husband to have the vasectomy is the best all around answer. It's quick, easy, safe and 100% effective. The IUC is and IUD and regardless of wether they admit it in the pamplet they pass out to promote it, it will allow you to concieve. It just prevents your undeveloped baby from implanting itself in your uterus which prevents it from growing to maturity. I really hate to tell you that - but it's better to know NOW than to get the IUC and later realize what it actually does and live with the guilt of having had one. If you're pro-choice - you may have no problem with abortion, but if you're pro-life it's not for you. Read this:
http://www.ewtn.com/library/PROLENC/ENCYC032.HTM

Blessings,
P.

I have been using the IUD for 4 years. The mirena ( If I'm thinking of the right one, but it is metal and can stay in for 10 yrs. at a time.) The IUD is plastic, and it sit on your ovary to where the egg can rest there. The IUD rubbs it off. I have to kids who are Four and three. I am ready to have another one this coming April. When I had my second child, I thought I would never have another one. But, here I am, ready for a third. After this one though, I will be done. But, about the IUD, I cant fill it, and either can my husband. Your periods are very light if you get one. So it's nice. Also if you decide to have another baby, you can get pregnant faster then if you were on birth control. It also has nothing to where it messes with your hormones. About your husband, I would never pressure my husband to do a surgery like that. Because it's less expensive for us, and if you decide to want to maybe have one more, then all you have to do is popp the IUD out. (Which is what I'm doing- It takes 5 minutes) It's like getting a papsmear, that is how they insert the IUD. With your husband even if it is a man thing, there is nothing wrong with that. Let him be a man! I hope this helped.

I am kind of in the same position as you. We just had our second child...we have our boy and our girl. And we are pretty sure we are done. He, however, is not ready to get snipped. So I did choose to get Mirena. I love having an IUC. I don't have to worry about the pill. And, not to sound like a commercial...it really is birth control you don't have to worry about. It's always there doing it's thing, and you don't even know it. It also lightens your periods, and they may disappear all together. The beauty of it is that it lasts for 5 years, so you have at least that long to ponder and discuss permanent birthcontrol like a vasectomy or tubal ligation. Or if you change your mind, it can come out! I don't think it's wrong at all for you to want him to get snipped. He might just be scared to do it...seems like all men think they are going to lose their manhood if they get snipped! I say go ahead and get the IUC and spend the next five years working on convincing him that a vasectomy is okay. Maybe by then he will be ready for it! =) Meanwhile you have reliable, essentially free birthcontrol. Hope that helps!!! =)

Hi R.,
First of all, a vasectomy isn't just a snip, snip ordeal that it was once thought to be. There is medical evidence to support that men who have vasectomies are at a higher risk of getting arteriosclerosis than if they had not have had a vasectomy. This is backed by the Medical Association of America. It might be a good idea for you and your husband to spend some time researching this before having this procedure done. Why cause a health problem for himself when it might have been preventable?
Having a vasectomy does not make your husband "become a man", as you put in your questions. It makes him unable to reproduce anymore children. I imagine, in your eyes, he is a man already. Before doing anything that will render EITHER of you sterile, you might want to wait until your 7 month old is two or more years of age. That will give you both enough time to know whether or not you REALLY don't want more children. My husband and I wanted more children, but, due to his having had a vasectomy, we could not. They are so precious, aren't they?
The IUC is an estrogen free intrauterine contraceptive that will last up to five years. It is safe, and can be removed at any time should the two of you decide to enlarge your family further. It prevents pregnancy as long as it is in your body. The IUC is a soft, flexible tube which is comfortable for the user. Your dr. probably has info on this device.
I hope you have had your questions answered to some degree, and I wish you the very best with your sweet family.

I have the Mirena IUD and love it. I have also approached my husband about the vasectomy and he was really reluctant at the beginning but as our 2 very energetic boys get older, he is changing his tune. One nice thing about the IUD is that your periods will be much lighter and shorter or even completely stop after a few months. A small part of me is hesitant to do something permanent as my boys are 5 and 2 and if something happened to one of them, I may want to have another child. My husband has become willing to have the vasectomy after I've made him do more with the boys by himself to give me a break and he see how much work they are. So may you need to leave the kids at home with Dad and go to the mall for a couple of hours and maybe he'll changing his tune.

