Hi - This question my sound silly, but when it is appropriate to stop giving gifts to your nephews that don't even care that you're alive (or their parents) LOL. My nephews are 18 & 21 and they have never given us a gift. The 21 year old doesn't even say thank you. We are not close at all with them, unfortunately. I have a four year old, and I know that it is important for him to receive gifts....but when do you cut the cord.
Thanks! W
Given your relationship with them (or lack thereof), I say 18 is the time to stop. So stop, and spend the money on your own little guy!
My husband and I just had this exact conversation about his much younger cousins. They are 20 and 21, we see them at most twice a year and never talk in between, and neither has ever given us a thank you. We decided this will be the final year of gifts. With your youngest nephew at 18 I would say this is a great year to either stop giving or the final year to give.
This year.
I would have stopped the first time I didn't get so much a a "thank you" from the recipient. The younger one is an adult now, so this seems like a good year to call it quits.
Will they even notice?
The past 2 years I bought my soon-to-be 21 year old niece gifts and never received a thank you. She never even acknowledged the gifts. I will not be buying her a gift this year. I think when the 'children' become ungrateful it is no longer necessary. If anyone questions it explain the lack of gratitude motivated your decision....that is what I plan to do.
I still give my 21 year old niece gifts for christmas. But if she was a completely insensative brat and didn't appreciate what she got ... it would have ended when she turned 18.
Now I will say I won't punish my nephews because their mother is a word that rhymes with punt. My giving my nieces and nephews gifts has NOTHING to do with whether my siblings give my kids gifts or not or my personal feelings toward such siblings.
