A.D.
Sorry to be blunt, but I was just wondering how much effort you and DH have put in to her kids lives. If you are the kind of aunt and uncle that have gone out your way to forge a relationship with her kids, attended their events, and made time to see them outside of family holidays and such functions, I can understand your feelings. Were you also there for her when her kids were infants? Was your husband? Have you taken her kids for any special time, offered to babysit, etc. If you haven't, she may not feel such a desire to go out of her way for you. More than likely, she is just busy, and at a different stage of parenting than you, so she isn't really feeling a common bond. You have a baby, and she is probably spending every school night evening making sure her kids do homework and get a good night's sleep. Maybe she feels like your family could be more flexible. Not that that's true or fair, or a good excuse for being distant, it just may be a reason for why it is happening. Now that you have a child you would like to have a relationship with her relatives, I would try a few more times to get together. I would offer to come see them and/or their kid's activities rather than wait for them to come to you. Good luck!