Quick Wedding Ceremony Question... Need Help with Wording 1 Part...

Sounds right...since both my dad and step dad walked me down the isle...my uncle (the officient) said "who gives this woman to be wed?"...my mom stood up and said "her family does"...

Little different but I wanted my mom to be involved in this part since she threw a fit about not getting to walk me down the isle...

Both my parents gave me away. The Justice of the Peace asked "Who gives this woman to this man?" They both said "We do." Hugs and kisses all around and then they went to their respective places. My wedding was outside and we didn't have chairs, so they just stood. Since the wedding was only 10 minutes long, I didn't want to go through the trouble of renting, setting up and taking down chairs :)

I think they the JP started the ceremony with "We are gathered here today, etc." Then asked "who gives this woman"

in all the weddings I've been to, including ours, you're just walked up to the altar and your fiance steps up to join you. I've also attended ceremonies outside a church and the same applies. It is your choice of course, and usually the hand holding is for the actual exchange of nuptials. I married in a catholic wedding, so our parents came up to give us their blessings. My uncle, RIP, married us and this may have been his personal touch in our ceremony, because I don't usually see this. It was however, one of my favorite moments. Hope the ceremony goes great and much happiness :)

It a traditional part of a traditional ceremony.
Whoever is officiating at your wedding will know all about it and will answer your questions.
Some people skip this part as they object to a woman acting as property of her parents/family to be given to her husband/husbands family.

R.:

I can't tell you how excited I am for you and Rob!!!

My parents walked me down the isle both times...when I married Bob, my Dad held me for a second and told Bob he would hold me back so he could jump the wall!!

Any way - my dad was on my left during both ceremonies...when we got to the altar, my mom kissed me and stepped aside, handing my bouquet to my maid of honor.

Our pastor said something brief at first, then asked "who gives Cheryl to this man to be married?" My dad said "her mother and I do", kissed me and walked over to my mom.

i don't think there is a 'proper' way any more, unless you want to be very traditional. big daddy didn't 'give me away' at my wedding because i had been independent for such a very long time prior to that<G>.
but nothing wrong with sweet tradition. write it so that it sounds best to you!
:) khairete
S.

The old-fashioned wording is, "Who gives this woman to be married to this man?" And your father says, "I do," or "Her mother and I do," and then he sits down and the ceremony continues (actually this giving is a part of the ceremony).

I think at the last wedding I went to they saidm "Who gives this woman to be wed?" and the father says either "I do" or "Her mother and I do." Then the hugs and kisses and he is seated.

I have officiated at ceremonies I always go over this with the bride and groom. Some brides are too independant to be 'given away'. I ask 'who gives this woman to this man'. The answer can be (father) I do or (both parents) we do or (father) her mother and I do or (bride) I do.

Good luck with the wedding.

Yeah, it goes about like that...just make sure you go over at the rehearsal...that's where the person marrying you will tell you how they like it to be done. Each church or officiant has their own style on that. Oh and be sure your dad knows that he has to step OVER your train. My dad was all freaked out about it and nearly toppled over! ;)

My Dad walked me down, we hugged/kissed/said I love you quietly, and my husband walked over and my Dad put my hand in my husband's. The officiant did not say anything during this.

sounds good. Or "Who gives this woman to be wed?" and your dad replies "Her Mother and I do", gives you a kiss/hug and sit's down. If you have a veil, that's when he'll lift it over your head.

Yes, "Does the officiant simply go into 'Do you give this woman to be wed?'... then we hug/kiss and dad sits down, and the ceremony begins? Does that sound about right?"

Or the minister could ask, "Who presents this women to be wed?"

Or "Who presents R. to be wed?"

Usually, the father of the bride walks her down the aisle stand to her side but just a step or so behind. When the officiant says "Who gives this woman to be wed?", the father responds with "Her mother and I do", "We do", or "I do"...which ever is prefered. Then he sits down next to his wife.

In Jewish weddings the parents of the groom walk him down. Then the parents of the bride walk her down. I don't remember noticing that they say anything in particular to the guests, usually just a hug/kiss and the parents sit down. To me it seems much more inclusive of both sets of parents, without the appearance that the bride is something to be given away by one man to another.

At mine, nothing was said. I walked arm in arm down the aisle with my dad, kissed him on the cheek/ hugged him, and turned a half pace to be in the correct place of my own. My mum was holding my son in her lap (age 2 at that point) so there was no debate about traditional or not as far as being given away :)

Rehearsal was the BEST though... far better than the actual wedding. My dad was whispering dirty jokes to me the entire time (navy officer, his face never broke once, while I struggled to keep from laughing). Love my dad.

Then the priest started "Wuv, twue wuv..." (from the princess bride) got a surprised laugh from the audience, and continued normally.

In Catholic weddings, the bride is not "given away" since she is an independent human with free will, created by God. She can walk down the aisle by herself, but usually her father escorts her. Once dad and daughter reach the alter, dad lifts her veil, gives a kiss, gives her hand to the groom, then goes and sits in his pew (with mom or whoever). Nothing is said, and nothing is given away.
This is what happened at my wedding, and that was 25 years ago! Hope it helps. Best wishes!

Nothing really has to be said at that point. Your dad can just greet your almost-spouse, maybe hug, maybe just a handshake, and then your dad can turn to you, give you a hug and kiss, and pass your hand to your almost-husband, and go have a seat.

In our wedding I tried to stay away from too much of the 'women are chattel to be given by the dad to the husband' imagery. In fact, we borrowed from Jewish tradition - my husband's mom and dad walked him down the aisle and left him standing up at the front, then my mom and dad walked me up the aisle to meet him. That way it was both parents, both families giving and receiving.

Good luck with all your wedding planning!