My Hubby's Ex Is Still Bugging Me

Hmmmmm.....here is an idea.....IGNORE HER! You are fueling the fire. Block her and her friends so they cannot call you, text you, etc

I would suggest not reading the texts she sends, No one can do to you what you will not let them. If she calls hang up if she texts dont read it, It may be hard, she wants the reaction from you. Dont give in to what she wants!

Have you ever read The Little Prince? He travels all over the universe on his little planet and changes lives where ever he goes. One reference I remember from college was that his planet, and others in the book, train him to care for them so instead of them being his pet he is actually their pet, they have trained him to do what they want.

To me it seems she has you well trained to respond, to get you to say and do what she wants so she can take proof to others that you are a true "b**ch". You have to recognize the manipulation for what it is and realize how much satisfaction you are giving her.

Block her, delete her, ignore her.

When someone says "XX said XXXXXXX about you" then you are going to have to have a plan about what you are going to say and do. I would say something like "I haven't heard from her in such a long time" "Wow, is she still around", stuff that gives her no power whatsoever.

STOP responding. that is the only way she will stop. save all her messages if you want, but DON'T respond to them. your husband will not help. your MIL will end up having bad feelings towards you. you HAVE to be the bigger person, or i promise, it will never stop.

Well I would simply stop answering her and change my number.
Every time you respond, cut and paste pics, tell her you're going drag her out of her work to talk to her.....you're adding fuel to the fire. As much as you probably don't want to hear this....you're also bringing yourself down on her level.
I'm not saying any of this to be mean or rude. Cut communication, stop spending time and energy responding to her, and focus on your family.
Best of luck.

Your best defense is to not respond at all. Also, your husband needs to respond to nothing, and he needs to tell all of his family and friends to not respond if she sends anything. She knows she can provoke you guys right now. If she figures out that you guys cannot be provoked, then she will stop. I've been there, done that. Once communication stopped from our side, she stopped trying to provoke us. Don't ever threaten her, or call names back. That is just stooping to her level. You need to handle this with class and be a grown-up. Obviously she is a little off her rocker. Don't make yourself look like that also by participating in her games.

Do not communicate with the woman, her friends or her family members, block her from your phone and email. Do not make threats to anyone because that could cause you some serious legal problems. He married you, you have his child. Listen to your husband and forget about this woman. I would suggest a restraining order if you had not threatened the woman. As for your husband's mother, is she friends with the woman? If so, I think your husband should have a chat with mom.

Blessings.......

If you are happy, why do you continue to give her this power over you?

Even now, you felt the need to write this post...

Just ignore it all and move on with your life - even if this means changing all your forms of communication - a new email address, a new phone number, etc.

I think both of you should grow up and leave each other alone.

You know the old saying..."It takes two to tango"?? Well...It takes two to fight too!!! YOU are the that can stop this ridiculous battle...just block her from your facebook,email,phone etc...have no further contact with her...and STOP responding to her taunts and nasty messages. Be the bigger person in this...unless of course you are secretly enjoying all of this drama...then go right ahead.
Do you really think that your MIL wants to be involved in all of this? You and the ex are putting her in a horrible situation. I had to "make nice" with my husbands' exwife ( not ex gf!!) for years because there was a child involved and I was the only one who could communicate with her without going into meltdown mode. (We have been married now for almost 42 years and my husband STILL can't even say her name without getting upset!!). But the only reason I had to do this was because of my stepson. If there had been no children involved she would have been put on my 'ignore list'...you need to do the same!!!
Your husband is giving you fabulous advice...just don't mind her...she will get tired of this game and go away eventually!!

jealousy rears its ugly head and its only fun if you get mad

When you respond to her it lowers you to her level. Your posting the picutres of the two of you was just as childish as her actions. You're both acting like little girls. Stop replying or responding and focus on your baby. Time to grow up.

This is all extremely immature!! Be an adult and ignore her. You are giving her exactly what she wants- drama and you are as guilty as her. IGNORE IT! It will piss her off even more if she thinks you dont care. But its too late now. You both sound a lot alike. Maybe you will both end up friends since you have this in common.

Don't play her game. From now on just call the police department and report her for harrasment. Let them deal with her.

Seems like changing your number would be a good place to start.

And why do you EVER respond? That's making you just as bad as her.

If I were you, I would tell her she doesn't have a chance with your hubby anymore, and if she doesn't back off you'll do something. It is complete non-sense she is treating you this way and if it continues, talk to your MIL.

