Well,if your husband asked you to choose between him or your kids.....
Yeah, a parent will always choose his child, and that's how it should be.
I'm sorry it's inconvenient for you that his kids are different than your own.
You totally lost me on 'the whole house changes to suit is kids'. So you feel the KIDS should change to suit YOU?
Were they offered choices? Did they have the same choices as you? They have no choices, they are victims of their father's and mother's choices.
I'm sorry but she already HAS a mother, I'm pretty sure nobody took her needs into consideration when the parents split, or when you decided to marry her father.
I'm incredibly enough going to have to side with your husband on this one. Which, of course, won't matter to YOU in the LEAST, since it's ALL ABOUT YOU anyway, right?
Really, I just can't imagine where the term 'Step Monster' comes from?!
One more thing, do you realized your SD has been old enough for FOURS YEARS to decide for herself whether she wants to visit her Dad at all?
I wish she was MY SD, we'd have a blast! I'd like to be her friend/confidant, not her mother, since she already HAS one.
I'm sorry, but I agree, it probably IS best for ALL the kids and adults if you 'pack your bags'. Not sure family counseling will help much if you don't want to hear 'IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU'.
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