Hi R.!
No it is not wrong for you to want your husband to get a vasectomy! I am wrking on my third baby right now, but as soon as he is here, my husband is going in for a vasectomy. After my second baby, I had the Mirena put in. After twelve weeks of bleeding and cramping I went back to my doctor and had him take it out. I really wanted it to work, but I was sick of the side effects. My doctor said that he has only removed the IUD because of side effects one other time, most women love it. I will say that most insurances do not cover it and it costs about $600. My doctor said that you can get pregant with it, at least the Mirena that I had was 99%. As far as your husband....two things come to mind. Tell him that you are worried about side effects (although I dont think that you should be!-my experience was not the norm, most women love it) Put your foot down! Afterall it would mean a foreign body inside your own body. Have him talk to other men who have had a vasetomy. Tell him that you will have spotting and sometimes bleeding for up to six months with the IUD! And, I would just tell him, "NO I am not getting the IUD, so I guess that you will have to use condoms or practice abstinence!" That will get him! Good luck.

if you can't both agree on something, don't do anything. Just keep using birth control or condoms or whatever method you use. If one of you does it and is not 100% sure that's the way you want to go, then I can assure you there will be resentment against the other spouce.
Your hubby may need more information on it to feel comfortable. I say both of you read up on both proceedures and talk about the pro's and cons of them together and if you can't agree still, don't do anything.

I have the Mirena and I LOVE IT! It was a very simple procedure and I have had no problems with it. I had some cramping the first day and that was it.

There are two different types of IUD's. The Mirena releases a steriod just like the birth control pill, this will help with regulating your periods or stopping them completely.

As, with anything everyone reacts differently. I have had no weight gain and I have no periods at all! I have had my IUD for 3 years. I also have a girl and a boy and really don't think I want to have anymore, but the beauty of the Mirena is that it isn't permenate. If for some reason in the future after your husband has the snip, snip you decide you want to have anymore children he'll have to under go yet another surgery to have a reversal that you will have to pay out of pocket. I don't think any insurance will pay for a reversal. In addition, a reversal is not guarenteed to work and is very painful and a long recovery.

I would recommend that you try the Mirena. Your baby is still young and I'm sure right now you can say without hesitation that you don't want anymore kids, but you might change your mind when they get a little older and more independant. Don't put yourself in a position where you can't change your mind. If you don't like the Mirena it's just a matter of making an appointment to have it removed, no recovery, no worries! In addition, it gives you and your husband a little more time think about your decision without worry of getting pregnant. Hope that helps. Good Luck.

OK- first of all, I would expect my husband to man up, but with that being said... I work with a bunch of men, so I hear many candid conversations. One I will never forget is about the pain and agony of the whole process. They couldn't stop talking about it. Of course, they swore if I said anything they would never admit it, but hey they are guys. Now for the other side. I have the Mirena and LOVE it. I basically have no periods now and the whole procedure was about as painful as a PAP. The Mirena IUD is based off of hormones just like a birth control. It is not the same as older IUDs. Just check out their website. My doc said that many women are choosing to use the Mirena as permenant birth control changing every 5 years. If your insurance pays for it, it may not be a bad idea.

Procedures for men are usually far safer than the sterilization procedures for women. However, I don't know what a Mirena is and will have to look it up.

Your husband is no doubt terrified about having a vasectomy. Most men are. They have all sorts of fears based on exagerated horror stories from other men. Not being sure if he's done having babies? With whom? Definitely a cop out. I would address his fears and the safety issue and then use condoms, withhold sex....whatever it takes.

Although I only want one child, my husband wavers back and forth between that and having another one. We opted to get the Mirena after our son was born (2/06) so we had 5 years to make a definite decision. At that point he completely agrees that if we don't decide to have a 2nd child he will have the vasectomy done.

The mirena is very simple and easy to get and it does let you have a 5 year waiting period of sorts before he goes through with the vasectomy. Perhaps you can get him to agree that if you both don't want another child at the end of the 5 years he will get it done then.

Hope this helps.

Quite frankly, I am shocked and saddened by the responses here. If this shoe was on the other foot and the husband was demanding of a tubal on a woman who was not sure if she was finished having kids or had not made her peace with it, you'd all be all over him for pressuring her. That is absolutely not fair. He is not ready to go there yet, for whatever reason. And it is not fair of anyone to expect him to undergo a medical procedure if he is not ready and willing.

That said--no, it is not fair for the women to have the majority of the birth control choices. But, ladies, that is how it is. We have more choices, where as men have 3--either risk it, wear condoms or get snipped.

If you are not comfortable with the Merenia (sp) then don't get it. But you two need to discuss all your options that you are willing to do and why. Then you make an educated decision from there. Act like adults and understand the feeling of the other--instead of accusing and name calling. You might find you'll get much further.

