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I personally have not done either of these things, nor do I know anyone who has. The only reason I have even replied is due to the number of ladies who have expressed a strong and negative opinion. You definitly need to hear both sides. In response to the Sarah speaking about adoption, yes, there ARE plenty of children waiting for homes, but did you adopt any? Probably not, you had your own, most likely. If you did adopt, kudos to you, if you didn't, your opinion about how women should not use others' eggs is null and void, because you obviously felt strongly enough about the issue to have your own over adopting, and these other women that can't should be able to have that choice, too. I myself, am adopted, and I could not be more thankful to BOTH of my mothers, one for giving me up when they knew they couldn't take care of me, and to the other for taking in a child she didn't know history on, or anything else. Even being adopted, did I run out and adopt? Negative- I had a son 2 years ago.
Surrogacy and egg donation are touchy issues and M., I do hope you find your right answer. God bless you and yours and good luck with whatever you decide.