After your SWH: I was shy and always said no when my mother suggested finding friends and activities. My aunt came to stay awhile. She looked for ways to help me get involved.
My grandson with Aspergers wanted friends but was having no luck making friends. A family friend found activities he might enjoy and took him to try them out. I signed him up for guitar lessons when he showed an interest in the Beatles and their music. 3 months later he's still taking lessons.
Your posts have said you ask and he says no. You're the mom. You know he needs to learn how to make friends. He'll probably never be outgoing, willing to take on challenges. He does need to be able to interact with some people in order to be self sufficient as an adult. You learn about activities that seem to fit. Name 2, telling him to choose one. He has to try. Do not accept no.You take him and arrange for another boy to go with him or meet him there. Perhaps a neighbor boy or a classmate. His teacher can tell you who he seems interested in and suggest activities to try. I've walked the neighborhood looking for possible playmates fir my grandchildren.
If you don't know how to get him involved, perhaps you're shy, ask for help. Do you know any other parents in your neighborhood? They could help. The school will help. Talk with the people who are already helping him. You said.that your son interacted with other kids. The lesson for me would be that he's helped being social in a structured environment. By giving him choices and not accepting no, you are providing a framework from which to lear.
If he said he didn't want to go to school would you not send him? Learning social skills in ways that fit his personality is just as important as academics.
When you get him involved with a friend and an activity, he will have less time vegging. You might start by connecting him with an online game played with another kid. Show him electronics can be shared with a kid that could become a friend. Then branch out to more physically active activities.
You've focused on his academic education. You can help him become more involved in activities. Kids aren't born knowing how to make friends or vary their.activities.
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Hormones! What happened to you, happens to most parents of teens. If he's otherwise responsible, I wouldn't worry. I know it's painful and feels personal. I've been there.
Consider that his body is changing, he feels different and is starting the process of being less dependent on you. In some ways he's a different person than the child you are used to.
Of course you're hurt and or angry. Perhaps he volunteered to do those chores.because he knows he hurt you and this is his way to apologize. He may be just as anxious as you about changes in the way he feels and how anger takes over.
He will grow up. This is another of those phases. Hopefully, you can tell him how his words hurt after both of you get past your anger. When he was a child his consequences were more direct and in some ways, simpler. As a teen, we as parents, are now negotiating an emotional world that does feel more difficult. Your son is growing up and needs a more in depth understanding of his emotions and yours.