A. (who is somewhat embarrassed by her gender at the moment)

I also considered getting a Mirena IUC but when I did a little research I discovered it didn't stop you from getting pregnant it just destroyed the embryo after it got bigger. After have two babies I could not imagine doing that. I would definitely talk to your doctor to see if this is true. I know I will be discussing it with my doctor when I go see her next month. Essentially birth control can do the same thing if you take it while pregnant. Just an FYI.. A lot of people don't know this stuff and I didn't either until I took a medical ethics class and it covered different types of abortion. So my hubby will be getting the snip snip too.

Good Luck,
M.

I have the IUC. I really like the fact that it is almost 100% effective, but it is not permanent. I also have two children and don't think that I want any more. My OB suggested this instead of having a tubal during my c-section, because she felt that I had a tiny bit of doubt. This is just as effective. I just went into the ob and they put it in, there really isn't any pain associated with this. I don't think that I will ever want anymore children, but I love the fact that if for some reason i would change my mind all I have to do is have it taken out. I have had it since may. I had a little irregular bleeding the first couple months, but have had very light or no period since. Here is the web site.
http://www.mirena-us.com/index.jsp

i dont think it is too much to ask for him to take control of the birth control now since im sure you have been taking responsibility for it up to now. most men are big babies about getting it done so he is not alone. just a word of caution about the iuc, my mother had an iud, which is the same thing, and almost died as a result. I do not think they are safe and while some dr.s will let you get them there are some that also would not recommend them at all because of the risks of complications. do your homework on the internet before you make a decision.

I agree with Melissa's response about the IUD destroying the embryo. I also did the research, and did not like that possibility. One of the Doctors in my OBGYN office will NOT place an IUD because she is Catholic. (that tells me a lot right there.) There are so many other options to try. I know they require more thought on our end, but we are women... we can handle it. Good luck with whatever method you choose. C.

I got my Mirena IUD a little over a year ago and I love it. It was painful (like bad period cramps) for the first couple of days but then after a few months I only spot for 1 day when I have a period. Now about your husband having a vasectomy. My husband and I agreed that when the 5yrs of the Mirena IUD was up that at that time if we no longer wished to have children then he would agree to get a vasectomy. I think all men go through this fear about getting a vasectomy and if you think about it, if you were a man you would probably feel the same way. Maybe if you make arrangements similar to ours then he would feel more incline to follow suit.

Good Luck, and Best Wishes

I do not think it is wrong to want your DH to have the snip snip. There are many men that have this done on a friday and are right back to work on Monday and have little or no pan as long as they follow doctors orders. However, my husband is the same way. I had the mirena inserted a year ago,AND procedure was pain less just a little uncomfortable for a brief time. The down side to the mirena for us anyway was everytime we had sex the 2 thin wires that hang down in the vagina poked my husband. Which in return made him raw and hurt. So needless to say I had to have it removed within 8 weeks. If I had my way it would still be in beouse I had no periods or anything and enjoyed not taking the pill since he or I didn't want to get fixed. Hope this helps.

I have four children and my youngest just turned 5 months today. My husband and I also think we are done with having children and always planned for him to have the vasecotomy, which he has never really been opposed to. But when I went in for my six week follow up with my obgyn, things were so busy, I just didn't know when we would fit in the vasecotomy and recovery and suddenly it seemed so permanent. My doctor also offer the mirena and I decided to go with that for the time being. I had it put in almost three months ago and it has been great. I have been told that over time my periods will get lighter and possibly stop all together. So far, my body has adjusted well and I am enjoying the freedom it has given us. I know that we are done having children and that eventually my husband will have the vasecotomy, but we have some time to wait--we still have almost five years until the mirena needs to be removed or replaced. Hope this helps.

Hi R.. I just wanted to say that if you decide on the Mirena please do your research. I got one 9 months ago for birth control and to help with my endometriosis (until I win the lottery and can afford a hysterectomy) and I have bled every single day. I have gained the weight which I had lost after my baby and have had nothing but problems. My doctor keeps telling me I should stop bleeding soon and to wait it out. I want to at least give it a chance since it cost me $700. I have done a lot of research since I got it and there are a lot of people out there with the same problems as me. When your doctor and the pamphlets tell you there are no side effects don't be too quick to listen. Just my two cents. Good luck!!

"1. Do you think I am wrong for me to want my DH to have the ole snip snip?"

