Part 2******** - Indianapolis,IN

I don't know of any real women's shelters who would violate the confidentiality of their clients by giving out their location to a husband/boyfriend who has abused them. Find a different shelter.

Wait a minute. You are saying that a women's shelter told him where you were. I don't believe you. I think this is a made up story by a troll. Women's shelters do NOT give abusive husbands their wives' whereabouts.

You need to go find something else to do other than making up stuff on this site.

I'm sorry. I do NOT believe this one iota. There is not a women's shelter out there that would divulge information such as this.

You need help. That much is clear. You are seeking attention and willing to lie about it. Please, I beg of you, get the help you need. Contact your doctor and let them know you need mental help.

If this is true (which I highly doubt, I'm sorry. I really am) you still need help. Others have given you a source to go to. Use it.

This is a HORRIBLE thing to lie about. There are actual non trolls out there who may someday need the help of a women's shelter. And your lies could scare them away.

Womens shelters NEVER EVER EVER give out information about who is staying. NEVER. Staff are trained and trained again and trained again about the importance of confidentiality. This is the reason women's shelters exist.

Shame on you for being so bored you'd lie about something that could help save a woman's life in the future.

Shelter staff are trained to say, "I cannot confirm or deny" when asked about a resident. Their number one job is the safety of the woman so for them to give that kind of info to your husband is unbelievable.

*If a man showed up at a shelter looking for someone, there is a process in place to handle that situation. Anytime a stranger comes to the
property the shelter is immediately on high alert. There's no way your husband just showed up knockin on your door. Men are typically not allowed on the property at a domestic violence shelter. If they are, there are very strict policies and procedures regarding their entrance and they must be in an area where staff are able to see them at all times.

**Lying about this is not ok. You could make someone afraid to get help if they think a shelter would disclose their whereabouts.

Girl - I don't know what shelter you went to - but I know any shelter for abused or battered women - would NOT tell ANYONE you are there - doesn't matter if they pretend to be your dad, mom, brother, etc. they will NOT let ANYONE know.

Please seek out a reputable shelter in your area. I did a quick google search and found this one:

http://www.juliancenter.org/Services/Shelter.aspx

Call them from a neighbor's phone - so your husband can't find you and LEAVE!!!

Any shelter that would tell him you were there is not a shelter to go to. I have never heard of this happening, that is awful! Call the number mynewnickname gave you, go to a REPUTABLE shelter, and get away!

N. D.
If you are for real, you need to protect your children.if that means getting a restraining order do it.

Quit telling us how bad he is, we get that. Come back and tell us you have already called a shelter and when husband leaves for work today, you are all leaving to get help.

No excuses. If you are really scared, call the 1 800 number that the mom below gave you they will give you the steps.

Leave. Find a new shelter. No reputable shelter would give away your information and/or let him in.

You will get a lot better advice on this site if you rewrite your posts using punctuation and capital letters. I would love to be able to help you more but cannot read what you have written.

Get away from him no matter what. No shelter would tell them you are there. And absolutely promise me you will not get pregnant with this man again.
There are too many resources out there for you to think you have to stay with this abuser.

1-800-799-SAFE (7233) is the national domestic violence hotline. Tell them everything. Make sure you tell them what happened at the last shelter you went to and the name of the shelter. They need to know if the shelter is violating rules. They will also help you formulate a safe exit plan. This man will not change. Things will not get better, and your kids are learning from him every day/ They WILL behave the way they are taught, and they are being taught that men get away with violence and women should tolerate. Call the number now, get out and stay away from him.

Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Call them today.
Tell them everything.
They will help you find a shelter you can trust.
They will help you make a plan. Do NOT tell your husband you are thinking of doing this. Talk to the people at SAFE first.

Shelters are not typically going to give out your location.
Their job is to protect women.

Ditto Wild Woman and Cheysma.

Please call today and get out.

He WILL NOT get better.

Sorry, you're not credible. Women's shelters don't give out addresses half the time, and they certainly don't post phone numbers and give out room numbers so abusive men can come find you.

You are scaring real women with real problems who need a real safety net.

Please don't use this site this way. We are real people trying to help other real people, not help you support this level of drama. If you are a real person with a real issue, you're going to have to be more convincing. Having a major issue and solving it all on the same day doesn't sound realistic to anyone.

No way does a women's shelter talk to your hubby and tell him you are there. The locations are kept secret. And if a man does show up, they DO NOT let him in - they tell him to leave and then call the police as he is an uninvited guest and is trespassing. Sorry, but your story doesn't add up. Either you never left, or you went somewhere other than a battered women's shelter.

This time, go to a battered women's shelter - they will help you get a restraining order. Don't tell him anything - just DO IT! Yes, he will try to make life difficult for a while, but if you have a restraining order you keep calling the police.

Women's shelters do not talk to the husband NOR do they give out any information on the women in the shelter NOR do they let them on site. Maybe you were at a friend's house and just didn't realize it!