is this normal? I mean seriously. dad does bedtime routine with him. i just went to his room to say good night and he started whining NO! because he was fearful that i either wanted to cuddle or wanted to read to him.
seriously.
i told him just because i want to read to him or whatever, doesn't mean he gets less of daddy.
i get that he needs him.
He also complains about EVERYTHING. I went and got special food and movie tonight. he didn't like the food. any of it. he didn't like the movie. he didn't want to sit by me but by daddy.
does it end?
my 2 yr old daughter is either all love for me or "mommy i don't love you" (which i try to ignor) and poking me. one extreme or the other.
and i do all these special things for them and then i get the blow off and i just want to leave and be by myself shopping so i don't have to deal with it.
its hard not to take personally. anyone else???
It will end.
A good relationship with Dad is very healthy. Dad should stick up for you though, every so often. :o)
I agree. They are 2 and 5. Don't take it personally.
Please don't take it personally. My son, who still thinks there's an umbilical cord attached, told me today "I don't WAANNT you! I want Daddy!"
If your husband works, Daddy is novel. No, they don't have any idea of consideration or manners or anything. There are stages in their development that are "ALL DADDY, ALL THE TIME", and no one knows for sure why.
If you can get out and go shopping, no problem. Yes, they are ungrateful, until they aren't, and then they melt your heart. Today, Little Mister "I Want Daddy" told me "Mama, thanks for making my sandwich. I love it!"
It doesn't end, because other human beings are capricious. My advice--do those nice special things when you feel like it, and then let it go. I've gone out of my way for my son plenty of times, and with mixed results. And those "I don't love you" comments?--let them go. Children are still learning to speak at this age, and don't really "know" what love is, the way an older person might. She's just saying this to practice saying something new, and if she gets a reaction, so much the better.
Have fun with the "growing up"... they will always do something new to keep us on our toes!
H.
I agree - don't take it personally - even though that is easier said than done!
I am sure this isn't the issue - but just in case it might be...just make sure that Daddy treats you with love and respect, showing affection around the kids etc. But I'm sure that's a non-issue SO...
Eventually your kids will grow out of this phase and be back to "MOMMY!" Until then, enjoy your shopping trips ;-)
Don't take this personally...it is all just a part of growing up and learning that he is a separate person and is "flexing his muscles". If you react to it and let him know that he has upset you then it will just make it worse. He has a right to his own feelings and his own desires...for instance....our 3 year old grandson sometimes wants to love and cuddle and give hugs and kisses...but sometimes he doesn't want to at all. He especially sometimes doesnt' want to kiss us goodbye when we are ready to leave. We never make any comment...I will sometimes "give his Mom a kiss for him to have later"....but we never argue with him about it. He is a person in his own right and has the privilege of deciding what and who he wants to interact with.
Don't fall into the trap of thinking that you can somehow "exchange" the special food, movies, treats etc....for their love and affection...you do those things for them BECAUSE you love them and BECAUSE You want them to be happy...not in order to make them somehow "obligated" to love you back.
Besides...they love you....they are just children...and this is just a phase they are going through.
Next week it will be another new and interesting phase to drive you crazy...lol.
my dd is almost 2 and I am soooooo looking forward to her just wanting dada. she is seriously wearing me out. somtimes I can just barly get dinner done on time for us so my dh can leave for work on time. dont get down on yourself, your 2yo could just be copying her big bro.
I've read quite a few posts completely similar to this so I guess it's pretty normal and just a crazy phase. Your turn will come and you will beg for the days that Dad could handle it all once again :)
It's nothing personal towards you even tho it feels like it. What it is is just your children maturing and using what tiny bit of control they've learned to get results. They arent old enough to realize what they are doing or that they are really hurting your feelings. The best thing to do is just grab them up, tickle em, lick their face and tell them over and over how much you love them. A little bit of mommy torture can get great results if practiced correctly.