Stop responding to her! There are ways to block her from being able to send you messages. Call your phone provider and look into that.

Why is the MIL involved? Does the ex have a child with your husband?
Otherwise I can't understand why she is involved at all.

If you ask for a restraining order, your threats will come back to haunt you.
Otherwise I would do that. Since you made threats too, you should get new accounts and make sure no one gives your info. out. You must ignore her.

Ahhhh, the crazy texter! When my ex and I first split up, he was a bit of a crazy texter himself. Since I could not block him because we had kids together (we do have to be able to get ahold of each other) and I felt I should read the texts just in case they involved the kids, and for some reason I felt I HAD to respond, I would just make sure to ALWAYS respond kindly. He would text something like 'you are a stupid, horrible, slutty b*tch' (or whatever) and I would respond with something like 'It's good to know that you are happily moving on with your life' or he would write 'I can't believe I wasted so many years of my life on you, so glad you filed for divorce' and I would respond with 'thanks, I aim to please'.

Even if she is getting to you, don't let HER know it! If you must respond (because I know it's hard not to) make sure to respond in a way that always paints you in a nice light...she will eventually get bored because you are not giving her what she wants (drama) and leave you alone, and in the mean time YOU don't have to bring yourself down to her level.

Y.---I agree. You have to stop playing her game. It takes 2 so quit giving her a reason to continue. I think that you should have a heart to heart with your hubby and have him talk to this woman. He should tell her, in no uncertain terms, TO MOVE ON. He's happily married and that's the way it is.

If she continues to threaten or try to goad you, call the police and file a harrassment report. Be the bigger person and she'll eventually get the message (hopefully). Good luck. D.

This is hard to deal with I know...but you need to cease all communication and responding...If she keeps at you then go to the police for harassment etc....You are lowering yourself to her standard and she knows she is getting to you...This will only make it more tense for you and your family. Let it go...she is the low life that can't move on and she needs to . Stop Responding asap...Don't meet her or her brother period..That is just asking for trouble!!!!!!!

Not to be all Judge Judy but uh.... "WHATS A MATTAH WITH YOU? GROW UP!" -- never speak to/text/email/call/or other wise communicate with this person ever again other than to perhaps suggest that if her harrassment of you and your family continues you will call the cops. Advise your mother in law to do the same.

so child like totally ignore her block her on line

Why do you let it bother you? You are married to your husband, and have a beautiful baby...You life is good, ignore it, or delete the messages without reading them... even if she was texting to apologize, don't read them, if you see it and you don't block her number then just delete without reading. As for your MIL, I would just asked her why does she feel she needs to be friends with this women. Of course, you can't do anything about who she picks as her friends, but remind her that you are the daughter-in-law and this lady is making problems for your marriage for her son.

One day you'll look back and wonder why you let her get under your skin and why did you waste so much time on this women, ignore her, when she sees she's not bothering you anymore than she'll leave you alone...

too much drama.. listen to your husband and let it ALL go.... people waste too much time on mindgames and junk like he said , she said... look at the big picture. you have a loving husband and child to raise... don't allow yourself to get riled up in this kind of stuff.. those who know and care about you, will have your back.. those who don't.. let them go and move on..

My suggestion would be to just ignore her. People like that want attention. Your responses so far, are probably fueling her fire. It might take a little time, but eventually, she will give up. YOUR non-response to her is crucial for success. As long as you show anger, frustration or any emotion towards her, it will go on because that is what she wants. I would not meet her either.

Can't you block her from contacting you? By your receptivity you are projecting to her that her access to you is still open. My guess is that, if even if it's a little part of you still wants to see what she has to say. Aske yourself: Why? Put her behind you, as well.

Your husband is right. The best thing you can do is ignore her. You are encouraging her by replying and there's nothing more infuriating than letting someone know that whatever they say and do does NOT affect you in the least bit. It will be hard to do at first but trust me, it'll die down. When she realizes that you won't bother to respond (because you have a husband and a child to take care of and she has too much free time on her hands), she will stop. Just ignore her.

Been There Done That

Ummm block her and her friends, change your phone number and call the police!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is harassing you and you can have them intervene for your! Also a protective order might be a good thing.
I second what Molly said and that your are just feeding her childish behavior by being a child yourself and responding back all catty like. Don't respond, block her, and report it.

I would call this harrassment. You can place a restraining order, if she or her friends get in touch with you again they all can get into big trouble. Do not respond anymore. This will help you in the long run in court.