No and YES! You said and i quote "I really think that it is so completly unfair for my husband to ask me to do this." That goes both ways! That being said it's not wrong for you to want your dh to have a vasectomy but it is wrong of you to demand it of him especially when you sound so offended by him suggesting you get the Mirena. I think you both need to sit down and have a serious conversation about this. In the end neither of you should do something to your body that you aren't 100% comfortable with.

I agree with Amy P
"Act like adults and understand the feeling of the other--instead of accusing and name calling. You might find you'll get much further."

It doesn't sound like you're open to any other option than a vasectomy. Personally, i think that's kind of selfish on your part. You asked about Mirena but i'm guessing you're just looking for any excuse not to do it. Which is alright but you need to be up front about it with your husband.

I told my husband that when HE turned 35 (could be any age), I would not have sex with him unless he had a vasectomy. I was 100% serious--willing and able to follow through, and he knew it. He had his vasectomy 2 weeks before his 35th birthday. If you're going to try this approach, you have to be willing to follow through! I completely agree that he's being unfair and immature. It's YOUR body, and if you don't want to use an IUD or other birth control method (after you've been using birth control for YEARS, I imagine!), don't do it. Give him a time limit, and do it nicely--anger and "control" will only push him away more. Remember--until he can get pregnant, carry and birth the baby, and stay home (a big career and sense-of-self sacrifice that you've made for your family!) with the children, you deserve control over the size and spacing of your family.

Seriously look at the risks for both before deciding, and as someone else said, don't do anything until you both fully agree. I don't know much about the risks of a vasectomy, (because we still want more children) but from what I understand especially these days they are fairly low (but you do need to use protection for awhile after it is done). As far as the Mirena, the chances of problems are low, but I am an example of a problem. My uterus was punctured while the IUC was inserted and since they didn't catch it right away (they told me it's supposed to hurt some), it got completely outside of my uterus, was sitting on my intestines and I had to have surgery to have it removed. Anyway, there are other complications that can happen too. I guess I just learned that I actually could be that 1/1000 person.

Are you breastfeeding? I hear the ring is GREAT, but not very compatable with breastfeeding. I myself am looking for something right now, but not for perminant. My husband has already talked about getting a vasectomy when the time comes, but it seems SO perminant...

K.

PS I read a couple of responses and wanted to mention that a vasectomy is NOT 100% protection. It still has a failure rate (though very low). Also, though the perfect use failure rate for a progesterone IUD is higher than the pill (1.5% vs. .1%), the actual use failure rate is lower in the IUD (2% vs. 5%). Merina is a progesterone IUD, so it is similar to the pill in how it works, releasing hormones into your body.(the copper one releases no hormones and is good for 10 years!)

I have the Mirena and I LOVE it...it didn't hurt at all going in (but I had mine put in 4 weeks after I delivered) and I have had no problems with it at all. If I get a period at all, it's only spotting for about a day. I don't want anymore children either, but the thought of getting my tubes tied or anything else that's permanent kind of scared me a little. This way I have 5 years to make absolutely certain that I'm done having children and if I haven't decided to have another baby by that time, then I will do something permanent.
The thought of a vasectomy scares most men, so don't be too hard on him! Maybe you can get the Mirena and if after the five years you haven't decided to have another baby, he can get one then. Just something to consider. Good luck with whatever you decide!!

R.:
I have the Mirena IUD and LOVE IT! The worse part is getting it put in....which is a little bit worse than a pap smear. Once it is in, there are NO worries. Your periods are lighter if not completely disappear. You never have to worry about birth control even when on antibiotics. All you have to do is check for the strings once in a while. It does not interfere with sex whatsoever.
While I understand your frustration on wanting your husband to do something, this would be an easy solution. (Men can be big babies....thank goodness we are the ones who actually have the babies ;-)Plus, if you ever decided to change your mind about more kids, you would have the option.

J.

I faced a similar situation about 3 years ago. I suffered from increasingly bad postpartum depression after the births of each of my three children. I talked with my husband and told him that our kids could either have a happy mom or more siblings, but more babies would push me over the edge. I wanted him to go through the "snip" procedure, but he dragged his feet. I knew I wanted something permanent done so I talked to my doctor and she suggested the Essure Procedure. I had it done and no more babies. It's a very simple outpatient procedure. The doctor inserts two spring shaped devices into your fallopian tubes through your vagina while you are under anesthesia. The spring things cause scar tissue to form, effectively blocking your tubes and making it impossible for eggs to reach the uterus. It didn't hurt, I was in an out in a matter of hours, and after only three months the doctor checked me and said that was it, no more babies. I think it takes 6 months after a vasectomy for it to truly be effective. Good luck in whatever you decide.

