Want More Babies!

Hi C.,
I am in the same boat as you!!! From the very second we took our daughter home (she is 5 months now), i wanted another. I wrote my question on mamasource just like you and came back with interesting responses. There are pros and cons and id like to share some with you that kinda impacted me. The good thing about having another baby so close together, is that they will always be close. However, you truly dont know that they will be close. With close age, there is LOTS of competition. They will hang out with the same crowd and may not be able to get friends "of their own."
Also, enjoy the time that you have with your child now. Because from that moment your second is born, it will be extra hard to get that one on one time with your boy again and hes still young.
Also, wait til they start running around! Lol. Youll be chasing after one while the other is screaming for a bottle. Maybe wait til he can understand what having a baby brother or sister is?
On the flip side, I was extremely anxious for another too. It was like i was obsessed. I was constantly thinking of it each day, constantly bringing it up to my husband, and yes it was constant. And yes it is a good feeling, but it drives me crazy because i start thinking about the baby i have now and how i cant wait to have another. lol.
The way that I got around those feelings was thinking of how lucky i was to have this baby. How lucky i am to be her mother and how much she relies on me to care and love her. I wouldnt want to take any attention away from her and i want to be able to give her all that i can. So now, a brother or sister for her will have to wait. I just think about her and sharing myself with another baby. I love her so much that i only wanna spend my time with her. Also, i was a very competitive girl growing up all the way to high school (i played sports since i was 3rd grade). I would have HATED to have another kid my age or somewhere near my age. Thats just a personal thought tho. There are many kids who would have LOVED to have another one with them ya know?
Sorry i didnt mean to write a novel, but i hope this helps.

My baby is three months old and I am also feeling like I want to get pregnant again! I won't because I think it would be to hard with my baby being so young, but I do still feel like it. My boys are almost three years apart, I think it is too big of a age gap but that is the way it worked out for us.

I have two children with a third on the way. My pregnancies have always been uncomfortable enough to help me wait a good length of time between children. Many of us miss the chance to feel the baby kicking and have a wonderful little life under our hearts, but your body does need time to adjust and properly heal. Your baby will also need time to be the baby before you start having another. One year is okay for some, but two years might not be enough space for others. It all depends on your style. Just remember, once you have your second baby, you also have double the work and suddenly you might not feel like you want another little one so soon.

I'm so glad you asked--I thought I was the only *crazy* one. I have a 6mo old and have considered weaning off nursing for only that reason (I originally planned on breastfeeding for a year). I get hopeful everytime I get a tummy-ache or something... Maybe its just b/c we tried so hard to get prego the 1st time (2years trying).

Hi there,
We started having that feeling when my son was like 5 months old and I now have a 2 and a 3 year old, 14 mos apart :) All I can tell you from my experience is that while the first few months with both is hard, it is SO GREAT once the younger one starts to play. My kids are inseperable and best buds (for now anyway lol). I love having them so close in age. Good luck to you!

i have that feeling and I have not even give birth! a little background, I had a stillborn baby girl last march, I just knew I had to get pregnant again fast. I did. Im due any day now but I still yearn for a little girl. To make matters worse my husband left me right after we found out we were pregnant a second time for unknown reasons so now I dont have anyone to help make the baby and find that I want another one even worse. I know Im not able to care for 2 infants now but in about a yr or so I plan on adopting a little girl. Btw Im 24 yrs old, I just always knew I wanted to be a young mom, and now Im a strong believer that I dont have to have a man around to make my dream of another child come true.

How interesting! I have an 18-month old and right around the time he was 6 months, I was longing to get pregnant again and have another kid. It got to a point where I was seriously upset most of my day because my hubby does not want to have more kids. So yes, there are others out there who have had this crazy longing which makes u so antsy! I think it may have something to do with hormones! ;-) Having said that, I personally feel that 2-3 years is a good gap between 2 kids but different age gaps work for different people. Some like to raise their kids "together" - so they dont even wait a year, some like to give more 1-1 time to each kid so the wait about 4 years when the first one is getting ready to go to KG and they can spend more time with the second one. In the end, its what you are comfortable with.

My 1st 2 kids are 12 mos apart! Not planned! It was hard at first of course, but it was great later. It would still be great if they didn't fight constantly. #2 and 3 are 4 yrs apart and that was great because there were never any jealousy issues or anything. #3 and 4 are 2 yrs apart and that was the best. Today they are 7 and 9 and are best friends most of the time!