Mom's I Need Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!

D., I was going to tell you that you could go to www.meetup.com . I have joined some of the groups and my husband, kids and I have met with some really neat parents. Most of them only meet 1 or 2 times a month, but it opens the door to friendships. There's also groups for people that just want to get out and meet other parents without the kids, I'm not sure really what kind of group you are looking for, but I'm sure there will be something for you. I know the feeling, sometimes I feel the exact same way. It's frustrating and you do have to rejunivate yourself. It's really good that you want a different kind of environment, you're setting the example for your kids. I don't mind a drink here and there, but I'm not going to center my evening on that in order to have a good time. So good for you and I hope you are able to find some new people to hang out with, if you're ever going to be in the Plano area send me an email and we could hang out.

Hey D.,

hey what a tough place! It's hard to be the only Parents in a group of friends...I'm in my late 20's, but all my friends are single still and babyless...so on some degree, I hear you. Anyway, I second the meetup.com site. There are some amusing groups on there, but there are enough normal ones to at least give it a chance. Also, you could always start a group on there as well for young parents in your area...you can also try preschool/toddler reading times at the local library and bookstore, just call them to find out or search their sites. Also, try going to some of your local parks on a regular basis and see if there is a group of friendly moms/dads repeating there - if so, you could always see if their playgroup has room for one more! All these suggestions are still in the "being a mom" arena, but as far as getting personal time in, you could join a group just for you from that above site, and get a trusted sitter for those "sanity" times. Being a mom has such testing moments, but from one mom to another, and I hope I don't come off in print as preachy, the more you can invest in that sweet baby of yours, the happier he'll be, and thus the more at peace you will be. That being said, taking time out on a regular basis for yourself is crucial to your sanity! And it is Very important to children to see that their parents are confident and happy more times than not. It is easy to feel like we're disappearing into the repetition of motherhood, but always remember that what your investing in is so so important, despite what so many avenues of popular society sells. -- anyway, just felt for your situation and hoped to give you a boost.. -- best of luck to you and your family!

My stepdaughter is also a young mature wife and mother. She has friends at Grace Bible Church in Plano. You could try that church or another where you can find other young families with similar values.

I know exactly what you are going through. My husband and I are both 22 with a 21 month old daughter and another baby on the way due in June. We have a couple that we are really good friends with but they still like to go out and drink. They also have a little boy but have their parents watch him while they go out. Most of our other friends do not have kids so they are always partying. I am beginning to get to where i don't go out anymore unless it is with my family. I feel guilty when i do. Let me know if you need to talk. I can relate!

D.,

If you like hiking and other outdoor activities, I could suggest the DFW Outdoors group (http://www.dfwoutdoors.com/) or maybe joining the walking club in Grapevine (http://www.runnersandwalkers.com/).

I used to be a member of the DFW Outdoors group a few years ago (one of the early members!) and I had a great time meeting up for hikes around the area, or going swimming or playing volleyball with them. I was single then, but there were many couples and married couples in the group at that time. Not everything they do is outdoors, either (or, at least it didn't used to be...) we went to performances, museums and such and then generally grabbed a bite to eat after to discuss.

Because the activities are scheduled at all different times, it might make getting a babysitter easier and for somethings, you could bring your son along (shorter hikes, things like that that you think he might enjoy).

That's all I can think of right now... if something else occurs to me, I'll edit.

Good Luck!

P. - well beyond my 20's at this point, but still having fun!

I know exactly how you feel!! My husband and I are only 22, and our little guy is a year and a half. Most of our friends like to party. We have some good friends from church, but many of them don't have children yet, which can make getting together difficult.

I just understand where you're coming from! Let me know if you find anything that's really helpful!

Hi. I'm twenty four yrs old and I have a son who will be five next month!!! I know exactly how you feel. My husband and I have tried doing group things with our friends who do have children but it doesn't always work out. My husband and I sometimes leave our son behind with his grandparents and have a nice dinner together. We go shopping and then to dinner or just go eat dinner alone. We take our time and enjoy the peace and quiet. Quiet dinners usually do the trick for us. Other times we go bowling. We either go as a family or alone. We have also gone to the movies alone whenever possible. When my son takes a nap I relax and watch a good tv show too. Watching a show sometimes does the trick too. Don't let yourself get all stressed. Relax. Moms are entitled to let their hair down. lol.