More than One Kid??

Moms are great jugglers.
And can multitask.
And can do many things at one time.
And seem loving about it, all.

I have 2 kids who are 5 and 9.
And if your child knows, that they are both loved and important to you... then you don't have to "prove" to them every single second, that they matter.

My kids don't get jealous, nor of each other.
They are 2 different people.
They are both important.
Because I tell them that.
They KNOW.
But Mommy only has 1 pair of ears and eyes, and I don't have 8 arms and at times the other child simply knows that if they do not have patience to wait their turn, then Mommy will go berserk!

And, I cannot, every single nano second of the day, give each child INSTANT gratification or attention... ALL THE time.
Because, there are "moments" all day.... that a child wants Mommy to witness. But kids learn... that there is patience and having a turn, and that is life.

It is harder at first for sure. Baby's needs always trump everyone else's needs, but it evens out. As baby gets older, and becomes a toddler it is much easier.

I also think that if you are paying attention to HOW you address your kids' needs it will keep the competing to a minimum.

And as S.K. said, your day is all about moments. At the end of the day, everyone's physical and emotional needs were met.

Having the second kiddo has really balanced out our family. They LOVE spending their time together. Built in playmates. (ages 2 and 4)

You just focus on their individual accomplishments and traits.
Yes, it can be hard when one seems to be succeeding more than another. My son was always a better reader and student, but my daughter was a more gifted athlete. And my youngest is the artist/performer, that's where she shines.
I'm a bit confused by your question, do you mean one child has a difficult time with hearing the other one being praised/congratulated for something? If yes, then I think it's just a lesson to be learned. There are times in life (many times) when others will be rewarded for their hard work and/or talent. It's nothing to feel bad about, and it's never too early to learn the all important lesson:
it isn't always about YOU.
Does that make sense?

Honestly, I don't know. It just sort of sorts itself out somehow.
My kids are happy for each other when they do well. They do try to talk over each other at the dinner table sometimes though. One will start a story and the other will want to jump in and finish it. We just interrupt and tell them "so and so was telling the story, let her finish" or whatever.

Our kids are 3 years apart, and from a young age, I always encouraged them to praise the accomplishments of the other. So they are almost like each other's cheerleaders sometimes. One is a boy, one is a girl. But they both do martial arts, skateboard, ride bikes, roller blade, read, draw, swim, etc... Sure they try to best each other at things, but all in fun.

For mine, who were only 11 mos apart, the competition turned out to be a good thing. Baby brother learned a ton from older brother. They were pretty much on the same level by age 2 and 3, it was not hard to raise them, there was no fighting or sibling rivalry. I was blessed.

My SD was bad about talking over SS at dinner, for example. There were times when we would ask her to give him a chance to talk, or, if he just clammed up, we'd talk to him later without her around. If there was an errand to be run, we might take just one kid and give them one-on-one time, especially with their dad. Try to incorporate the kids into what you're doing and like someone else posted, find moments with each one. Our little one loves to garden with her father and "help" cook, too. So we let her do what she can. It's quality time for her.

I always gave each his due in school. I NEVER compared one child to another child. I tried to find at least one thing each child did during the week that was praiseworthy and made a big dealout of it to that child.

Some children are better at school than others. I didn't expect the one that struggled to make b's to make straight A's. Nor would I accept C's from the ones that could get straight A's with a little effort.

Each child will excell in something. Its the parents' job to find what that is and help the child succeed. One success will lead to another and another and another. AND sometimes you just have to PUSH. My #3 was just lazy and was satisfied to get C's. He wouldn't study, or take notes or do homework. I finally got involved and he got on my study and homework program, much to his dismay. But it worked. He graduated High School salutitorian (#2), got a full scholarship and graduated USC medical school and is now a Dr. of Pharmacy practicing in northern California. My effort was well worth it.

Good luck to you and yours.

We do a lot of taking turns. I often say, "Wait, everyone spoke at once so I didn't hear anyone," and then I designate one to speak first. We have a Dinnertime Conversation Box with conversation starters on little strips of paper. They take turns choosing one and then we try to take turns answering the question, but of course my youngest often inturrupts anyway, but that is her age. I try to remember to let the child be the one to end a hug. Ending the day with a snack and a story on the couch together helps a lot too. They each get to choose a book and sit near me. If someone makes a fuss about not getting to sit by me, they have to take turns sitting by me while their book is being read and then switch seats. There is often a fight of some kind, and sometimes I don't find out someone feels neglected until they throw a fit about it. Then we have a discussion on effective communication. I spend so much time teaching little people how to communicate respectfully I'm exhausted just thinking about it. It all works out somehow.

you dont hints the reason my hair is falling out lol