We live in a large rental apartment complex. It has always been very safe and quiet with most residents quite pleasant. The building behind us has smaller units with more turnover. Someone moved into one of the units who is, shall we say, quite amorous and VERY VOCAL. Yesterday was exceptional and this has been on and off for the last couple of weeks. First at dinner time, I heard someone crying loudly and I thought she was hurt. Then I heard the F-bomb by said person and her male partner over and over-- screaming it. This went on for 20 minutes with various and asundry crescendos along with lots of slapping. Sheesh. Luckily, my daughter wasn't home. Then again around 8 pm. Then again around 11:30-- all marathons. Wow. My honeymoon wasn't even that spectacular.
My daughter is 7. I have had snippets of conversation about where babies come from with her. BUT-- I have no idea how to respond to her when she asks about all that noise. She will be concerned thinking someone is hurt and that I should call the police or an ambulance. She will ask me more about the F-word that I told her we do not use. And she may think that sex is a painful and bad thing if she hears the marathon wailing and crying.
Really, I feel I need to have some good answers ready for her. And... if I can figure out which apartment it is, maybe I should say something to the occupants, even with a kind note?? I have no doubt other neighbors may already be thinking along the same lines, but they don't have small children like I do. Thank you for any advice or suggestions you may have for age-appropriate things I can tell my little one.
See the comedian in me would just tape record them and slip it quietly under their door!!! Can you imagine how embarrassed they would be if they knew EVERYONE could hear them....
Peace and Blessings,
T. B
Call the apartment manager.
If you hear slapping and crying, I think you need to call the police.
That might make the point. ;)
call the apartment manager.
khairete
S.
I have had to deal with this before. Our downstairs neighbors were like this. I called the apartment manager and told them what was going on and they took care of it. Use them, that's what they are there for.
Sorry about that, a couple lady friends came over and we were just getting re-acquianted.
Won't happen again.
Oh...umm...It might again on Saturday morning. I like to cook breakfast and then we all...
Anyway, just Saturday morning and then that'll be it.
Maybe this is one for the apartment manager. If you can hear this from another building, it's way too loud.
I would talk to the apt management. Let them know what is going on and if they don't do anything about it then call the cops. I know when we had issues with our neighbors I spoke the the police and they said if it was past a certain time to call and they would come out and give a warning and if they got called out again then they would be given a ticket but that's in TX. But that also was not for vulgarity. That was just for noise.
I would call management & let them know. They can be the ones to let them know they are too loud & bothering other residents. This way your name doesn't have to be included.
Also, if it was after 10pm and I was hearing cursing, etc. I would call the police. Explain that you hear screaming & cursing & can't tell if a physical fight is going on or what!
I sort of have a funny story related to this. We were at a small family picnic with our family and two others from the apartment that we lived in. We were all talking and one of the couples was talking about how loud their neighbors were. They did not know that it was the other couple that they were talking about, but I think the couple knew.
You could do something like that. Have them and a few friends over for dinner. When everyone is happy and conversing and no kids are in the room. You can ask them, "Hey...have you ever heard our neighbors? I can't figure out which one it is, but they are loud! Do you think I should talk to them?" Maybe they will get the hint.
Tell her she needs to keep her windows closed.
I would contact the manager of the building and ask her/him to speak to them. If that gets you nothing then contact the police.
If that does nothing record her and take the recording to her and play it for her. Explain that it was recorded in your apartment and there are small children around and you would like her to keep it down or close the windows.
If your daughter asks tell her they are playing.
"DD, people make lots of noises for all kinds of reasons - it is not polite to eavesdrop on our neighbors, even if it is inevitable to hear them... it is polite to close our window or occupy ourselves."
I don't think you need to do much explaining other than what to do in a situation were we overhear something not intended for our ears.
If they are loud enough for you to hear them across the street I would call the police and report a disturbance. If you hear crying and wailing who knows what's really going on... AND I bet the embarrassment alone should quiet them and compel them to close their windows.
Good luck!
Totally slip a kind note under their door requesting a quieter demeanor, you could even say your family have been hearing "a private noise" coming from their apt which should be kept PRIVATE. They should get it.
I would have my husband go over and knock on the door, for starters, to let them know that the entire complex can hear their escapades. I'd call the management to let them know next if it doesn't stop. The third step is the call the police and maybe then they'll quiet down. Kids or not, who wants to hear that BS?
K. B
mom to 5 including triplets
Office manager if it just sound like sex. Police if it sounds like violence.
Don't go near their apartment......they could be dangerous. If the problem persists, make a complaint to the police and/or the apartment manager.
As for your child, just keep teaching her right from wrong. Your daughter probably realizes these people aren't treating each other or the neighbors right.
I'll be completely honest, I had to look up the word amorous...
As far as your question, I got nothing.... :(
How can you hear it from another building? If you have your windows open plan A should be shutting them at the first sound.
I would call the police! BUT I would not tell them anything other than you suspect domestic violence!!
They seriously may not realize just how loud they are. If the police show up at their door they would hopefully be so embarrassed they would tone it down!
Years ago when I lived in an apartment I had a similar circumstance except we shared a BEDROOM wall!! I used to put my stereo speaker up against the bedroom wall and blast it! He finally got the message and toned it down!
As for your daughter - I would just keep saying "they're fighting and we need to ignore them."
Good luck!
Are you sure there isn't any prostitution going on?
Are there a lot of cars coming and going?
You need to start making some noise complaints.
Do not approach them yourself.
If your other neighbors want to complain as well, you should all do it together both to management and to the police if it's late enough to be disturbing the peace.
.someone must be reading 50 shades of grey, hehe couldn't resist.
Maybe try playing some music or hanging out somewhere else if at all possible, if she does hear it could you pass it off as a deaf neighbor watching a really loud movie???
I hope they move or break up soon.
I'd approach your apartment manager, she/he has probably handled this in the past.
I've made mention of this to some of my "passionate" tenants before, they usually move their bed to an opposing wall.... and I think it being known that they are being heard quiets them down a notch.
I agree about police if you suspect domestic violence, or the manager about excessive noise. Tell your daughter they have a very loud TV and you wish they would turn it down. Unless you know them, I wouldn't approach them yourself. Get the other neighbors involved too - a group complaint carries more weight. Doesn't matter if they have kids - no one wants to hear that stuff.
If you hear then when your daughter is home, turn up the tv or put on some music. Or you could call the police and tell them you hear screaming and cursing and think someone is getting attacked. A visit fron the police might shut them up. Or pound on the wall yourself and yell keep.it down Ive got kids over here. Better yet go over and bang on the door then tell then to be quiet. They probably have no idea people can hear everything.
