M.B.
What you are feeling is perfectly normal and not so unique. I dealt with the same thing when my kids were little, except my husband hunted and fished all the time. We have been married 22 yrs now and I have to say when the kids are little it is the worst. Alot of it has to do believe it or not to hormones. Women at that age are all about the home and nesting and raising the kids and the man's testosterone is at an all time high and they are about being out in the world and trying to make it big. When you are about 45- 50 it all switches. Women are ready to get out there and do something and men want you to stay home and watch tv with them on the couch. Cruel trick.
I have done counseling (alone) for a year and a half and it has helped alot. Wish I had done it years ago. I would have strongly recommend it. Also girl friends are essential. Men can not fill all of our needs.
It is worth working on and keeping together. He does need to be made more aware of your feelings and the kids need more time and interaction with him. A good counselor willhelp you figure out how to make that happen,
Good luck.