Well i will tell you i have the same kind of husband he doesn't want to have it done either, now i am not adverse to having my tubes tied but its so expensive and my insurance doesn't cover that. But i do have the mirena and i have had it now for 5 yrs so if i were you i would recommend it i have had no problems with it and i love the fact that i don't have any periods, just a little spotting every now and then. But it is well worth it and it will give him a chance to get used to the idea of having the vasectomy.

Good luck getting your husband to get "fixed." When you figure out how, please let me know so I can get my husband to do it, too. I got the Mirena almost a year ago, and I really like it. After a few months, there is almost no period. The only bad thing was the pain of having it put in. I've never had a vaginal delivery - 2 c-sections instead - so maybe that's why it was so hard to get in. My OB did say that it usually goes right in. There was some cramping right away, but my OB gave me Ponstel to take, and it worked within minutes. Overall, I definitely recommend Mirena.

I don't know anything about Mirena but I do know about vasectomies, my husband had one in August. He knows for sure he doesn't want any more kids where as I have always said that I am fine with that but if something happened to him or we divorced I would still want the option to have more children if I was to remarry so we decided that he she be the one to get fixed. Also I wouldn't pressure him if doesn't want to, I have a friend who her husband talked her in to having her tubes tied after their second was born, when that child was 6mo he informed her he was having an affair and they are now divorced. Her and her new husband want children together but now have to have her eggs harvested and go through invitro at the cost of about $10,000. She absolutely hates her ex and they fight constantly over the kids, money, everything since she in so resentful of him talking her into getting fixed. I doubt you would be in this situation but just something to think about. Oh, by the way the vasectomy was easy he had it done on Friday and was back at work by Monday.

I had Mirena put in after our son was born. It was really the only option for me because we weren't sure if we wanted more kids, but I didn't want the hassal of other birth control methods. A few women on here said they had pain when it was put in, I guess I was lucky because it was smooth sailing for me. My ob told me to take 2 IB Profin about an hour before my appt and I didn't have any pain., It is just like a normal routine exam.

On the subject of your husband, alkthough I obviously don't know him personally, I know my husband would also feel uneasy about getting a vasectomy. It isn't so much being a baby and stepping up, it is an emotional attachment to their "manhood". Just keep this in mind when discussing it. To a woman it seems like no big deal just go in and get it done, but to a man that is taking away his ability to procreate, which is a deep primal drive in a man. Be gentle and if it right for you guys he will come around.

Hope this helps.

I currently have had the Mirena 5 months now and love it. They are good for 5 years and so this will give you some more time and thought into having the Vasectomy. I do agree that he should be the one to do something more permanent.

The only thing I want you to know about the ICU is that unlike the birth control pill which is 99% effective, the ICU is only 95% effective. Thats too much of a fail rate if you ask me. Talk to your husband about it and mention that (if you really dont want more kids) this may not be the most effective way. A vasectomy is a safe and simple procedure. He should have no problems.
--S.

I have the Mirena IUC and I think it is great! Not only is it not permanate but it works! Don't ask me how, but it's more effective that the pill (that's how I ended up with my little bundle of joy) and periods are shorter to begin with, and i've had mine for over a year now and I no longer have them! Talk about happy!

As far as your husband goes.. I can see his frustrations with getting the ol' snip snip because it is so permanate, yes they do have reversals but from what I understand they are serious and don't always work and are big bucks. Tp me I would suggest getting the IUC just for you because it has many pro's and I have yet to find a con.... Good luck!

I agree that it is completely unfair to simply ask you to have whatever needed procedure done in order to not become pregnant again. What can't men realize that women go through enough, more than they could ever handle, by giving birth to THEIR children??? I hope you are able to convince him, but I don't think men change their minds very easily on this topic.

I just got Mirena put in almost 3 weeks ago. My ins covered it too. It really isn't that big of a deal. I'd like to correct what Dottie wrote, it is good for 10 years, and it is 99% effective against pregnancy. The have an IUD that does have hormones which is only good for 5 years. You have a lil cramping for the 1st couple of days, but it doesn't feel like anything now. I personally think it's a great choice. They insert it while u r on your cycle, it's easier to put in at that time. You can have it taken out at any time if you decide you want more kids. I have 2 kids too. I don't think u should force ur hubby to have a vasectomy. U wouldn't want him to force u to do something, and if he won't do something about this then U have to if you don't want anymore children right now. Make sure ur hubby knows how important this is to you that he consider getting a vasectomy.