Thoughts on Kids Sharing a Room

I always shared a room with one or the other of my sisters and didn't mind a bit. I did have the opportunity to have my own room one time. Lasted less than a week and I moved back in with my sister. I just always liked sharing a room!

I have 3 boys...6, 4, and 1. The 6yo and 4yo have shared a room for 2 years. They could all have their own room, but my 6yo suggested it and we tried it. We are preparing to move next summer (military) and we asked my oldest his thoughts on getting his own room. He suggested all 3 share a room. He says he does not want his own room! I would try it!

Let them have their own rooms.
Kids need their own space.
Or a place to go to, to deflate.

I shared a room with my sibling when I was younger.
I HATED it. We each had our own personalities and likes and dislikes. This sibling was older than me. And controlling.
But sure we got along outside of our room.
Then my parents put us in our own rooms.
It was the right thing to do.

As the 5 year old gets older, he will want and need his own room.

Being in the same room on vacation, is different than being in the same room everyday, day in and day out.

But as you said, the boys get along, mostly.
You should ask them. They should have some input.
It is their, space.

Nothing is permanent. Try putting them in the same room for awhile and see how it works. Give them the experience of sharing, then change back to separate rooms if you like.

My boys are 15 and 17 and share a bedroom by choice. Their 2 older sisters have moved out leaving 2 empty bedrooms which either could move into but they decided to have a dedicated lego room and a study instead. Go figure!

My girls are 2 years apart and here is how we do it: They each have their own room with all their own stuff. Youngest has a double bed in her room, oldest has 2 twins (just worked out that way, it's all furniture we inherited!) They like their own space, but they go to bed at the same time and they sleep in my oldest daughter's room. We don't have a dedicated guest room, but when guests come they sleep in my youngest's room in her double bed (not like it's being used anyway!) She just has to make sure it's cleaned up before anyone comes.

Of course, this doesn't answer your third child part of the equation!!

My kids have seperate rooms but one room is totally wasted. They do everything together and are always in my little girls room. Even when I put my boy to sleep in his own room, he ends up in her room. They need each other. Mine go to bed at the same time. They do bathe seperately, so they get my time then.

I am with Cheryl B. Shared a room with my sister my whole life except for 4 months when brother went to college and we ended up sleeping in eachothers room and then went back to sharing. My daughters are 18 months apart and have always shared a room and love it. We have an extra room but they want to be together.

my 3 and 4 yr old girls have shared for about a year now. They are buddies and love it. I read to them together, and they go to bed at the same time. If one wakes up earlier, she knows to be quiet and not wake her sister. The first week was hard b/c they talked and played rather than sleep, but now they are better. Sometimes I'll spy at night or morning and see the 4yr old will "read" a book to her sister (ohhhhh how adorable!)

I don't see anything wonge with them sharing rooms. They are good ages to share. My boys have shared since my youngest was about about 2. Now that they are older they would like their own room but that's not possible. If they go to bed at different times you can still spend some one on one time with each of them. Put the youngest to be first and spend the time with him and then spend time with the other one before he goes to bed there is nothing that says it has to be in their room. It may change some but it does not have to go away.

Good luck and God Bless!!!

My boys started sharing a room about 6 months before their baby sister arrived. They were 3 and 4 at the time. There was about 2 months of adjustment time where they would play at first at bedtime instead of going to sleep, but after that they did pretty well. They are now 7 and 8. When they went into the same room together we started putting them down at the same time. Their little sister goes to bed 1/2 hour before them, so both of us do the bedtime routine together. They each get a book to read and one of us reads with one and the other plays/talks with the other until we switch, then we do a 3rd story of parent's choice before they go to sleep.
We turned an extra room into another room for my oldest this past summer, to be able to give them each their own room, but they have been still sleeping in the same room. They are very close and choose to sleep together instead of separate rooms. They have always gotten along really well and play together really well. I would give it a good try. If they have issues when they are older you could try to figure out something then.

My two oldest boys, now 7 and 5, have always shared. I don't think they'd have it any other way. My youngest, 4, would like to be in the same room as his brothers too. If the room was a bit bigger, I'd move him in too.

I do bedtime stories and have one on one time etc on my big bed, and then they go to their room.

Kids are incredibly adaptable. They will manage, for better or worse, under whatever arrangements you decide work best.

I shared a room with my sister from the day she was born until the day I moved out of my parents' house. I never had any privacy, never had any personal space. If you CAN give each his his/her own room, do it.

I'm in the same boat as you, two boys (almost 3 and almost 5) in separate rooms; my older son has bunk beds (but will only sleep on the bottom) and the little one is still in his crib. My biggest concern is being silly at bedtime and pushing the little ones bedtime later (he needs his sleep!). I think I'm going to hold off for awhile longer!

