Temper - Owasso,OK

My daughter started the same thing at about that age. She only hit and bite me and the sitter. She only did when she wanted attention or she was frustrated. She still bites me from time to time. It is only when she is so upset about something she doesn't know what to do. We put her in time out when she does and tell her very loudly and strenly "OUCH That hurt" she gets upset that she hurt me and she doesn't do it for about 3-4 weeks then she forgets and will do it again. Each time it seems to last longer. She is now 2 and it is a slow process but working.

Does she play with other kids? My 2 year used to be nice and sweet but he pinches,kicks,pushes,takes toys, and hits sometimes but so does one of the lil girls he plays with so maybe she's getting it from another kid if not maybe she's trying to get your attention.

It sounds age approperiate. I would just start finding way to discipline her and just let her know that it hurts mommy when she does that and ask her dad to start trying to spend more time with her. Please e-mail me at ____@____.com and let me know what you find out.

Ah, I remember those days, sound like the terrible twos have come early. What always worked for me was to very calmly in a deep voice hold my sons hands tightly when he hit or pinched me and tell him "No, that hurts". If he kicked me I would set him down and hold his shoulders and tell him the same thing. If those options didn't work I would put him on hit time-out chair for 2 minutes and make him face the corner. Hope this helps.

I have a 5 yr old that use to do the samething. I started having to pop her hand and put her in time out. It worked on her because she does not like sitting in a corner.

This is an age when the desire to be independent is strong. Consistency is the most important aspect of your discipline. Obviously, she should never receive what she was trying to get through her pinching/hitting/kicking. A firm, calm demeanor is best on your part. Restrain her gently, or place her in a safe place away from you or the person she was showing aggression towards (her crib or child-proof bedroom). Allow her to rejoing the fun when she is ready to be kind. If the situation does not allow for time for a "time out" (for instance, if she is throwing a fit while being placed in her coat for a trip outside) then simply gently restrain her in your arms until she ceases fighting (patiently, but firmly) then matter -of -factly continue to dress her. Soon she will learn that it is not possible to manipulate her mother. Try, however, to think about whether there is any way to make situations less frustrating for her, like giving her two choices when possible.