Not Reponding to RSVP

I would call them. I agree, it's rude not to RSVP. I have NO IDEA why people don't think they need to do it anymore.

I would call everyone. Not replying to an invitation is extremely RUDE and I hope they squirm when you call to inquire!

Where are everybodys manners?! Call them...at least it will bring it to their attention that they didn't call.

Absolutely...call them all. If nothing else, you can figure out a back-up plan. Maybe out to lunch and a movie? Good luck...that stinks. I hate when people don't give the courtesy of responding, one way or another.

I was in a similiar situation a few months ago. I e-mailed and called and asked if they were coming because "I wanted to make sure we have enough cake and goody bags for everyone". That did make most people respond. My girlfriend gave me great advice! She said make sure you focus on who does come and not who doesn't. My son still had a hard time that some of his friends didn't come, but everytime he brought it up after the party was over, I reminded him how lucky he was to have such a nice party and how many nice friends he had that did come. At the end of the day, no matter how many people come, as long as your daughter enjoys her day that is all that matters, whether that is with 3 friends or 10.

R.

This is incredibly rude of the parents. I had the same problem. I held a baby shower for my sister-in-law (I didn't know most of the guests) and I think only 2 people responded. I even gave them 3 ways to contact me, including e-mail. How hard is it to send a quick e-mail saying yes or no?

I think you have to call the people. You don't want to be surprised with 14 unexpected guests.

This is a pet peeve of mine. It seems that people now have not been taught manners..... RSVP and Thank you notes. UGH It is not that hard to respond to an invitation OR write a thank you note.

We have big parties, some of them are $25 per person. I get on the phone and call. Some people are embarrassed when you ask them but you get a response.

Good luck with your party.

Next time, leave off a detail people need to attend the party:

Name: My Little Snowflake
Date: May 17th
Time:
Location: Jumpin Jordys
RSVP: by May 14th to ###-###-####

That way, if they plan on attending, they have to call. It works for me :)

I'd call or email if you can. You would want to be prepared either way... and be prepared to change plans if you only have one guest.

My son (also pre-K) struggled a bit with the idea that some of his friends were not able to make it to his party this past year. It was hard for him to understand because he really wanted them to come... you might want to be able to prep your daughter if only one is coming.

Jessica

So typical, and RUDE. I go through this all the time with my kids' parties, and I just dont get it. I RSVP even to my close family who assume they will only hear from me if Im NOT coming. Its so hard when you're trying to be prepared with enough food. I would give these people a call, as frusturating as that is, so you are prepared!

I think you should call them too. It's sad it comes to that, but it does. It really doesn't matter that it's a busy time of year or whatever, people are just rude and lazy in my opinion! I don't even think evite really helps. I don't find that many more people who respond to an evite than a regular invite! Good luck! I'm sure more than one will show! Just call and find out!

call them...........I have had to do it too........it is really not a big deal to call them in my opinion....Brings it to their attention that they are not being respectful :0)

I hate it when people don't rsvp. when we had my daughters wedding 150 rsvp'd the actual day of the wedding we had 215 people show up at the reception. we made do people ate and moved to the dance floor so others could eat. luckily we had enough food. but what is with people.
I would call the kids and ask. just say you want to make sure you have the right amount of food and treats.

I would definitely call....don't be short or abrasive with them...to be really honest a lot of people don't even KNOW what RSVP means anymore!!! And I agree about using Evite for parties but of course you need to know everyones' emails in order to be able to do that.

Unfortately..this is the new normally. Next time I would use EVITE thru your computer. I would say something politely that you need a head count so you can order the cake.
It is not on their list of priority stuff. I think it is rude. It happens to me also..don't take it personal.
Anyhow I would call each person. I would say..Hi Claire is having her party. I need to know if you attending. They will probably come up with some lame excuse why the had not called. Be gracious and don't repeat it again.

I do NOT understand why it's so hard for people to respond to an RSVP. It's so incredibly rude. I always put an RSVP on my party invites with a date and several ways to get in touch with me. NOBODY every RSVPs. Not even my family that I see all the time! I wind up calling people and asking. I would just give them a quick call and remind them of the party date and time and ask if they will be attending.

I find this soooooo rude of people. Maybe you should try to call to see if they are coming. Good luck!

I read a good idea here to include a message such as "call for address and directions". Of course that won't work if its at your house and everyone knows where you live:)

Definately call or email. The same thing happened w/my son's party. 4/10 had replied. Had I assumed those were the only four coming I would have been in trouble because ALL 10 were planning to attend and had just been "busy" and "forgotten"!

for my daughter's birthday in March, i was starting to get nervous... i sent out invites a month ahead of time, and didn't hear back until the week of the party, from about 90% of the people.
Now we are dealing with it for my other daughter's birthday, but this one is at a park where it doesn't really matter how many people are showing up.
Anyway, if it's only a week away, i would probably send out a reminder email to anyone who hasn't responded. They might have just forgotten!!!

So sorry to hear - I know this can be frustrating. I would call them this time but next time use Evite - the RVSPs are public so people almost feel compelled to respond.

I myself am a reformed non-RSVPer - most of the time I didn't respond because I wasn't sure of my calendar that far ahead. Now I rsvp yes immediately every time, and if something comes up prior to the pary I notify the host, but most of the time, once its on my calendar I will definitely attend (and Evite automatically puts it on my outlook calendar).

If you can ask the teacher to send out a reminder email and include your number so they can call you to RSVP.

How were the invitation distributed? My son showed me an invitation today for a party he was invited to on Saturday which he has stuffed into a front pocket of his backpack. I still feel awful for not responding.

Unfortunately, this has become the norm. I don't know why, but people think they only need to call to let you know they're coming.

Did you put a deadline for the RSVP? Most people will wait until the last minute or call the day after. Anyway, I would go ahead and call them.

Good luck.

Hi P.,
It's an incredibly busy time of year for most parents. I know that my six year old has received 3 invitations in the last 3 or 4 days. I try to be diligent about responding to invitations right away even if my kids can't attend but things get busy in the evenings and it's not that difficult to get caught up with something and forget to respond. I've recently dealt with similar issues with parties for my own children. To save yourself some frustration, I'd suggest calling the parents who haven't responded to confirm their child's attendance. Likely the quickest way to handle the situation. Another suggestion (for future events) is to check out www.evite.com. It makes managing your responses and sending out reminders a breeze. Have fun!

Did you request an RSVP by date? If not then wait until two days before the party and call or email to remind people. If you asked them to rsvp by such and such a date then wait untll that date comes and call/send out reminders,

Hi Mary, this is P.. Did you get the invite ot Susie's birhtday party? I'm getting the final touches done and am trying to get final a head count. Just wondering if your Jenny is going to make it.