They will love sharing a room! At least while they are little.
Unless they have very different personalities and habits I think sharing is the best. They bond, play, clean up together.
Mine built forts together and read underneath them with flashlights :)
Most kids don't care about their own space until they hit puberty, and even then, some kids still like to share.
Not everyone likes sleeping alone.

My girls share a room and always have (they're 18 & 19). Have they always liked it? Absolutely not! They do accept it, though.

My husband & I believe a sibling can help you earn how to stand up for yourself, how and when to give in to the needs of another, how to compromise, how to argue and then get over it. Our girls have learned that and more from each other -- as well as how to giggle way past lights out, how to love, how to share friends, posters, clothes and make-up -- and what privacy means as well. They've learned compassion, how to rely on and trust another, how to earn and deserve that trust and why it's important not to let another person down -- especially when you sleep only 4 feet away from that someone! Sharing a room means a great deal more than matching bedsheets. It means building a relationship and sharing a life.

For what it's worth, the older of the 2 is now a college sophomore and has navigated roommate issues like a pro -- because her younger sister taught her how years ago.

BTW -- these girls are as tight as can be. They genuinely like and respect each other. It has not always been easy -- on any of us! Many bumps along the road. Many screaming matches and answering shrieks of "handle it your selves & work it out in the next 5 minutes or you'll be sorry if I have to come in there!" from their dad or from me. But the effort is well worth it.

My two girls share a room, not out of necessity (there are other rooms) but out of convenience.

Pro: One bedtime for all! Piling up on one bed to read books together. The 2 y/o is still in the crib so after she goes in I do stay in the bed with the older one for some "talk time" with just her. Saves so much time not having to do everything twice. And still feels special. We steal our moments of one-on time in other ways, like you said. Often one goes downstairs to cuddle with daddy and one stays up to start reading with me.
Pro: both in one place for those middle of the night "check-ups"
Pro: security for them, someone else in the room
Pro: they play together, hang out on each other beds and find things to do together when getting dressed and stuff.
Con: might wake each other up? Mine sleep like rocks though, they have never woken each other up if they cry out or anything

Can't really think of any cons, especially at that age! I've got a big room though and a Walk-in closet for them, space might be an issue for some.

We have a 3 bedroom house. When we only had our 2 girls, they had their own rooms. Then my brother came to stay with us, when he finished college and got a job in Manhattan. The girls were 2 and 3 at the time, so we put them in a room together. When my brother moved out, we left the girls in the room together, and made the third bedroom a guest room/playroom.

Now that we have a baby, the third bedroom is for him, and the girls have their room. They're almost 5 and 6 now. They love sharing their room and both feel more comfortable in there together than apart.

I would ask your boys. Sure, they're young but they're people. See what they think :-)

For info, my girls keep the same schedule and we do one on one time in many different ways.

I have 3 boys living with me right now and they could each have their own room but that would mean we would loose our music study and me and husbands dressing room/office. They share the master bedroom. The youngest just turned 16. It works out fine and I believe it prepares them for going off the college and having to deal with a roommate.

Sometimes they get along just fine and other times they just don't but that is for them to work out. I just play referee occassionally.

My sister and I shared a room until she moved out. We didn't have any problems except for when it was time to clean the room. She would always disappear when it was time to clean and then have a fit when I cleaned it and rearranged it. I love change she does not but it really wasn't that big of a deal. I'm 4 years older than my sister.

Whatever your choose is your decision but I really prefer the sharing of the room. It could be good teaching and training for marriage and roommating in the future when needed.

My boys 2.5 & 4 yrs have shared their room for the last yr, and its working out fabulous. They don't play in their room, there are no toys or anything (I gave our living room up for a playroom) so there is no fighting or anything like that at all. They simply read, sleep and change in their bedroom. I'm sure things will change when they're older, but at this age no problems at all.

I have my 3rd boy due in a couple weeks and when he's out of his crib (or even sooner) all 3 will be in the same room (its the house's original master so there is plenty of space) and I don't have any anxieties over it.

It did take awhile for them to get use to each other's sounds and I had to rearrange the beds so the early riser was close to the door, and didn't have to walk by the other to get up. Generally mine go down the same time, but we have staggered bedtimes, and as long as we wait a good 30-45 minutes my youngest has never been woken up with putting the 4yr old down later.

I'd just try it, it may or may not work for you and your boys, but its worth a shot. They may even enjoy it :) Good luck!

My kids are sharing a room. We handle bed time with each of us taking one child and then the next night we switch kids, that way no one gets shorted time. We read to them in our room. If my hubby isn't available, I will have them each pick one book and read to them together.