Not Sure How to Handle Babysitter Issue Without Offending

I don't think you're being silly. You have legitimate issues - I wouldn't call them concerns as that seems personal.

The CIRCUMSTANCES changed - distance, class times, child age, etc. It's not rude, it's reality. It sounds like you REALLY appreciate her and that it's been working well otherwise. I'd let her know what you need based on the changes in circumstances. If you feel it's fair to pay her a little more for the extra distance/travel/time rather than trying to find someone to replace her, that may be the best thing.

Good luck!

i understand where you are coming from but i also understand where the sitter is coming from. obviously you trust this girl with your child so she must be mature and make good decisions in your eyes. so i'm wuite sure that the same good decisions that impressed you are apart of her daily life. she has a right to move where she pleases, youdidn't say if she moved into a bad area or not but she may have moved where she could afford. but like most people she wants to live somewhere nice. but when your child is in her care her door is closed and she is taking care of her. she can't control what happens in the outside world just the same as she can't control what happens outside of your closed door when she was watching your daughter at your house. YOU changed the plans not her, so don't make it her fault that your feelings changed about the new set-up. and you need to make sure she knows that this is not her fault. i think you may need to let her start coming back to your house and still comp her for her travel. it's hard to find someone we trust with our kids. you may not find someone else like her. good luck

Like others have said, you have very legitimate concerns. The top one being the waking a sleeping baby thing. The toys and stuff aren't that big of a deal, but waking a sleeping child is a HUGE hassle. That's what I would tell her. The others are concerns, but in the long run, your child will be fine with out her bouncer, jumper, exersaucer, high chair and pack and play. You're never going to know everyone's neighbor, so while I can understand the concern, it's not something you'll ever be able to control.
I would tell the sitter that you don't want to worry about waking up your child to pick her up and take her home. You would have to, at the very least, pack bottles, food, change of clothes, and a few toys to take to the sitters. It's much easier for all of you if your sitter just continues her regular routine of coming to your house. I can see why she wouldn't want to make the hour drive, in rush hour and at night. I would seriously consider finding a sitter that lives a little closer to you or your school.

Not from what you've said. She moved and that's a game changer. Your reasons are legitimate. If you can afford for someone responsible and reliable to come to your home, and your sitter doesn't want to, then change. What if you can't find someone, can you expect your sitter to come to you? No. She might be willing or she might be willing for more money, but she may not. So, keep those things in mind.

I agree with Sarah D. Also, things have changes since the original plan, so it isn't like you are "just" changing your mind, the situation has changed. I would let her know that yes you did agree to originally take her her home but since she has moved it isn't benefiting you by sticking to that plan and again as Sarah D stated.. she is working for you. So, either she will accept it or she will not.

Good luck in your situation.

I wouldn't worry about offending her. She works for you. If you don't want to drive out of your way to get to her, then don't. Find someone more convenient unless she's willing to come to you.

Don't worry about offending her. Remember that she is your employee and your paying her to do what you want. You must do what is best for your child and that means that the babysitter needs to be on board. Tell her the truth and if she does not like it then be professional and depart. Worry about your child and not how the babysitter feels. Good luck with this situation. Wish you the best

This is what happens when you have children. Plans change. Her plans changed, living further away is a huge change. I would not want to wake a sleeping baby either. I might find someone a lot closer. Not rude at all. You will make the right decision.