Problems with My Baby Girls dad.What Would U Do If You Were in My Shoes?

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You stand up straight, put your grownup woman face on and be the best single mother you can be.

Make sure you properly file for child support. If he lives with you, show him the door. Emotionally disconnect yourself from this man, because romantic feelings will just make you do foolish things.

He told you he went to some girls house to ask her to have sex and you are still with this man?
When I had my first child my husband helped out but I always did more with my baby then he did. Natural mother instinct.. (most of the time) but if he never wants to be there and is running off to have sex with other girls then IMO he doesn't deserve you.
If you are afraid you can't raise a baby by yourseld, don't be. You can d it. My momma raised 3 girls by herself. You can to!
You should do what's right for you and your child. You splitting up doesn't mean it would affect your babys relationship with her father. He would still have visitations.
BUT if this is all just hearsay and rumors from outside sources and you two are arguing because you are stressed then maybe you all just need to sit down and have a talk about everything.

Hmm.....
Rumors are just that....rumors.
How did you find out that he went to some girl's house for sex?
If he told you then you probably should pack your bags and go back to school.
L.

Having a new baby is very stressful. Do you live with the baby's dad? Are you married? Perhaps he has moved on from your relationship. He doesn't sound very responsible or loving. Do you have a support system - family, friends or a church that will help you? Perhaps they can help you file child custody and child support papers and get a better life for your daughter. Perhaps that be a wake up call for him.

Sadeyez,

Welcome to mamapedia!!

Sorry. This is what happens when you put the cart before the horse....did you expect him to stick around after the baby was born and he would magically change?? Yes, there are some people that it works for.

Now what do you do? You grow up. You put on your big girl panties and you kick his butt to the curb. You file for sole physical custody of your daughter and child support. Then you find out who can care for your daughter while you either go back to school and get an education or back to work to be able to provide for your daughter and yourself.

You need to tell your baby-daddy that his bags are packed. These are the papers he needs to sign and an order for child support. If he gives you attitude. Tell him too bad, so sad. You grow up and become a FAITHFUL MAN - then we can talk - until then? I deserve better and our daughter deserves better.

Do this on your own. Figure it out. you DO NOT need a man to make you or take care of you. Show your daughter that a real W. can make a mistake in choosing the wrong man and recover from it and be better for it.

It sounds like he's not marriage material and he's not father material. I'm sorry you didn't know that when you first got with him.

I don't know how old you are, but you have a lot of growing up to do now that you have a baby. And grow up you must. You have to talk to a family attorney about how to establish paternity and get child support. Stop fighting with the man. Being at his throat isn't helping, is it. No, it's just pushing you two further apart. What are you fighting with him about? Demanding help? Demanding money? Wanting him to want this baby? Rather than fight about this, get a lawyer to help.

If he wants to have sex with other women, then he is no longer your boyfriend. The best you can hope for is that he finally ends up wanting to be with you. You can make him want to. And you can't FIGHT him into wanting to be with you.

Take care of yourself and the baby right now. Let your body heal after birth. Take care of the legal aspects of being a mother now and get a court order for child support and visitation. Stop fighting with him.