I wholeheartedly understand how you are feeling. It's so frustrating and sometimes I used to just throw my clothes down and cry in my closet bc I hated how I looked and even just FELT in certain clothes. Sometimes it wasn't always about how I looked but how I FELT; and what helped that was SPANX!!!! Spanx helps tighten everything up so you don't feel like you're flappin' around. That improved my confidence a little while I worked on losing the weight.
I had two c-sections and understand how that pooch is so hard to get rid of- but you can. for ME, personally, I will always have a little "loose skin" near the incision bc of how the first c-section was cut (emergency, they weren't trying to be 'pretty') unless I see a plastic surgeon, and I'm not ready for that yet. I now have a 6 pack, but that area just above the incision has loose skin which I cannot do anything about and it hangs over a little when I sit or bend over. It's ALL muscle in my stomach and I have 15% body fat yet it's still there and a cause for a little insecurity. (so that's my story... and I'd like you to understand that some moms CAN get rid of it, but others, not)
In order to reduce the fat you should do interval workouts. run/walk. Running maxes your heart rate so you burn carbohydrates and power walking at 60-65% of your max heart rate burns fat. I'd plan an hour of 10 min walking/10 running (3 each) about 3-4x a week and do other things like pilates to strengthen. Other cardio that's great is spinning or just doing some laps in the pool. If your gym has a boot camp class then DEFINITELY get into that bc boot camps will utilize and build muscle in places you didn't know you HAD muscle!
Don't stay stuck on the SAME workout bc you have to keep your body guessing in order to get ongoing results, otherwise you'll hit a plateau and get frustrated. So definitely switch out your workouts every couple weeks.
I am a runner. I do 1/2 marathons and other races so obviously most of my workouts (for training purposes) is running! And there are times I will GAIN weight bc I let my diet go a little, even though I run like a freakin' jaguar all week! to the normal person, itd make no sense, but for my body which is used to that kind of impact, it doesnt matter how much I run bc it's adjusted. So I have to keep cross-training in order to actually STAY in shape! (cycling, swimming, boot camps etc). This happened when I tried losing the 70lbs I gained in the last pg!! lol. I hit a plateau and I'm wth!!! I run 30 miles a week?? But a trainer/friend told me you have to keep your body guessing so don't always do the SAME workout. Once I switched it up, bam... weight began dropping again.
Also... make sure you're eating ENOUGH calories. Sometimes we diet thinking less is the way to go but if you've hit a road block, it could be that your body is not getting enough due to your workouts and busy life with your child and it's storing the fat and taking its nutrients from your muscle! Muscle has better serving nutrients than fat so your body will automatically choose to feed off your muscle instead of fat if you're starving it. It sounds like a dangerous thing to do, but if all else fails, increase your caloric intake if you are working out a lot and that will probably HELP you lose weight. (I can also personally testify to this)
#s 7,8,11,12, & 14 are really great post pregnancy/ c section ab exercises:
http://sportsmedicine.about.com/od/bestabexercises/a/all_...
I do these often and honestly can say these specific exercises have contributed to my SURPRISING 6pk. Never thought I'd have one, but I have my trainers to thank!
as for the stretch marks, I don't think there is a lot you can do about those unfortch. there are things you can use to make them less noticable but I don't think you can get rid of them all the way, unless you contact a plastic surgeon? I'm not sure. I got stretch marks the second time around but can't get rid of them.
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